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Would you assume someone fancied you if

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Luckofthedraw97 · 31/01/2024 09:08

Met them in September. on the school run they

  1. Run fast to catch up with you and walk and talk after drop off
  2. Come and stand with you even after dropping their child off (there child is year above) and I was still waiting in play ground with mine but they came to stand with me and chat

Weird question but one of the other school mums thinks he fancies me because of this and I just think he’s being nice. What would you think?

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Luckofthedraw97 · 31/01/2024 11:56

Ok sorry for the drip feed.

Ive never met him before September but I was speaking to somebody in the playground that he knows and he was stood near then we all just got chatting.

For the people that were asking, I’m single but he isn’t and sometimes he is actually with his partner doing the school run but more often than not it’s just him. If they are together then every time on the way out of the school gates he will stand and chat with me whilst his partner walks ahead in front and I think she gets annoyed. I’ve noticed her pull faces when he says hello to me in the mornings if we happen to just pass e.g I’m the way out and they’re just coming in

I left quickly the other day and as I was leaving through the gates I noticed him running up behind me and he wanted to chat whilst we walked to our cars. I’m not particularly close with his partner but he said I could give her my number which I didn’t really understand

I was just asking what people would think as my friend who I’m sometimes with on the school run has apparently noticed him looking at me and when I’ve not been with her has seen him come up to chat to me and says she thinks he fancies me

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ntmdino · 31/01/2024 12:02

Luckofthedraw97 · 31/01/2024 11:56

Ok sorry for the drip feed.

Ive never met him before September but I was speaking to somebody in the playground that he knows and he was stood near then we all just got chatting.

For the people that were asking, I’m single but he isn’t and sometimes he is actually with his partner doing the school run but more often than not it’s just him. If they are together then every time on the way out of the school gates he will stand and chat with me whilst his partner walks ahead in front and I think she gets annoyed. I’ve noticed her pull faces when he says hello to me in the mornings if we happen to just pass e.g I’m the way out and they’re just coming in

I left quickly the other day and as I was leaving through the gates I noticed him running up behind me and he wanted to chat whilst we walked to our cars. I’m not particularly close with his partner but he said I could give her my number which I didn’t really understand

I was just asking what people would think as my friend who I’m sometimes with on the school run has apparently noticed him looking at me and when I’ve not been with her has seen him come up to chat to me and says she thinks he fancies me

Well, it sounds to me like he just enjoys your company. Also that his partner's deeply suspicious, and he's trying to convince her there's nothing to it.

newyearnewknees · 31/01/2024 12:14

It wouldn't even cross my mind. I would just assume I was one of the school parents that they preferred to pass the time with during a mundane part of the day

Getonnow · 31/01/2024 13:17

If he was the least bit interested in anything other than a chat at the school gates, he'd act like he barely recognised you when his partner is around. Also if he's a chatter and she's more introverted, she's more likely to be annoyed that they're not making progress towards home, than because she thinks he fancies you.

His suggestion re phone number is probably because he thinks his wife needs some school mum friends or because he'd like you to arrange meet ups for DC.

Sporty2024 · 07/02/2025 21:40

Sorry to hijack the thread.I’ve name changed but just come across this thread, I’m aware there’s many similar threads to this with school playground parents situations.
This is actually a role reversal one. I’m a guy who’s married and also don’t school run but not always due to work. There is a particular mum who I talk to, sometime she will initiate a hello, a smile, sometimes I’ll initiate it. I don’t know her well as such but I know her name and she lives a few roads away from me,although I don’t know her outside of school.

I genuinely like her company, she’s the only mum that I chat to. My daughter is in reception, as is hers.

We both attended a school time assembly last week , I offered gave her a lift home afterwards , likewise I did yesterday because I literally go past her house after drop off. She doesn’t drive.

Shes single I’m married , my question is will she think I fancy her? Because I chat to her and offer her a lift home now and then?..

I have no ulterior motive , I think she’s pleasant to chat too, she’s attractive but then are so many other school mums.

I just wonder if I’m giving her the impression I fancy her, I don’t want to cause embarrassment in the school for anyone.

In terms of do I fancy her, as I said our children are friends , I enjoy chatting to her and I offer to give her a lift home now and then because I literally drive past her house .

If you was her would you think I fancy her ? Or just two adults having a chat?

AnglepoisePond · 07/02/2025 23:11

@Sporty2024, I would think that a grown man obsessing about whether a fellow-parent at the school gate thought he fancied her, on the basis of the occasional lift, was tragically juvenile, and had no conception of any opposite-sex relationships that weren’t overtly or covertly sexual.

Sporty2024 · 07/02/2025 23:20

AnglepoisePond · 07/02/2025 23:11

@Sporty2024, I would think that a grown man obsessing about whether a fellow-parent at the school gate thought he fancied her, on the basis of the occasional lift, was tragically juvenile, and had no conception of any opposite-sex relationships that weren’t overtly or covertly sexual.

Ok I take your point but Mumsnet is full of threads like this so I don’t see how me getting a point of view is any different to anyone else who creates something similar.
Im not obsessing, I just wondered how I may be perceived. Perhaps my thread seems juvenile, it’s more to do with the fact that she’s the only mum that I talk to.

AnglepoisePond · 07/02/2025 23:22

Sporty2024 · 07/02/2025 23:20

Ok I take your point but Mumsnet is full of threads like this so I don’t see how me getting a point of view is any different to anyone else who creates something similar.
Im not obsessing, I just wondered how I may be perceived. Perhaps my thread seems juvenile, it’s more to do with the fact that she’s the only mum that I talk to.

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Well, talk to other people too, if you’re that concerned about the optics?

PennyApril54 · 07/02/2025 23:24

Maybe... it's hard to know for sure. Id be paying attention to body language, eye contact etc

PennyApril54 · 07/02/2025 23:29

Sorry I just saw your update. If he has a partner then I think there's probably nothing in this. Maybe I'm naive but I wouldn't take these small interactions as flirty esp from someone with a partner , id just think he's friendly .

Wemaybebetterstrangers · 07/02/2025 23:31

No. He’s just being a friendly civilised human being.

IdaPrentice · 07/02/2025 23:35

AnglepoisePond · 07/02/2025 23:11

@Sporty2024, I would think that a grown man obsessing about whether a fellow-parent at the school gate thought he fancied her, on the basis of the occasional lift, was tragically juvenile, and had no conception of any opposite-sex relationships that weren’t overtly or covertly sexual.

what an incredibly nasty reply

LenaLamont · 08/02/2025 09:52

If you was her would you think I fancy her ? Or just two adults having a chat?

If I were her, @Sporty2024, no, I wouldn’t think some bloke fancied me because he talked to me and gave me a lift.

Probably because I’m an adult and a parent, so I’ve got more going on in my head than imagining whether anyone has a crush on me like a teenager.

KimberleyClark · 08/02/2025 10:03

IdaPrentice · 07/02/2025 23:35

what an incredibly nasty reply

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Isn’t it just. I assume this poster also thinks the OP obsessing about whether a fellow-parent at the school fancies her, on the basis of the occasional chat, is also tragically juvenile, and has no conception of any opposite-sex relationships that aren’t overtly or covertly sexual.

Nobodyknowsitall · 08/02/2025 10:09

Sporty2024 · 07/02/2025 21:40

Sorry to hijack the thread.I’ve name changed but just come across this thread, I’m aware there’s many similar threads to this with school playground parents situations.
This is actually a role reversal one. I’m a guy who’s married and also don’t school run but not always due to work. There is a particular mum who I talk to, sometime she will initiate a hello, a smile, sometimes I’ll initiate it. I don’t know her well as such but I know her name and she lives a few roads away from me,although I don’t know her outside of school.

I genuinely like her company, she’s the only mum that I chat to. My daughter is in reception, as is hers.

We both attended a school time assembly last week , I offered gave her a lift home afterwards , likewise I did yesterday because I literally go past her house after drop off. She doesn’t drive.

Shes single I’m married , my question is will she think I fancy her? Because I chat to her and offer her a lift home now and then?..

I have no ulterior motive , I think she’s pleasant to chat too, she’s attractive but then are so many other school mums.

I just wonder if I’m giving her the impression I fancy her, I don’t want to cause embarrassment in the school for anyone.

In terms of do I fancy her, as I said our children are friends , I enjoy chatting to her and I offer to give her a lift home now and then because I literally drive past her house .

If you was her would you think I fancy her ? Or just two adults having a chat?

Do you fancy her? It seems like you do otherwise why would you be giving this a second thought.

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