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School demanding packed meals for 18 hr bus trip

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Snoopmummy · 19/01/2024 17:09

DC is off on a school trip involving an 18 hour coach journey. School is demanding we drop children off in the evening having fed them (fine), equipped with nut free snacks (makes sense). We have also been asked to provide TWO meals: a packed breakfast and a packed lunch.

That means breakfast will be consumed 13 hours after they set off and lunch will be something like 17 hours later. Is there any food that can safely last for that length of time in an insulated bag or flask? DC does not like dried fruit or cereal bars.

AIBU to consider asking for the risk assessment over this and suggesting we equip them with money to get food on the way as they will need to stop anyway?!

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letsallmeetupinthehyear2000 · 20/01/2024 13:11

Hahahahahahahah I do love this 😂!

kisstheblarney · 20/01/2024 13:14

Mysterian · 20/01/2024 12:58

I'm a walker. When I go on a long one i usually go for much of the stuff already mentioned. Fruit (with sandwich bag for peel/cores), flapjacks, cake/biscuits, sealed pain o chocolate things. If I want something that resembles real food I take a tuna meal with me. They're in the supermarket next to the tinned fish. They look like some kind of cat food container but have tuna, some kind of sauce, cous cous/pasta/beans, and veg. Used to come with disposable spoon but don't any more.

Interesting, when I go walking I leave cores for animals (assuming it's a suitable environment) am I doing wrong.

kisstheblarney · 20/01/2024 13:14

DonnaBanana · 20/01/2024 13:01

I'd be pulling them off of such a trip. Nowhere is worth 18 hours in a coach.

GrinGrinGrinGrin

I presume you'd be happy with losing your money then?

Mywhoopdeedoo · 20/01/2024 13:25

DonnaBanana · 20/01/2024 13:01

I'd be pulling them off of such a trip. Nowhere is worth 18 hours in a coach.

They do get breaks you know

JudgeJ · 20/01/2024 13:29

Cosyblankets · 20/01/2024 10:48

I wasnt sure this wasnt a wind up but reading your updates you really are serious aren't you!

I can't be the only one feeling a bit sorry for OP's child, she's probably like this all the time.

LuckySantangelo35 · 20/01/2024 13:29

Mywhoopdeedoo · 20/01/2024 13:25

They do get breaks you know

@DonnaBanana

this, plus your kid would be fuming as they’ll wanna be with their mates.

RancidRuby · 20/01/2024 13:35

Processed croissants have practically zero nutritional content.

So? It's not a big deal for one day, just give them a banana and an apple to balance it out.

Combattingthemoaners · 20/01/2024 13:37

Snoopmummy · 20/01/2024 10:37

The coach driver will have to stop in any case I suspect for at least an hour as it’s not safe to drive for that many hours with just a toilet break. Why wouldn’t you just add a tenner onto the already astronomical price of the trip and go to services?

This has already been answered but you seem hell bent on being annoyed over a non-issue. Do the school and teachers a favour and don’t sign your child up to anymore trips. Let someone else go who appreciates the time and effort the staff have put in when they could be with their own families.

DonnaBanana · 20/01/2024 14:06

RancidRuby · 20/01/2024 13:35

Processed croissants have practically zero nutritional content.

So? It's not a big deal for one day, just give them a banana and an apple to balance it out.

Really? I used to eat a lot of croissants and they were quite calorific and kept me going. A cucumber would be something with no nutritional content.

GothConversionTherapy · 20/01/2024 14:11

I think the OP just doesn't want him to go so is throwing up barriers. Hell be fine though and I'm sure will have a great time being a little independent.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 20/01/2024 14:13

Snoopmummy · 20/01/2024 11:11

The trip has been outsourced to a travel agency so I suspect we are paying over the odds already and air fares over half term would have been even more but I wanted them to go with their friends and have an experience that they won’t have with our family. To the PP suggesting I remove them from the trip, surely that’s even more hysterical than my questioning the food safety implications?! 😅

Neither the children going nor the teachers are particularly hard done by, not even when up against parents like me! I didn’t have a ‘go’ at anyone at the school, I was canvassing views about likelihood of food staying fresh. DC asked for pesto pasta but sounds like they will have a cheese sandwich.

(To a PP, I am quite fun at parties and signature trick is too filthy to share on here 😉 but it’s dry Jan for me so perhaps that has skewed my perspective…)

Thanks for the helpful suggestions, particularly from teachers with experience on long trips like this.

I would think pasta pesto would be absolutely fine.

Mywhoopdeedoo · 20/01/2024 14:16

Neurodiversitydoctor · 20/01/2024 14:13

I would think pasta pesto would be absolutely fine.

Except they’re not allowed nuts

Spicybeanburger · 20/01/2024 14:17

Are you normally this dramatic? Demanding, you mean asking? Then this talk of risk assessments for packed lunch. If this how you react to other stuff in life it must be exhausting for you. Pop some ice packs in the food bag perhaps?

ThePoshUns · 20/01/2024 14:17

The school are 'demanding' you feed your own child?
How presumptuous of them. 🙄

TheTwirlyPoos · 20/01/2024 14:25

There will be two coach drivers and they will swap.

You sound like a total nightmare 2bh.

ouch321 · 20/01/2024 14:25

In none of your subsequent updates have you acknowledged the massive favour they're doing to you and your child taking him/her on this (ski?) trip.

Furthermore, the fact that you say that you are experienced in doing risk assessments is highly dubious. If you were, you would know that you do not risk assess for all the millions of things that are outside of your control. The school asked you to bring food onto the coach, there is no inherent risk in this.

Had they requested that you bring food and stated that only shellfish was acceptable then I'd understand but they haven't. They just asked for food. It's you who is minded to bring fresh/chilled items on the trip so the responsbility to prepare appropriately, such as with a cool bag, lies on you. Not the staff. I mean do you expect them to risk assess for you to forgetting to pack your kid's pyjamas?

I agree with other posters, you are coming across as one of 'those' parents.

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/01/2024 14:58

DonnaBanana · 20/01/2024 13:01

I'd be pulling them off of such a trip. Nowhere is worth 18 hours in a coach.

I imagine the OP knew about the length of the coach journey before agreeing to send her child on the trip. Pulling him/her off it because of the need for 2 packed meals would be a tad bizarre.

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 20/01/2024 15:08

A croissant with some jam (who cares if it's not nutritious) and a banana for breakfast

Dinner and tea. Make some sandwiches using those jars of paste. The stuff lives on supermarket shelves so it'll be perfectly fine shoved in a pack up box for x amount of hours. A couple of bags of crisps or some pretzels, a couple of those individually wrapped cakes. A couple of pieces of fruit and some drinks. Freeze a couple of cartons of juice or a bottle of water to keep everything cool and just put one or 2 in un frozen ready to drink straight away.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 20/01/2024 15:18

Mywhoopdeedoo · 20/01/2024 14:16

Except they’re not allowed nuts

Apart from that yes. Maybe pasta and red eg: tomato sauce ? Or as others suggested a cheese sandwich and a peparami ?

mrswhiplington · 20/01/2024 15:21

BloodyAdultDC · 20/01/2024 12:12

Never a true word said whispered under ones breath, by teachers since education began, at parents worrying about nothing and making a simple request into massive fucking overkill requiring a fucking risk assessment for a fucking sweaty sandwich, as if kids aren't germ-laden hobbits already with stomachs strong enough to manage all sorts of crap the other 365 days a year
FML.

😂

AIstolemylunch · 20/01/2024 15:43

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/01/2024 12:46

And then you've got the parents demanding to see the risk assessment for Haribo and flapjacks, complaining that there wasn't a table with linen for Barnaby to lay out his hors d'ouvre, salmon en croute with baby potatoes and spring vegetables and chocolate ganache cake or Ophelia to have her lobster bisque and quinoa salad, that there was a child sat next to them who had two Dairylea Dunkers and they even shared half a packet of midget gems, the children were expected to make their own beds and clean up after themselves, somebody was told off for trying to access the black run when they're already nearly at County Level for swimming, there wasn't a mobile signal so they couldn't be called in the middle of the day...grandma is crying because Hortensia didn't update her TikTok for 3 days and thought that meant she must be dead and why is it that x child was able to stay up with the adults when they had a reaction to the pine nuts in Caligula's exploding pesto salad but Phyllida was callously told to stop talking to everybody about how you die from allergies and go to sleep when everybody knows Auntie is an eminent professor in the world of IG-E allergies, so was only sharing her knowledge...

Ha this reply made me laugh. Reminded me of when my ds went on the Y7 trip to Paris and he messaged me on arrival to say he didn't think he could stay at the hotel because the wallpaper was hanging off and it wasn't even a 3 star, complete with pictures. I told him to get over himself and get on with it, which he did and had a great time.

NewName24 · 20/01/2024 16:37

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/01/2024 12:46

And then you've got the parents demanding to see the risk assessment for Haribo and flapjacks, complaining that there wasn't a table with linen for Barnaby to lay out his hors d'ouvre, salmon en croute with baby potatoes and spring vegetables and chocolate ganache cake or Ophelia to have her lobster bisque and quinoa salad, that there was a child sat next to them who had two Dairylea Dunkers and they even shared half a packet of midget gems, the children were expected to make their own beds and clean up after themselves, somebody was told off for trying to access the black run when they're already nearly at County Level for swimming, there wasn't a mobile signal so they couldn't be called in the middle of the day...grandma is crying because Hortensia didn't update her TikTok for 3 days and thought that meant she must be dead and why is it that x child was able to stay up with the adults when they had a reaction to the pine nuts in Caligula's exploding pesto salad but Phyllida was callously told to stop talking to everybody about how you die from allergies and go to sleep when everybody knows Auntie is an eminent professor in the world of IG-E allergies, so was only sharing her knowledge...

This is virtually the minutes of meetings of the voluntary organisation I am involved in, from the parents questions and complaints. Even though every adult on that trip is volunteering to give up their annual leave to take the children on those experiences, and paying the same as all the young people, and have put hours and hours into planning it, also using the experiences of the same trip having happened for decades.

Catsandcuddles · 20/01/2024 17:00

You are way over thinking this OP.

The thermo flask isn't a good idea as Pesto contains nuts. Honestly just do a sandwich or baguette and plenty of snacks. It doesn't matter if its not the healthiest thing in the world as it's a one off

saraclara · 20/01/2024 17:02

Pesto pasta = carbs and oil. Hardly any more nutritious then a croissant.

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