Boyfriend is such a downer and bore when on food dates

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I think he acts like his dad does expect we've not been married for 30 years

His conversation is so pain. Like today he asked me 4 times how I had no data on my phone and it was my treat to him since he done me a favour how would I pay dinner after I've already told him you don't need data

He taps his foot when food takes too long. We aren't even 30 why would he behave that way I get the older generation behave that way hence his dad but we had no where to be wnd we could just chat to pass time

He starts no conversation. I am always the one to start conversation

He is just a downer in general. I went to paint the bathroom he made a 100 reasons why I shouldn't paint my own bathroom. Then was like is it even bathroom paint? To stop me doing it

I was changing out my hoover and he was like aw is it still broken? Like his first and only comments are so negative. Every single thing is just negative I feel like I have to lift myself up all the time

I’m 51, as is DH. I have never in my life tapped my foot in a restaurant. We’ve been a couple for 25 years and we still have lots of conversation. In fact, there’s almost no one I’d rather talk to — he’s clever, funny and well-informed. I have never been driven to make small talk about hoovers or data.

Your boyfriend is boring and negative because he’s a boring and negative person. It’s not that someone hits a switch at a certain age point and we all become foot-tapping, grumpy and dumbstruck.

Glad I am not the only one, it all sounds robotic

In fairness, I think you’d need to go quite a long way to find someone who’s ‘lit up’ by a man who taps his foot at slow service, is incapable of small talk, apart from telling you why you shouldn’t paint your own bathroom and asking how you were going to pay for his dinner.

I mean, none of those are exactly going to give most people the fanny gallops…

Your post doesn’t make a lot of sense but it doesn’t sound as though either of you like each other very much or get on particularly well so why are you still together?

Don’t do it. He’ll get worse with age.

I married a man like that- vetoes everything but suggests nothing. Said no to all the children’s names I liked but couldn’t come up with any himself.

Just a fun sponge.

Eh?

Her complaints seem perfectly reasonable to most of us. He sounds boring and irritating.

Well........8 billion people on the planet. There might be someone out there?!😂

Yeah I phrased it badly. He& OP do not sound like a match regardless, though.

Its not compulsory to go out with him if you don't like him!

Dump him. Imagine 50 years more or this.

You obviously don’t like him very much so I’d break up and move on.

It doesn't sound like you enjoy his company at all which begs the question why are you in a relationship with him?

It sounds like you have got the ick. There is no going back now.

that would drive me mad but i wouldnt be making a mumsnet post about it, id be leaving him and moving on :S

A relationship should enhance your life, not drain the life out of you
Move on and find someone you click with

How were you ever attracted him? How much more of your life will you waste on him?

You know you do t have to be with this guy right? For gods sake stop wasting your time

If his chat is as boring as your post, I'd say you're a good match.

As my lovely FIL says, ‘For every old shoe, there’s an old foot’…😀

Get a better one, this one sounds like a dud.

He’s sucking the joy out of life.

Tell him to fuck off. Just shout FUCK OFF UOU BORING FUCKER… and walk away.

life is way too short.

FFS I am 69 and pay with my phone.

WTF are you doing with a baby dinasaur. If he's like this now, how will he be when technology moves on and we only have to blink to pay?

He's draining the life out of you. You seem like an easy going, relaxed person and you could have a much better life without him. Somewhere, there's a fella who wouldn't even notice the food was late as he was having a good old chat. Go forth and find him!

This!
Definitely leave him, op, you're clearly not a match. Use the time whilst waiting for Mr Right to learn to punctuate and stop inserting 'like' everywhere. That post was painful to read!

I'd chuck him out with the ageism.