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Boyfriend is such a downer and bore when on food dates

55 replies

pinappl · 25/01/2024 20:01

I think he acts like his dad does expect we've not been married for 30 years

His conversation is so pain. Like today he asked me 4 times how I had no data on my phone and it was my treat to him since he done me a favour how would I pay dinner after I've already told him you don't need data

He taps his foot when food takes too long. We aren't even 30 why would he behave that way I get the older generation behave that way hence his dad but we had no where to be wnd we could just chat to pass time

He starts no conversation. I am always the one to start conversation

He is just a downer in general. I went to paint the bathroom he made a 100 reasons why I shouldn't paint my own bathroom. Then was like is it even bathroom paint? To stop me doing it

I was changing out my hoover and he was like aw is it still broken? Like his first and only comments are so negative. Every single thing is just negative I feel like I have to lift myself up all the time

OP posts:
TeabySea · 25/01/2024 20:02

Why are you in a relationship with him?

Sunnydays0101 · 25/01/2024 20:02

Why are you even with him ??

FusionChefGeoff · 25/01/2024 20:33

Yup, bin him and move on!!

KweenCnut · 25/01/2024 20:45

Old people tap their foot when waiting for food?

pictoosh · 25/01/2024 20:45

So put him aside. Make yourself available to meet someone who is good company.

CadyEastman · 25/01/2024 20:50

His DF doesn't tap his foot because he's on his 50s. He taps his foot because he's impatient and lacks the imagination or inclination to enjoy talking to people around the table whilst he waits.

If his negativity and rudeness is bothering you now, it's going to bother you far more after another 20 years.

I think it's time to move on and find someone who enjoys spending time with you.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/01/2024 20:52

There is no cure for negativity. None. Move on.

Astrak · 25/01/2024 20:54

I think he sounds as if he is very rude and dismissive when he is with you.
I also think it would be a good idea to dump him as soon as possible.

Justcallmebebes · 25/01/2024 20:58

KweenCnut · 25/01/2024 20:45

Old people tap their foot when waiting for food?

Yes, what's that all about? I'm old but don't tap my foot whilst waiting for food. Very little of the OP's post makes any sense at all

Zanatdy · 25/01/2024 20:59

He would drive me mad and I’d be binning him

Maicon · 25/01/2024 21:00

Throw this one back - it doesn't get better!

VeryQuaintIrene · 25/01/2024 21:02

Dump. He doesn't appear to be adding anything to your life.

ElevenSeven · 25/01/2024 21:06

Yep, get rid. He’ll only get worse

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 25/01/2024 21:08

Can you imagine putting up with this for the rest of your life if you are so irritated and bored with him now. He sounds like a pain and you would be better off single and also he thinks he can make you doubt yourself and has to always have a go undermining your decisions. Tell him to feck off and you will paint your own bathroom how and when you please.

TaxiVan · 25/01/2024 21:13

Run for the hills.
Negativity only gets worse and is soooo fucking dull.

HateMyselfToo · 25/01/2024 21:16

Why are you with him if you don't enjoy spending time with him?

Garlicnaan · 25/01/2024 21:18

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/01/2024 20:52

There is no cure for negativity. None. Move on.

There is, but it takes a lot of self awareness and self work.

drspouse · 25/01/2024 21:18

I'm in my 50s and DH is in his 60s. Neither of us would dream of tapping our feet if the food was slow.

Itslegitimatesalvage · 25/01/2024 21:18

You don’t like him. End the relationship and look for something more fulfilling.

missmollygreen · 25/01/2024 21:19

Maybe you are hard to talk to up there on you high horse OP?

ArnieLinson · 25/01/2024 21:20

TaxiVan · 25/01/2024 21:13

Run for the hills.
Negativity only gets worse and is soooo fucking dull.

This. Youre young. Why settle for someone who annoys you.

Wingedharpy · 25/01/2024 21:23

KweenCnut · 25/01/2024 20:45

Old people tap their foot when waiting for food?

Aye - of course they do.
That Michael Flattley fella is a bugger for it😉

Lavender14 · 25/01/2024 21:24

I think to be fair op, you're both young, you're not married so not overly committed in finances and the legal sense... what positives does he bring to your relationship? Are you in love with him? Does he make you happy? If you can't answer those or the answer is no then you'd be doing both of you a favour by ending it and moving on with someone who you are more compatible with.

The only caveat I'd say is if this is a sudden change in behaviour and you normally have a very positive relationship and you think he might be feeling low or struggling with his mental health in which case I'd suggest you speak with him about it directly and ask him to seek support from his gp or counselling and see if things improve. If they don't or he refuses to work on himself then you're still within your rights to leave If you want to.

You don't need to stay in a relationship you're not happy in.

ilovesooty · 25/01/2024 21:27

Well you don't seem to like anything about him and he doesn't seem over keen on you, so there's not really any reason to keep the relationship going.

ireallycantthinkofaname · 25/01/2024 21:37

Why are you with someone who so obviously gives you the ick? You deserve someone whose little mannerisms light you up and he deserves someone who's lit up by his.

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