To wonder why close friend hasn't told me she's given birth?

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I accidentally found out from another friend of hers (acquaintance of mine) that she'd given birth.
Do you think I'm right to wonder what that's about (have I upset her etc), or just put it down to the stress of the period, and that she and her partner have their hands full at the moment?

I'm really not asking in a 'who is right, who is wrong' sort of way, more do you think there could be anything to it? Or am I overthinking and should just send my congratulations?

I wouldn't dream of raising it with her right now as she's just had her baby girl.

Similar! I had preemie twins by C-section so spent about 6 hours in recovery waiting for the feeling in my legs to come back (slightly scary) and nothing to do! The babies were downstairs in NICU so I only had two very (hideous) newborn pics to share with people, but I think I spent that whole afternoon phoning and texting everyone I knew and sharing the news.....🙂!

I would not contact an expectant couple for updates ever....can you imagine if something is wrong and you message saying "any news?"

OH messaged key family and best friends within a couple of hours, then a few days/week later once home I posted on FB and messaged colleagues.
Everyone else was a cascade.

Maybe she is to scared in case you mention visiting and then you can call you controlling or some weird stuff about boundaries, seems to be the order of things these days

When I had my first it was a very traumatic birth, nearly died, baby in special care etc. I didn't really tell people I'd had the baby because it felt fake celebrating something that I had such negative feelings about. I just didn't want to talk about it and kind of shut down. I think I really freaked a few people out who were expecting the gushing first pics and announcements of her name etc and didn't hear from me for weeks. She might have had a shit time and is dealing with it. She might just have forgot. If just send a congrats text with no questions so she doesn't feel she has to come back to you if she is struggling.

Don't read too much into it - she most likely just forgot who she had or hadn't told in the chaos of events. I, to my eternal chagrin, forgot to include a really good friend in the list of people to notify when my husband died, and didn't realise until I got a got a christmas card addressed to us both a couple of weeks later, after the funeral was over. These things happen, sadly. Just forgive the error and move on.

OP, any feedback, please?
Sorry, sounds very nosey of me but I'm not.