Would you assume someone fancied you if

[Luckofthedraw97]

Met them in September. on the school run they

1. Run fast to catch up with you and walk and talk after drop off
2. Come and stand with you even after dropping their child off (there child is year above) and I was still waiting in play ground with mine but they came to stand with me and chat

Weird question but one of the other school mums thinks he fancies me because of this and I just think he’s being nice. What would you think?

If he's singling you out from rest of the mums then yes I'd say he maybe does.....or he's using you as a safety thing. Are you both single?

If it's just general chat I'd assume he finds you easy company

I’d assume you were friends

I think it depends on whether you're both single. If so then yes I think he likes you and fancies you.

No, I'd assume this person just liked my company and wasn't in a rush to get anywhere, and wanted to chat.

Is he one of the only dads? He may find you one of the friendly mums who is actually nice to him.

He might fancy you, but perhaps he just likes your company and enjoys talking to you. I dont buy into the 'men and women can't be friends ' bollocks. There are lots of men that I enjoy chatting to and spending time with, who I don't fancy.

Maybe he just enjoys chatting with you? If he were another mum, would the others presume that she fancied you? Probably not.

It would depend mainly on how attractive I was generally. If I was the sort of woman who men regularly fancied, then probably. If I was the sort of woman who men were rarely attracted to, then I'd assume he was just being friendly. If I was somewhere in between, then it could go either way, so I'd need to see some signs, subtle flirting etc before I drew a conclusion. I'd also consider things like his own attractiveness and the pool we were in (how likely he would be to single me out) our relative ages, if he was generally just a friendly type or an attention seeker etc.

I don't think it's enough to go on to be honest. Are they flirty or just friendly?

No, I wouldn't assume anyone just being friendly to me fancied me. Many, many men and women have struck up random conversations with me and the vast majority have not fancied me.

Obviously if they did fancy me, striking up a casual friendship would be the first step for them. But it could also just be a casual friendship with someone you like chatting to. If it was the former they'll presumably make an actual move at some point and you can cross that bridge when you come to it.

I would just assume he was a friend. If it was a mum doing this you wouldn’t think any more of it?

Just to add, I wouldn’t want to be in any kind of relationship with any parent in the playground, it’s a bit icky and everyone would be talking about you not to mention the gossip when it all goes wrong. Seen it happen before, single dad dated several mums from the playground, didn’t know who was going to be next or what drama would come with it 😬.

Who initiated the first conversation and how?

I wouldn’t assume he fancied me but I wouldn't rule it out ( and if I wanted to date him it would be no one else’s business )

No and sounds like they are winding you up

Depends what the chat is? If general life stuff, then you're a safe mum pal to pass time with, if it's deep gazing into your eyes and winking at you and flirty banter with light touching (moves fluff from your coat) then he's into you.

I'd need the latter to be very very clear before assuming this.

Is the other parent commenting mixing it up? Stirring away for entertainment?

No, I’d assume he was a friend, or a potential friend. Our architect had a son in DS’s class, we got talking if we coincided at drop-offs, and he’s now a good friend, although his DS moved schools not long afterwards.

No I'd assume you were friends.

If a woman acted in the same way would you assume she fancied you?

Are you both single ? I'd say he definitely likes you if so ..

If you are both married it's a bit much / creepy

Some folks really think a man and woman can’t be friends, it always needs to be sexual. It is far from true.

No, this just sounds friendly to me.

By all accounts (and from what I've seen), the school playground can be quite an intimidating environment for dads, so it's likely that - being a nice person who's willing to talk to him without sideways glances etc - you've become his safe place.

Of course, it could be that he fancies you too, but I doubt it would've started there.

I have one like this, not on the school run but another group situation. Everyone else seems to think there's something going on between us, but I think I'm just a safe place for him.

I'm pretty sure he like me more than he likes the others, but I haven't had any indication that he fancies me, just sees me as a comfortable friend.

Yep, happened to me with a friend's husband whose behaviour started like this and got more and more weird. Declared his love over text, which was a mistake. I felt like I was in a soap.