To dob him in for driving while banned?

[BlowDryRat]

I found out yesterday that my exH got a year-long driving ban last summer for drink and drug-driving. He's been picking up the DC on contact days and driving them places.

He's a nasty piece of work who believes himself to be an innocent victim in a world out to get him. Nothing is ever his fault, he made my life hell and he lets the kids down.

WIBU to get video evidence of him driving and send it to the police?

Haydenn · Today 10:28

Absolutely, how can you ever be confident he isn’t under the influence when your children are in the car?

Well, quite. If he's ignoring the ban, he's likely to be blasé about that, too.

I agree, report him, even if not much is done and as a PP suggested, tell the Police that he's aggressive and you're scared of confronting him. Have you got a dashcam? You may be able to stake his house out and catch him on it, getting in a driving away, which you could pass on to the Police.

I’d definitely report him. Selfish, irresponsible bastard.

I’d report him to the police and tell them you’ve just found out. Make it clear that you’ll not be letting the DC go in his car and that you’re concerned he’s going to kick off and try to take them anyway.

I’d tell him first, though - tell him you know and that he can’t drive them.

Once you have informed the police they are duty bound to act. If something subsequntly happened (god forbid) involving an accident the police would not be in a good position, hopefully they would put a car outside of his house at the right time of day and wait. Car would be confiscated as well.

Please do so 100%. If you have not done it since this thread started.

I'd be tempted to refuse contact until you know the police have dealt with it. Or if your children hate going there, seek a court order to reduce contact on the grounds it is not safe for them to be there.

You can report anonymously on crimestoppers website if you are concerned about comeback.
I'm sure you will not be letting him drive your DC anywhere now you know.
My ex is also banned for the same reason, so I have firsthand experience...he also didn't tell me & I found out by pure coincidence.

Since he's driving your kids around without insurance and in breach of the law, yes, I'd dob him in.

Can you get someone else to make a note of the reg as you drive past the house? Otherwise have a camera recording out the window (without breaking mobile phone laws yourself of course) as you go past.

It's better if you have the reg, because the police can add it to the ANPR records and it's more likely to be triggered. He may then get picked up simply driving past a police car with an ANPR camera in it.

If you know any of his routine, such as working hours, etc, where he might be using his car, they can and will get someone to lie in wait for him. It may take time as obviously live crimes and emergency calls take precedent, but they will take it seriously.

Sounds like you chose a real gem to have kids with

Presumably because she just found out YESTERDAY
YESTERDAY
YESTERDAY

For gods sake, the unwarranted OP bashing on here is ridiculous !!!!

And yes OP please report him asap. He's a danger on the roads.

You will need the car registration to report at least.

Wow. Why would you do that?

And yes OP I would report him in a flash

I used to work in a court and drink drivers were always being found out via tip offs.

That's not to say they would know it was you but that someone had said "he's drunk and driving"

hopefully they would put a car outside of his house at the right time of day and wait.

If you think your police force have the resources to do this, I'd love to know where you live. 1982 perhaps? 🤔 sorry for the sarcasm but our local force is so over stretched it's ridiculous.

If you know when he's driving, it's possible. And don't apologise for your sarcasm @LikeagoddamnVampire - I barely recognised it for what it was, it was so dire.

Shocked that 5% of posters think it is OK for an uninsured convicted drink/drug driver should be allowed on the road and drive the OP's children about.

@BlowDryRat do you know someone else who could get the number plate for you?

I would call the police so fast my poor phone’s keypad would get whiplash! He’s a horrible person and this also gives you the opportunity to rack up another offense against him (in court?) so hopefully the kids don’t have to be around him anymore. Fingers crossed. 🤞

Ooooohhhh I'm so so hurt walloper

You need to report this now & stop your children going in the car with him - his behaviour is reckless & dangerous

DOB HIM IN AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Your child is in danger. He has no insurance and if the worst happens....... I'll leave you to fill in that blank.

Don't wait, do it now!

Definitely tell the police. I wouldn't want someone like that driving my child about. Do it now.

I've downloaded an app that will let me take a video with the time and location securely stamped. I don't know his work location or routine and he's not due to have the DC for a few weeks, so I will take DH on a drive to get his registration plate and report to the police.