This candle situation

[SandandSky]

I love a candle, I know I’m not the only one.

keep having the same discussion with DH…

Please do not use my £30 candle to burn of the smell of your morning poo, or the fish you’ve cooked in the pan, leaving the £2 candles (purposefully dotted in convenient places) untouched. I want my posh ones for relaxing/indulging/quiet time.

DH says a candle is a candle

He’s being completely U, right? Reassure me I’m not mad 😂

Love a candle and yes I light my nice costly ones and blow out when I leave the house

But happily leave an Aldi /home bargain s one For dh to light at £3

I've been in places where very expensive candles have been burning. Still can't smell anything, not after a couple of seconds anyway.

Incense does at least actually smell and maintains a scent. I like it!

Still think scented candles are actually fake and nobody wants to admit they can't actually smell them 😂

If a candle is a candle to him then he shouldn’t mind using the cheap ones then should he?

I'm actually impressed that your DH will light candles to cover turd smells!

Loads of people don’t like them! I know this because I have friends who don’t like them and are always asking me if I want candles people have given them as gifts 😁 There’s nothing to understand/see, really - people just like different things.

I do love a quality candle myself, but there are certainly lots of other things that are considered luxuries that I just can’t get excited about.

Been lusting after that - and their linen spray (£56 I think) & surface cleanser. One day

Will look on Vinted for a cheaper one

YANBU and I say that as someone who hates candles. They're dangerous things. But if they're your candles that you bought for your own use or they were presents then they shouldn't be used by anyone else.

Light a match, crunch up a bit of loo roll, set it on fire, drop it in the loo at the last moment. Even cheaper than 80p.
signed, pyro

Just how many candles do you have dotted around the house? How do you rank them?

Omg I used to have a weird fantasy land that I wanted to be rich enough to be able to buy everyone I know fortnum and mason hampers as gifts.

This is now upgraded to wanting to be rich enough to be ok with burning £1000 candles to merge with the smell of 💩

We use air purifiers to keep air clean all the time, much more hygienic, safer, helps stop illnesses spread, and not full of nasty chemicals.

They make me feel sick. All of them. As does incense and those weird sticks that you put in a jar with that liquid in the bottom.

I am not kidding when I say that I'd rather put up with an opened window or the smell of poo.

I really like the candle scents but I will very rarely buy myself one although I'm often gifted them. My issue is that I don't like clutter, We don't really have much space as I've not gotten round to putting any shelves up yet so I always try to burn them off as quick as I can just to have the space back and make the room tidier. I'm a terrible person 🙈

Omg this talk of incense. Love a scented candle (actually prefer wax melts but basically the same) but I swear incense makes it so I can feel the air I’m breathing and gives me one hell of a headache. I can’t even look around a hippy shop for 5 mins without getting a headache from the god awful scent

Seriously, as one of the resident dying people on Mumsnet (I assume there’s more than one of us - I’m just vocal about it), trust me, you don’t suddenly stop being annoyed by shite like this. Sadly, I didn’t turn into a Zen Buddhist monk when I got my diagnosis. I’m sure OP is going to light all her candles and enjoy them before she kicks the bucket, buys the farm, etc. etc. She just wants to actually ENJOY them, not have them lit for piddly arse reasons, like her DH’s powder room toxic air pollution or the Cooking of the Fishes.

I agree it's a waste of the fancy ones to use to cover (blend with!) stinks

It's not as if you never use them so I disagree with "use them for stinks just in case you never use them"

But lighting a match and holding it lit briefly is very effective as bathroom odour removal... so I wouldn't be using any candles in there unless for relaxation.

I reckon OP could persuade her dh to buy one for the kitchen :)

I'd be annoyed too OP.

On the match thing - is that what you do to mask the smell of poo? Just light a match? The man I'm seeing has matches by his toilet and I wondered how that worked (I worked out they were poo related)?

I think so. I always thought they lit one and put it in the loo to go "boom!" When I was smaller

Buy stunt candles - they will reach for the easiest tone to hand .. keep beautiful candle just out of reach
Works every time

One not tone

those weird sticks that you put in a jar with that liquid in the bottom
I can't smell them either. For a second if I turn the sticks the other way round and sniff the end, but there's zero smell actually in the room after that. Pointless things.

yabu to spend £30 on candles.
Use a £2 and spray a bit of airfreshner around!

I’ve been fortunate to never live anywhere without a window in the bathroom / toilet. Doesn’t lighting a scented candle just replace the smell of shit with the smell of perfumed shit? Or does that ‘lighting a match’ thing really work? I can’t imagine perfume combining pleasantly with the smell of cooking fish either.