Is anyone else basically mute when alone or am I weird?

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Is anyone else “mute”?

I’ve realised I never talk to myself. I don’t ever speak out loud, I rarely gasp or make noises out loud if I’m on my own. I can’t physically sing to myself, it makes me recoil and cringe. Not because I can’t sing; but I just make myself cringe.
I am genuinely mute when I’m alone. I’m so so far in my own shell. The thought of me talking out loud to myself makes me recoil and feel sick.

What is wrong with me? What do I do to overcome this??

As I said before I do talk to myself. I am an only child - I wonder if that is relevant and the half that do had periods of being alone as children?

I don't think your weird I talk out whole scenarios that have or haven't happened and play the different roles now that's weird but it's like therapy for me

Add me to the "talks to himself" list. In fact I also shout to myself on occasion, nag at myself, sing to myself, and often provide a running commentary on what's going on with humorous asides in funny accents etc.

I've lived alone for most of my life. I habitually address myself as "dear" or "my dear" when feeling affectionate, or various swearwords when I'm self-annoyed. Or simply as "my lord" or "sir" when obeying instructions.

I live in a detached house so it's unlikely the neighbours can hear any of this, but if they do they presumably assume I'm talking on the phone.

Weird question. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with talking to yourself (the idea that it's "the first sign of madness" are surely BS) but you're not somehow "abnormal" if you don't do it. I never do. I might occasionally sing along to a song I'm listening to, but otherwise no vocalisation when I'm alone.

I'm silent by myself too unless I hurt myself or realise something that causes me stress then I'm likely to exclaim "shit" or "fucks sake"

I don't thing there's anything wrong with you, it's just a different way of being. I'm quite loud by myself, I sing, talk and mentally play interactions.

My husband says it's quite amusing when he occasionally happens across me when I'm on my own, I apparently have emotions flitting over my face and my mouth is having imaginary conversations.

Not talking to yourself out loud in no way hinders nor negatively impacts your life. It’s not something you need to fix or get over.

I even talk to myself when i am wandering round the supermarket trying to find stuff.

No. Or at least I'm not aware of doing it. I just know stuff. I know I want coffee so I go make one but I don't think oh I want coffee I'll go now and make one I'm making coffee I'm taking it into the living room. I just know it and do it without any words in my head iyswim. I don't think words unless I consciously decide to think words. Like now, I'm trying to think words to type.

It's hard to form words then type them. By the time I've got halfway through the preplanned sentence I've forgotten what the end was going to be 😁. I normally just let my fingers type then I read what my brain made my fingers do and that's the first time the actual words are there.

Tbh I assumed that's just how it works for everyone but it seems I've been wrong about that.

I have an internal monologue but I don't talk to myself out loud and I don't feel weird about it.

I talk all the time. I have whole conversations and imaginary scenarios and I didn't know I whisper them until my husband told me! He said he hears me when I'm on my own.

I also talk out loud a bit and to myself when I'm on my own.

I don't think it's odd to do so or not, everyone is different, just be you.

I speak to my cats and dogs when I'm alone with just them. I can't imagine talking to myself. I'd think I'd lost the plot if I ever did that.

I walked past a woman in the supermarket once who was muttering to herself "eggies beggies weggies" while looking at eggs.
I thought she sounded nuts.

I am completely silent on my own. I don’t whistle, hum or sing. I might blow my nose if I have a cold, but that is it. There is nothing wrong with me.

I talk to my dog all the time. Mostly asking her what she wants!

It’s never occurred to me that I should be talking out loud when alone?

I talk to the dog but that’s for her benefit (I mean she doesn’t understand me but I think appreciates the attention and acknowledgement as some form of communication…), but when I’m in a different room to the dog I don’t say anything.

I might sing the odd line from a song that’s stuck in my head, but I’d never think oh I’ll sing to myself now. I also don’t sing in the shower.

I'm rarely alone, thanks to the dogs, but I happily chatter away to them, and if I am alone, I talk to myself. I don't think DH speaks to himself, though.

Actually, I do consider myself weird, and I've decided I don't care.

ETA: I speak more to myself than to almost anyone else, because I don't have to censor myself or think twice to avoid offending or boring them (or sounding stupid).

I have huge convoluted conversations in my head, imagine things, sing in my head…. But I’ve never worried I’m mute. No one could know if they met me

That sounds perfectly normal to me! Why would you need to speak out loud to yourself when you can do everything in your head? I very occasionally vocalize my thoughts when I'm on my own, but tend to laugh at myself and think it a bit odd when I do!

I don't sing to myself as I am an awful singer! I've been known to hum but it's pretty rare.

Why do you think this is a problem? Has someone else suggested that it is?

Get a cat. Guarantee you’ll be chatting to “yourself” in no time. Usually about being a good boy or something.

I talk to myself, the baby, the rabbits, odd socks or toys that I think look lonely... and whistle and sing and chuckle to myself. And at night, I sleep talk too.

But really, is it you or the noisy ones who are the weirdos?? 🤔😅 I wouldn't worry.

I'm a non talker when on my own and I believe that's the correct way to be!

I have a family member who constantly mutters away. It drives me nuts.

Everything is narrated and I can't tell if I'm being addressed or if they're just narrating the fact they're walking to the other side of the room.

And they refer to themselves in the plural....... it puts me in mind of Smeagol.

I have a lot of potential future conversations in my head, and sometimes bits come out out loud. I say 'ouch' and 'fuck' often. And I talk to the cats a lot. But sometimes I realise it's 4pm and I haven't said a word out loud. So it's very variable!

I chat to the cat, the dogs, the tv, my car, to myself.

I would have guessed it was unusual to be totally mute when alone, but from this thread it seems that I am totally wrong.