I am feeling so so so lonely! I have friends nearby, within a 10minute drive but they never want to do anything, ever.
Ive tried to have casual meet ups at least once a month but it ends up being months. I have invited them to mine, coffee shop, restaurants. Ive tried cinema, walks, bowling, theatre, concert, girls night out - they arent interested in doing anything. I ask them what they fancy doing but its nothing. One of them i havent seen since september.
I organised my birthday dinner with them way in advance and the day before they all cancelled, except one who is not well known to my friend group. She even commented and said where are your friends?
My friendship with them has becomr virtual - what i mean is all via social media.
I absolutely respect that they have their own lives and i am not wanting to see them every weekend. They are single, no kids, live 10 mins away so i am not sure why they dont want meet up.
But im getting to the point where i am just fed up of having friends that i never ever see and its making me feel extremely lonely. I actually feel that i have nobody at all to meet up with and feel like i am slipping into depression. I am totally isolated. Ive tried joining evening activities but don't really know how to integrate into these established friendship groups. I get on well with the activity folk but they seem to have made their own group.
I knew a girl and she used to go on tinder dates every weekend and i thought she was mad. She was extremely lonely and depressed, but i understand why she did it now and feel like im slipping into that same way (without tinder).
I guess i am just looking for advice here. As a working adult, how do you go about making friends? I find it so daunting! I am ofcourse going to continue my friendships with my virtual ones but i need to make ones in body!