Good Morning Beautiful

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Ughhhh been speaking to a few guys threw OLD, there's a couple who every day without fail send the "Good morning beautiful" or "Good night beautiful" message without fail.

I've never been in the situation where a man messages EVERY day from contact, I also don't see 'beautiful' as one of my attributes. I'm I being excessively paranoid in finding this a huge turn off- as I feel I am one of a dozen these men have set it scheduled to send to??

Can you block him?

It's pretty standard OLD speak 🙄

Yeah, it’s a bit OTT I think…the kind of thing a boyfriend would send, not some random guy you’ve never met! You’re definitely one of a list of women they’re sending it to. It would give me the ick.

OLD is a different ball game to meeting chaps out in the real world. There are some genuine men, but there are a lot who play a bit of a numbers game and have their tactics down.

If it feels formulaic it probably is. The same messages appearing like clockwork would give me the ick. Trust your gut.

add into this just hearts on messages, or just getting “how are you” back. I might be an old bag, but I tend to look at the ratio of messages sent to actual content.

Do i think they are paying me too much attention for what I know about them? Could that last message have gone to anyone or does it actually reference or relate to the previous conversation?

Why would you not message everyday? Isn’t that part of getting to know someone?
I say this as someone who has been in daily contact with someone I met online for the last 2 weeks.

I'm a bit interested in the 43% so far who say unreasonable? Is that you think that these guys are genuine or that this kind or thing is par for the course in OLD so I shouldn't be spooked?

It isn't the messaging everyday. It is the fact that everyday starts the same "Good morning beautiful" I get this or similar from 6 or so men. None reference previous conversations or things that they know will be going on that day.

They appear like clockwork and feel quite like the first job these men have is to send out a flurry of messages. I think for me (despite the 'beautiful') they don't feel personal to me. I wonder if I thought of myself as beautiful I would feel less spooked, but as it is I think if you were to use a word to describe me it wouldn't be this and so it feels like they are all following some online success manual I'm not privvy to.

Scumbags.

Beautiful probably means they don’t have to try to remember names! I think it’s creepy.

Unless I'd at least had a few dates with them or considered them my boyfriend, I'd think this was just a routine they had going with all their connections. It would therefore be a complete turn off.
I've been married for 25 years though and never been on a dating app. I hope I never have to because pick up lines make me cringe, it would be even worse by text!

Love bombing, future faking commitment phobe comes to mind. Will ghost! Likely before a date ever happens. That's my experience anyway. Those saying you're BU probably don't have much experience of OLD 😆

Good morning beautiful seems insincere overkill unless you have had an amazing date followed by a mind blowing chandelier swinging session the night before.

This would give me the ick straightaway,and it's highly likely there sending it to every woman who's caught their eye.If a man was genuinely interested in me I'd expect a bit more effort than 'Hello Beautiful'

Anyone that says this is low-grade. It's a major tell.

Mate of mine has one of these on the go, we base a Friday night drinking game around him. It’s very predictable.

I’m sorry but cut your losses

I am obsessed with romance scams. All the Dr Phil and Catfish ones. Most of those women saying their romancer (scammer) would do exactly that ..... every boring without fail, he would text me good morning beautiful. Goodnight beautiful. He would call me his Queen. Beware .......

‘They appear like clockwork and feel quite like the first job these men have is to send out a flurry of messages. I think for me (despite the 'beautiful') they don't feel personal to me. I wonder if I thought of myself as beautiful I would feel less spooked, but as it is I think if you were to use a word to describe me it wouldn't be this and so it feels like they are all following some online success manual I'm not privy to.’

I might be tired but I really like this paragraph, it’s quite moving.

Wonder what would happen if you said this to them all. Be interesting to see what, if anything, they come back with. Appreciate you may not be arsed.

Aw this thread has made me a bit sad. When we were dating (we started dating 10 years ago), he would send me a good morning beautiful or similar message at 5am every day when he woke up.

I hope he was sincere seeing as we now have two kids

I hated this when I was doing OLD. always seemed so contrived and insincere to me.

You’re farming a coterie of SIX MEN and worry that they might be insincere ? OK…

Sounds horrendously cringey op.

I haven't done OLD and never would.
Can you try to meet new people through hobbies or friends or travel?

Haha, great phrase!

But I do agree with OP. I can kind of see having initial brief chats with a long list of 6 (though I've never done it). What I wouldn't like at that stage is to get insincere and OTT scheduled texts from them. Talk about feeling farmed!

No wonder you feel that way, OP, it's completely different to when it's coming from someone you have actually met and have a trusting connection with, and you know he's sending it only to you, not as a sort of mass marketing campaign!

Have you ever just ignored this?
What do they come back with?
It better be good because yeah, it's lazy and crap.

Sure, but the OP has industrialised their approach to dating, leveraging operational efficiencies to parallel process multiple men.

And is unhappy that these men have also somewhat optimised their processes.