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Desk and office given away

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Proseccoprincess33 · 01/02/2024 13:53

I am due to return to work following maternity leave next month. I am anxious about going back but this has been further intensified by the fact my office has been given away during my time off. This has been my office for 5 years. Not only has it been given away permanently but I have not been allocated another office or even a desk. I only became aware of this because some colleagues alerted me to it and I then contacted my manager to discuss it.

She is off site and very hands off so we rarely see her if at all. In fact I have never met her. So had I not been given this heads up by my colleagues I would have been coming into work to see my office and desk occupied and no place for me to sit on my first day back.

I am part of a multidisciplinary team and I manage one of the departments. Therefore having my own desk and office is so important to supervise staff and the nature of our work is very sensitive so privacy is a vital. But at this stage I'd settle for a desk of my own.

I am having a meeting with my manager about this very soon and have found out she has invited 2 very senior managers along also which is intimidating and not helpful to the anxiety I am experiencing. I think she fears I will be very unhappy and so has her reinforcements ready to tell me tough sh1t.

Her solution so far has been that they'll slot me into a desk somewhere when other staff are off....ie hot desking.

AIBU that I am so upset about this and want to fight for a resolution? Any advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation would be much appreciated.

Thank you 😊

OP posts:
Mummyoflittledragon · 16/02/2024 06:52

I hope that means your manager is having a think about how to approach the situation.

Proseccoprincess33 · 16/02/2024 21:08

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/02/2024 06:52

I hope that means your manager is having a think about how to approach the situation.

@Mummyoflittledragon unfortunately I would very much doubt that. She has conjunctivitis and so couldn't attend the online meeting. So rescheduled for next Thurs.

OP posts:
SocksMcR · 16/02/2024 22:38

Proseccoprincess33 · 16/02/2024 21:08

@Mummyoflittledragon unfortunately I would very much doubt that. She has conjunctivitis and so couldn't attend the online meeting. So rescheduled for next Thurs.

Conjunctivitis? That's pretty weak sauce. Perhaps they've gone to a lawyer, and the lawyer has said "yeah you're screwed"... and so when you have the meeting, everything will have MIRACULOUSLY resolved itself. 🙄 I hope so, anyway.

But seriously, get yourself out of there. What ridiculously unprofessional behaviour.

IncompleteSenten · 16/02/2024 22:42

That's a hell of a bad case of conjunctivitis that she's infectious through a webcam.

Trez1510 · 16/02/2024 22:58

IncompleteSenten · 16/02/2024 22:42

That's a hell of a bad case of conjunctivitis that she's infectious through a webcam.

Potential infection (of others) is not the sole concern when someone has conjunctivitis.

As will all conditions/ailments there are gradients of symptoms and impacts on the individual.**

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 17/02/2024 00:24

IncompleteSenten · 16/02/2024 22:42

That's a hell of a bad case of conjunctivitis that she's infectious through a webcam.

In fairness, I can't see properly when I get it.

ScottishWaylander · 18/02/2024 19:42

Good luck OP. Rooting for you!

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 21/02/2024 19:52

Hope tomorrow goes well.

elfies · 21/02/2024 23:20

Good Luck for tomorrow , I hope it goes well and the result is in your favour, please keep us updated x

Proseccoprincess33 · 22/02/2024 23:09

Hello all, I am happy to report that the meeting went well. My manager had thought about what I had said and has done some shuffling about and has secured myself and the woman I'll be job sharing with an office space to ourselves.

So it has thankfully ended well and I am actually looking forward to returning to work now. Thank you all for your insight and support. It was and is very much appreciated 😃

I hope this post helps anyone that's in a similar situation to realise that they are NOT being unreasonable and gives them the confidence to challenge any unfair decision making in the work place xx

OP posts:
Mumma1822 · 22/02/2024 23:15

Yayyyy I’m so glad it worked out well for you!!!

Proseccoprincess33 · 22/02/2024 23:30

Mumma1822 · 22/02/2024 23:15

Yayyyy I’m so glad it worked out well for you!!!

Thank you 😊😊😊

OP posts:
RhiannonTheRed · 22/02/2024 23:54

Brilliant news OP, been waiting for this update! Really happy for you!

CatLevelCare · 23/02/2024 00:08

Well done. That must've been a worry. Glad it's sorted.

Mummyoflittledragon · 23/02/2024 03:55

That is brilliant news. Well done for advocating for yourself and good luck with your return to work!

Newestname002 · 23/02/2024 05:13

@Proseccoprincess33

Glad the meeting went well and that your manager has had second thoughts and saw the situation as it really was. A shame you had to go through this in the first place but great to have such a positive ending. 🌹

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 23/02/2024 06:56

Well done for remaining calm and professional. I'm glad you have a good outcome.

Wouldyouguess · 23/02/2024 07:35

I am happy to read about the positive resolution of this and I seriously hope HR 'experts' on this thread like @RosesAndHellebores came back to read the update and maybe learned that you can prioritise actual people being in the role, and that it is not just about finding solutiuons how to screw people over to maximise profit for the higher management.

GRex · 23/02/2024 07:52

Proseccoprincess33 · 22/02/2024 23:09

Hello all, I am happy to report that the meeting went well. My manager had thought about what I had said and has done some shuffling about and has secured myself and the woman I'll be job sharing with an office space to ourselves.

So it has thankfully ended well and I am actually looking forward to returning to work now. Thank you all for your insight and support. It was and is very much appreciated 😃

I hope this post helps anyone that's in a similar situation to realise that they are NOT being unreasonable and gives them the confidence to challenge any unfair decision making in the work place xx

Did the manager explicitly say she "thought about what [you] said"? Or had a different office already been identified, but you don't want to lose face here by admitting you'd jumped the gun based on remarks from colleagues who didn't know the plan?

ScottishWaylander · 23/02/2024 08:40

GRex · 23/02/2024 07:52

Did the manager explicitly say she "thought about what [you] said"? Or had a different office already been identified, but you don't want to lose face here by admitting you'd jumped the gun based on remarks from colleagues who didn't know the plan?

Such an unkind comment.

ClaudiaWankleman · 23/02/2024 09:39

GRex · 23/02/2024 07:52

Did the manager explicitly say she "thought about what [you] said"? Or had a different office already been identified, but you don't want to lose face here by admitting you'd jumped the gun based on remarks from colleagues who didn't know the plan?

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IncompleteSenten · 23/02/2024 10:11

Glad your manager realised you need a private space.

T1Dmama · 23/02/2024 12:25

Great news 🥰

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 23/02/2024 13:10

GRex · 23/02/2024 07:52

Did the manager explicitly say she "thought about what [you] said"? Or had a different office already been identified, but you don't want to lose face here by admitting you'd jumped the gun based on remarks from colleagues who didn't know the plan?

Why so unpleasant?

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 23/02/2024 13:11

Great news, @Proseccoprincess33! Enjoy the rest of your maternity leave.

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