To say no to a dog after what happened?

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We recently moved to a home that now has a proper garden and DH said it would be nice to get a dog now the kids are at Uni. But neither of us have had a dog, so we are taking our time exploring the idea.

A friend of mine was going on holiday for a week, so we decided to look after her dog - a lovely Cavapoo. She gave us good instructions, the food and everything. So this lunchtime, we went to the local park for our first walk and DH was so excited about it. All was going well until the dog did a number 2. I was surprised that DH said, he was going to do it. I was already dubious because DH has a weak stomach, but since he wants a dog, I figured he should practice. I gave the bag to DH to deal with it and walked away with the dog - to leave him be. 30 seconds later I turn around - he is holding the bag out at arms length calling my name, he then went completely pale and started vomiting like he was in the exorcist - still holding the bag at arms length.

DH has always had a weak stomach when it comes to all things poo. He changed the DCs nappies only handful of times, because EVERY time he puked immediately after. He once puked because we parked under a tree and the windscreen had so much bird poo on it. He even puked when DCs were just teasing him by talking about poo graphically.

However despite all this, he still wants a dog. He says he will just practice until he doesn't vomit. I have said no. AIBU?

No. It will become your job.

He was literally vomiting? Or retching? How does he deal with his own poo?

😂

Honestly when you have a dog, picking up poo is not the worst thing you have to do.

Everything will be on you.

Dogs bring so much joy, I couldn't be without mine. I guess it depends if you don't mind and is the payoff worth it for the dog.

and when your dog eats another dogs poo then vomits poo vomit, then licks its own balls and arse then comes in for a mouth kiss with him - will he vomit then ?

You'll end up cleaning all the dog mess, then cleaning your husband's vomit when he reacts to the dog poo/sick/fox poo smell/etc.

Hard no!

He couldn't get over his phobia enough to change his own children's nappies? YADNBU.

Your dog is going to do its own poo’s, roll in other animals poo, possibly eat poo and many more inconvenient and disgusting things. If you husband isn’t going to help out then you only say yes to a dog knowing you have no right to moan about dealing with it all as you knew what you were signing up for

He needs to practice first, then get the dog! Otherwise its a big risk on your part.

If you get a dog then yes the poos and so the walks will become your responsibility!

Don't get a breed that is a ' roller!' My boy has rolled in dead rat / sheep carcass (he got in it) dead fish / fox poo - he thinks that's Chanel No. 5
The worse was human poo(at the local park not mine - I cried at that one)

He changed the DCs nappies only handful of times, because EVERY time he puked immediately after.
However despite all this, he still wants a dog. He says he will just practice until he doesn't vomit.

1. Why didn't he "practice until he doesn't vomit" when changing your children's nappies?
2. Does he think a dog's shit will somehow be nicer than a child's?
3. Does he love a mythical dog more than the person who had to change every nappy because he couldn't cope?

There was a thread once, 'whats the worst thing your pet has done' and a lot of them were disgusting things that dogs had eaten, brought home or rolled in.

My thoughts exactly he couldn't do it for his children he won't do it for a dog.

Also in my experience cleaning up Dog poo is much much worse than changing a babies nappy.

Are you happy to become Mrs Poo? If not, don’t get a dog.

Dog vomit is worse than dog poo.
Join borrowmy doggy and look after other people's dogs until he either picks up dog poo without vomiting or you don't get a dog.

He's has years to get hypnotherapy to get over this but hasn't and I suspect it's mostly just an excuse and he wields it like a get out of jail free card.

Don't get a dog.

Ya definitely not bu! Dogs are lovely but disgusting both in and outside the house 🤣. How would he deal with house training a puppy? Diarrhoea accidents in the house etc. ALL the work would fall to you.

No way to a dog. You'll be the one who ends up looking after it.

I love my dog, but he is a disgusting fucker. He rolls in fox shit, eats cat shit then tries to kiss me, trod his own poo into the house, Vomited what I can only assume was another animal's poo onto the living room rug, the list goes on. if you can't cope with poo don't get a dog. No fucking way.

My old lab regularly ate grass, vommed it up and then ate the vom. Plus rolled in fox poo, which is the absolute worst. This post has made me LOL because I have a pathetically puerile and scatalogical SOH. Poo and vom hold no fears for me, but I’d say you definitely should not get a dog until he’s got over this coprophobia.

Oh god, the grass eating....always a bad sign. Either he vomits it up or shits it out partially digested. Also the time he rolled on a dead seagull. Dogs are rank, I'm not sure why I love him so much 😂

Took the words right out of my mouth!!

If he didn't manage to 'practise' enough to stop throwing up when it came to changing nappies, he's not going to do it with dog poo either.

I would that picking up shit is not the only gross element of dog ownership. Dogs also frequently eat other animals' shit, and/or roll in it. Some dogs also throw up a lot. There is no guarantee that they will not try to re-eat what they've just regurgitated. Sometimes, what they have regurgitated is in fact some shit they've eaten.

Also, some dogs have to have their anal glands emptied.

Oh and our Westie once rolled in the remains of a rotting and bloated dead cat. It had drowned in a stream and then the water level had dropped to nothing over the next couple of weeks so it was exposed on the stream bed. I was a teenager at the time and had sole care of her for the week. I obviously bathed her but I couldn't get the smell out of her collar and had to walk to the pet shop the next day to buy her a new one. I am not at all squeamish but bloody hell, that was grim.

So yeah, I'd say best avoided if those re the sorts of things your DH can't handle.

If he wouldn't get over it to change his own kids' nappies, there's absolutely no chance he'll get over it for a putative dog. Moreover, as others have said, dog poo is FAR worse than baby/toddler poo AND dogs do all sorts of disgusting things. I love my dog but she's got some nasty habits.

You need to stand firm here, OP - because if you don't, you'll be doing everything for the dog.