Do you feel guilty for having a completely chilled weekend?

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I always feel like I should be out and about making the most of not being at work but this weekend I feel knackered want to have a quiet weekend but I feel guilty! If you were do have a chilled weekend what would you be doing?!

I can’t have chilled weekends, I get bored after a couple of hours - love the idea though and would do it if I could 😬

No! I love a chilled weekend not doing much 🙌
No guilt here.

Don't feel guilty at all. Eldest is away at Uni and youngest (17) went away last night, until this evening.

This morning, we'll blast around the house and do a quick clean up (it's clean anyway) and then spend the afternoon drinking a glass or three of something and having the rare chance of it just being the two of us, so we can do what we want.

I could start decorating our bedroom, but that can wait a week or two.

No guilt for me.
I'm an introvert and love being at home relaxing. I work hard and am a single parent to my 3. I do precisely nothing when they go to their dad's every second weekend.
My childhood was one where we had to be out playing rain or shine, or going on walks and doing stuff. No thanks. Home is my happy place.

Chilled here. I need to send off a few emails then I'm going to watch Northern Exposure on the sofa.

It's nice being lazy!

You should only feel guilty for how jealous you've made me 😭

My next chilled weekend is several weekends away. Enjoy it. We are not meant to spend all our days running on a wheel

Oh god don't feel guilty, if you need the rest, you need the rest. I've realised since New Year I've spent most weekends being busy doing something. I've painted my entire downstairs and built a load of new furniture. All while working full time and doing all the day to day crap. I'm knackered so am doing sweet FA this weekend!

Hell no! I love a relaxing couple of days.

Absolutely not.

Some weekends I'm super busy and some I don't leave the flat at all. I live alone so I don't justify my decisions to anyone

You are ‘making the most’ of your weekend if you enjoy doing nothing. Your choices and preferences are valid. There is no benefit to anyone else if you find busy things to do for the sake of it.
I have always struggled with this. Thank you for reminding me I am allowed to have a weekend of aimless pottering 😊Enjoy yours.

No-enjoy your weekend and spend it how you please

Nope. I work full time, have 3dc and have 10 months left of a work-related uni course. But, it took me ages to get to a point of allowing myself to be “lazy”.

When people at work ask what weekend plans are we're always pleased to say 'no plans' or jealous when others say they've got no plans.

So you'd think I wouldn't feel guilty.

And yet. Here I am. 10:20am. All I've achieved today is drinking tea, putting some laundry in and watching last night's Graham Norton.

I'm now in the bath and already the "it's 10am and you're not dressed" guilt has arrived.

Then I feel guilty for the guilt.

So I totally get you OP. Modern life is a bitch.

Doing nothing is my favourite, in bed now after reading the paper with coffee gazing out of the window nowhere to be 💫

Never.

This thread is already making me feel less guilty - so thanks MNers.

I was expecting multiple "I've already been for a run, polished the floors and organised my excel budget for the month"

Not at all.

When people ask ‘what did you get up to at the weekend?’ I often reply ‘nothing’ with a Cheshire Cat grin .

I don’t actually do NOTHING. I usually go to yoga class and for a walk, potter on the house and do chores…but all very leisurely, with plenty of time for reading, telly, baths and naps. I work bloody hard. This is MY time.

Especially at this time of year, I’d rather look after myself and catch up on rest than go out. In the summer I’m much more active and ‘busy’.

I'd love an occasional chilled weekend. DH and I work FT and have lots of work to do on our house, so weekends tend to be very busy. But if I want to lie around on the sofa reading then I feel guilty as DH will be cleaning/DIY/gardening. He can't sit still.

A few years ago we started having beach holidays, which we've never done before as we preferred activity holidays. Now, a week of lying on a sunbed reading a book is pure joy.

Well I'm pretty much retired nowadays (am only 53 though) but I still love a slow weekend.

Meeting my Aunt for coffee & cake in a bit. This afternoon I will be working on my tapestry and drinking tea. Tonight we're out for dinner with DD and her boyfriend.

Tomorrow is a lazy Sunday pub lunch followed by a walk. This is actually a busy weekend for me, come to think of it!

I only feel guilty if I spend the whole time scrolling aimlessly through my phone .. kind of like I'm doing right now!

We have busy weekends all the time but that's because we'd get bored sitting at home, and there are always new things to do and see where we are (London). So I wouldn't feel guilty, more frustrated if we were missing out on doing things by staying in. Some people don't enjoy doing those things though so no point being busy for the sake of it.

A chilled weekend for me would still be doing stuff. Especially in winter. Summer I'm.better at relaxing in the garden or a picnic or something.

Last Sunday was a chill day. Walk locally. Pub for a few glasses. Roast at home. Fire on and a film which I snoozed through (kids film).

Chilled does not need to mean lying about in bed and not getting dressed. It just means not being tied to commitments 24/7. I consider today to be chilled - I am going swimming, meeting my friend for coffee, walking the dog and tonight watching a film.

I definitely try to get out of the house at least for a little bit, other than that, I am quite happy to spend the day drawing or reading.