Those friends you sort of feel you need to prove something to

[WhathappenedtoLeo]

Anyone have one of those or felt the same way?

I’m so not a competitive person, always happy for other people/friends and am happy and content with my own life.

However, I have one old friend, who I don’t see v often as she moved back home from where we were living and for some reason, I want her to notice my lovely pics, friends, life, child etc…when really I’ve never felt like this before with anyone.
She was a good friend but did give out an underlying feeling of being above you (other friends have said the same)
Shes very beautiful, high up in her job now…all great, I honestly, genuinely have never felt any jealousy about her etc

So what is this all about? This almost wanting to have her feeling envious of my life.
She hasn’t been the greatest of friends to me in the last few years and I definitely feel it became very unbalanced and I was a better friend to her, does it come from
this? I generally accept friendships move on naturally sometimes and am ok with this and have a lovely group of pals
Why am I trying to prove something to her?

I think it’s quite normal to feel how you do because she is smug and thinks she’s above you.

You’ll find a lot of people (female and male) have to have a pecking order, and they like to be at the top of the tree. In their eyes, that is.

What do you get out of this friendship? To me it is like standing under a tap dripping water on my head and trying to find ways to stop it dripping instead of just stepping away or calling a plumber

It feels a bit victim mentality ish

@WandaWonder Yes I think it’s probably time to knock it on the head