to expect emotional support from DH?

[JavaQ]

Maybe in even asking this,I already know the answer but I feel a bit alone and want your perspective.

My darling mother isn't well (widow, and lives a long haul flight away). I spoke to her this morning, and after hanging up, went to get breakfast but started quietly crying in the kitchen. (D)H asked what was wrong. I said "mum's not well". He just stood there. Didnt say anything. Didnt give me a hug. Just asked me what she had (I think), and then nothing. Just walked off into a separate room.

What "love language" is THAT?
What use is a spouse if they don't support you in your lowest moments?

To be fair. It’s really unlikely to be that either and just given some aspirin.

But do you consider any of your responses are actually helping OP? I don't.

but as you say… without any kind of context or further detail, what “help” have you suggested?

My suggestion was that if you think your mother has a pulmonary embolism… focus on that and rallying family / friend close to your mother and indeed… urging your mother to go to a&e as a matter of urgency

And obviously those suggestions all make sense. But OP posted for support because she felt upset at the lack of emotional support from her DH, not to ask what she should do.

yes but we can’t give an answer to that question without knowing more 🤷‍♀️

OP didn’t ask for support

she asked whether it was reasonable to expect some emotional support from her DH

and there’s been a mix of answers and a number of questions