To think he should've updated me?

[maybeweird]

Been dating a guy for about 2 months We had a long weekend away together last week.

I'm up north now for a family wedding but we've been calling/keeping in touch via text.

He plays a sport and had a huge match yesterday (Thursday) evening. His team are trying to make it to the Olympics eventually so he plays very seriously.

We always keep in touch loads and he's been talking about that upcoming match non-stop over the last week or so.

Wished him luck before the match and he replied. Told him to let me know how it goes. Haven't heard from him since! He didn't even read my last message. I know they drew because he made an IG post about it. He'd have been disappointed with that result.

Am I being horribly self-involved that I'm annoyed he didn't contact me directly to tell me this and didn't even open the message I sent before the game.

I get it's important to him and maybe he's been absorbed in it and getting back to training but it feels really crappy, especially after our nice weekend away last weekend!

Are you saying you haven’t heard from his since yesterday eve?

You weren’t his priority here. You are a girlfriend not life partner or wife. Sorry…

Jesus 🤨

How much contact do you want? Genuine question

He's probably really down about it and doesn't want to talk especially to a relatively recent girlfriend who may not be involved in this bit of his life.

We usually text a few times a day so I was basing it off that!

Correct. He hasn't even opened the message.

It’s a bit early to expect daily contact imo. He’s probably upset and not ready to talk about it. The ig post updated everyone at once without him having to have multiple conversations about it. He probably isn’t ready to share sad/down times with you yet. Don’t take it to heart.

He'll likely be preoccupied with the match/aftermath/rest of the team etc.
This intense text contact that people have now is such a recent addition to negotiating relationships. If I were judged on my texting I'd be fucked.

yea I’d find that a bit odd tbf.

when a guy suddenly changes his energy/the way he communicates, it’s often not a good sign

Yeah this, sorry OP but it seems like he’s pulling back :(

No u wouldn’t… cos you’d consistently be a bad texter so that would be your ‘normal’ and what a guy you’d be dating would naturally expect you to be like. However, If someone suddenly changes their communication style at the beginning of a relationship then that’s different

He's just had a disappointing result. Don't keep badgering him about it. Message him in a few days and if he is still distant them it's something else

Christ 🥴 he’s just preoccupied. Maybe you need to sit and discuss with him what kind of relationship you want re contact etc.

Maybe the not messaging back thing is an issue if you’ve both decided you want to be in a text every day kind of thing.

I wouldn’t care if DH of 6 years didn’t tell me the score of his football match though. In fact I’d be relieved 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think he’s just annoyed by the result and nursing his ego for a couple of days.

I’d not write him off based on that at this point if all else is good, but it’s a pattern I’d keep an eye on in the future.

He's feeling a bit down and doesn't want to bother you with that. You've been going out such a short time, enjoy the good times and let him experience less good times with established friends.

It sounds like the last two months since you got together have been good but intense. It's so important and normal to want to step back and spend time with old friends, slow the pace down a bit and miss each other. This is the best opportunity to do your own thing too, by yourself or with your mates.

The fact he hasn't texted you doesn't mean he's not interested, it's creating healthy breathing space.

He's likely just preoccupied with the game which sounds really important to him. I genuinely do not think this is anything to do with you OP - his head is just elsewhere and understandably at the moment.

Far out maybe he is finding you a bit intense, calm down

So he had a big game which you know was massively important?
He's trying to process and probably working with his team on strategies.
Give him time

What @ButWhatAboutTheBees said

To me, you sound really needy and intense. If I’d been dating someone for two months and they were fretting like this about the fact that I hadn’t texted them specifically to discuss the result of my sporting endeavours on one occasion which I’d already mentioned on social media anyway.

I realise some people expect that kind of thing, but I’d honestly think my partner had lost the plot if he was angsting about something as inconsequential as this.

Those who are basically calling the OP needy or clingy or whatever …are you actually in the dating game ???

cos if you’re not then you won’t understand

when you’re dating someone and you form a pattern of communicating with one another ; whether that’s 1 or 10 texts/calls a day/week, when the communication/energy levels suddenly shift at this stage it often signals the other person is pulling back (and not in a positive way)

you only need to look how many similar ‘ I haven’t heard from him this weekend’ type threads on here turn out to be guys ghosting/met someone else etc etc.

women aren’t stupid.. we have amazing gut instincts/intuition and we KNOW when we are dating something suddenly is off with their energy or communication style.

really saddens me when I see other women call each other unpleasant things such as needy or clingy etc. the bar of men is so low when a guy can’t even do a 10 sec text to say ‘I’m feeling rubbish about the result of the game so I’ll speak to you next week’ or whatever. It’s courteous, kind and respectful