SIL and FIL present.

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My FIL is hard to buy for, we've done all 'grandad' gifts to death. I saw this on Etsy (photo attached) and thought it would be a good gift. I added all grandchildren's names including 2 of my SIL's (husband's sister) and ordered it. Husband and kids gave it to him yesterday as I was at work. He loved it, thanked husband and when told I'd ordered it thanked me.
Before anyone starts on the 'wife work' comments just want to add my husband does so much for me and us and I spotted this and thought I'd take any pressure off him.

Anyway here is the AIBU, my SIL has texted my husband and complained that her kids don't support that team and that we're using her kids on our gift and shouldn't have basically. I think it's the team that has pissed her off. She supports another team.

Is she petty or AIBU?

She'd also have complained if her kids were missed off.

Me, my DB & DSIS all support different teams, none of us would be impressed with this tbh

I would have hated if you had done that "on my behalf" - and I don't even care about football! It comes across as quite presumptuous to assume that all 9 kids are going to be happy to have their names attached to something that very obviously indicates that they support a particular football team. In my case, my kids didn't care about football at all so would have been mystified while some of their cousins would have been upset/annoyed as they supported other teams. I think it's the kind of gift that should have been mentioned to the parents of the other grandchildren and if everyone was in agreement, could have been a present from everyone.

She has little to worrying about in life if she's making an issue out something like this.

I really wish we could go back to a time where people weren't always trying to fund a way to offended or angry.

It was a nice gesture OP.
Her issues are her issues. Don't entertain them.

As a Celtic fan I would be livid if you put my name on anything associated with Rangers.

my DH is a Rangers fan and would feel the same about Celtic 😂😂😂

I am amazed someone can take offence at that. Better to have included them then not. Sounds a great pressie. Well done and ignore her, just say right o!

She's bonkers. As a pp poster said it will be in fils house not a billboard for all to see. Also if you'd put everybody else kids and left hers out she'd be miffed. Did I say she's bonkers.

I’d be absolutely horrified to see my DD’s name on a Tottenham shirt, as would she!

See, to me this seems really weird. When i gift something from the grandkids i usually include all. I imagine my poor parents having to hang up stuff from each grandkid separately 🤣
Of course we do some stuff separately, but with lots of things i include all grandkids and my siblings do too.

It's a nice thought, OP, but something generic is the way forward.

My DH and son would absolutely hate being on a Tottenham shirt.

Football is very emotive.

I think what you did is lovely. Maybe she’s slightly jealous because you gave such a lovely and thoughtful gift. Your fil was happy with it so that’s the important thing.

Of course you were right to add all of the grand children. It would be so rude to leave them off it. It's fil's team, so it's perfectly fine. Your sil is being very silly.

Boo you!

This is an example of you trying to do something nice that ended up offending someone. You aren't the baddie. Sorry it's upset people.

Your SIL is being a pain... I'd be upset if one of my daughters just put her boys names on something for me their Granny and missed my other Grandson name off..
They always put all the Grandsons names on.. and l have plenty of plaques / memory books etc with all my Grandsons names on.
It's a very very lovely thoughtful gift .
No need for any apologies.

I wouldn't be happy either. Football is pretty territorial and I'd be gutted to be associated with Spurs 😏

It was a mistake so you weren't to know though.

You meant well and please take that from this situation (although I'd be equally appalled ha ha!). I agree it's super hard to buy gifts for some people and you tried!

My husband has just reminded me that last year on holiday he bought all the kids this football top and they all wore them one day. They've actually got the photo up on their downstairs loo. Maybe I just took it a step too far

My SiL made my mum a Christmas present with photos of my kids she'd taken from Facebook without checking with me first. It felt a bit weird to have not even been asked, so I do see your SIL's point.

However, I haven't mentioned it and she probably shouldn't have either.

Make them wear the tops next time you see sil....

I wouldn't care, however my kids would be furious to see their names on a rivals kit !

People are odd and easily offended. Lesson learnt and let DH sort all future gifts !

It’s just a bit of cardboard, SIL is a fucking whack job!

Why? As long as Fil likes the gift SIL can fuck off.

She’s just annoyed she didn’t think of it.

You should have asked before putting their names on anything. You should not be giving gifts on their behalf.

It wasn't on their behalf at all.

I'd be horrified to see my name on the equivalent shirt here which would be a P*rtsmouth one.

It would massively cross the line.

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