To dob him in for driving while banned?

[BlowDryRat]

I found out yesterday that my exH got a year-long driving ban last summer for drink and drug-driving. He's been picking up the DC on contact days and driving them places.

He's a nasty piece of work who believes himself to be an innocent victim in a world out to get him. Nothing is ever his fault, he made my life hell and he lets the kids down.

WIBU to get video evidence of him driving and send it to the police?

Yes, video him, get the reg.

If you can get his reg number and let the police know when he will be driving to collect the children, then they can put someone in the area to catch him.

Phone the police and tell them the time and date and place of the next visits he’s collecting them. They’ll keep a look out for him to catch him. Don’t let him know you know.

You can get ring cameras that capture more than the doorbell.
But just a statement thats he’s been picking them up on X date and days and driving them is a good start.

Would they actually turn up though? If they didn't then I'd have to refuse to let the DC go with him at the point he was at the door. That would be a horrible situation for them as it would no doubt get heated.

Never mind video evidence I would give the local police a call and tell them he is picking the kids up at xx on yy and he doesn’t have a license you believe. Tell them he is a nasty piece of work so you can’t have it out with him, but don’t want your children in a car with him

Being uninsured makes you no more likely to crash? Im not advocating for it by any means

Well yes it does @Screwballs. Because you are a more reckless driver in the first place.

@BlowDryRat I wouldn't delay, call police non-emergency, or make an online report. IME they're very quick to respond. Give details as pp up thread said, especially that you only just found out and he's continued to collect the children for all this time, and let them know you are certain it's going to cause drama/trouble.

I would stay out of it, other than telling him you know.

I reported my ex for drink driving on 101. He is an alcoholic and on occasion used to arrive smelling strongly of alcohol. I bought myself a little drink drive indicator which you blow into (about £70 on Amazon) and made him blow into this before collecting the children.

In the end the children only saw him if his girlfriend drove as he couldn't be trusted to stay sober. He blew over the limit a few times and I reported him on each occasion.

I did nip out and take a photo of his car as he drove off to get the reg plate. The police wanted his registration /home address details. He was eventually caught too, it will pop up intel for that vehicle too I think, should an officer do any checks on the reg plate...

Good luck as it isn't a nice situation to be caught up in.

Now that OP knows he's banned, she can't be complicit in her kids travelling in a car he's driving.

If there is no insurance policy on the car, personal injury to third parties and passengers are uninsured. That's a bit serious.

If someone else has insured the car, it'll be more complicated but still not good.

I can't imagine getting paid out by the Motor Insurers' Bureau is easy.

Just to add, my ex had very very infrequent contact, probably because he usually had a drink and that was his priority. Fortunately for me I did not have to use this kit too many times, he didn't/doesn't have them overnight, so it was only ever for a few hours and he had to blow a clear breath test first..

On a trip down to tesco, you are no more likely to crash than anyone else. Insurance doesnt prove good driving, it only proves not being caught.

You don’t know unless you try calling them. Tell them the date and time and they’ll follow him from his house before he gets to yours. Ask them if he turns up to collect the children what should you do?

I promise they will listen. He’s banned for drink and drug driving and still driving, he thinks he is fine to drive whilst drinking and doing drugs. He is not in a state to look after your kids. He might even get jail time and remove him from your life.

On a trip down to tesco, you are no more likely to crash than anyone else. Insurance doesnt prove good driving, it only proves not being caught

Getting banned proves you're an idiot who shouldn't be in charge of a car.

But at least insurance gives you some redress!

Yourself and others!

A local teen was recently killed by a drug driver. Their friend who was with them remains critically ill in hospital. They were on their way to school.

Report him.

For sure - but someone who drinks + drives and chooses to drive around uninsured during a ban is, on balance of probability, unlikely to be an extremely careful + risk averse driver…

For sure - but someone who drinks + drives and chooses to drive around uninsured during a ban is, on balance of probability, unlikely to be an extremely careful + risk averse driver…

Couldn't agree more.

He thinks he's an amazing driver but he speeds. He got a speeding ticket and tried to make me say I was driving at the time (I refused).

I will get his registration number and then report him. This will mean doing a drive past his house so I'm a bit nervous.

How’s that protecting her children? Not very brave of you eh Bronwen

I think that you need evidence. If you go to the police, yeah they may knock on his door and ask him some questions but, I can't they'd go any further.

I'm just going on my experiences with the police in the past 6 months. My sister and I gave statements on two separate occasions about somebody extremely dangerous who was threatening to kill. Whenever I contacted them, they just said "oh it's still open and he's down as "wanted". They had his address, place of work. My sister gave her statement in November and they rang her back later Friday night last week!

I think that you pretty much need to do their job for them. Even with hard evidence they may be slow to act. We had it and they still didn't move.