To think a sexless relationship can work long term

[sweetieplease]

Relatively sexless. Perhaps twice per year ? Even if baby has been conceived ?
One partner disinterested in sex generally and the other has a strong libido.

One partner disinterested in sex generally and the other has a strong libido.

Nope.

I disagree.

I think it can only work if both have low libido or are asexual.

I think it generally only works if you both have low sex drives

Definitely not. Not unless it's open for the one with a libido.

Of course not

Yes it can work if both partners have low libidos or little interest in sex.

With one person with a high libido, twice a year is just not going to work long term. I don't even consider myself particularly high libido and twice a year would be divorce territory for me.

Honestly Op, this can only lead to resentment.
When there is a lack of intimacy and closeness it’s important to show it in other ways. However, if both parties are not on the same page I can’t see how it would work and it can affect the person with the higher drive resulting in filling the void with someone else or something

The relationship has lasted some six years. Many reasons for it lasting so long.. mostly practical and lack of options and opportunity for both people. A rare intimate moment caused pregnancy. Could this turn things round?

Short term, maybe but it could also lead to more resentment.

Think you both need to compatible.

I don’t think it’d be very happy.
6 years isn’t very long- there’s a real comparability issue here, if it can’t be resolved I don’t think it’s worth saving tbh

No. This will not turn things around and the relationship will not last forever. Person with high libido will eventually cheat and / or leave.

I can’t see why a pregnancy would make them more compatible sexually.

Obviously not

You would both need a v low libido

No point kidding yourself

No

I've been single for over 2 years now despite me not wanting to be in a relationship until my son is at least 16 to 18 due to health waiting for operation and medication I'm on,I have absolutely zero sexual appetite it just wouldn't be fair for them to go without that element of a relationship.

Whilst I agree with some of the pp It can work in the short term if you have an established relationship I think in the long term it might cause issues and resentment.sex is not the be and end all and I never thought I'd be saying this at 43 lol but seriously to many it's an important part of a relationship

We were still having lots of sex six years in. 22 years later not so much, but we still do it.

Babies rarely improve relationships - generally put a lot of strain on it.

Sounds like a disaster, miserable for both people but (arguably) especially miserable for the one with a high drive.

I agree the relationship could well last. Whether or not both parties remained faithful during the relationship is another matter entirely!

My parents have lived as companions for decades but it works for them and they are equals.

A young couple, with mismatched sex drives is never going to work without one or other of them being miserable and life's too short for that.

No. Don't torture each other.

Only if your libidos match.

So are we talking celibacy or an open marriage?

Well people manage having no sex at all, even with a high libido, so it is possible.

But I think there will need to be a reason the people in the relationship want it to succeed. Rather than, nothing better to do.