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MoonWoman69 · 17/01/2024 20:09

Ok, I may be being over dramatic here, but bear with!
My husbands best friends son (I've known my HBF longer than my husband, so 36 years) has just had twins with his wife. I didn't want to buy the usual - clothes etc, so I chose a twin feeding pillow. Now his son, (who has always called me his second mum, his real mum doesn't mind this at all, as I've been in his life from birth and we're close. Just to set the scene!) called round yesterday to pick the gift up, thanked me, said he absolutely loved it and they'd been considering one etc. I was chuffed that I'd chosen something they would get some use out of. I've had no word of thanks from his wife at all, even though she has my number.
I've just had an email notification that she'd posted on FB, so I went to check it out, hoping it was a picture of the twins in their new "seat". It was a picture of one twin, propped in a v pillow, with a comment that she was chilling while mummy did chores!!! I had to hold myself back from typing, "they could both be chilling in the new pillow"!!!
Am I being unreasonable to expect some acknowledgement from her over the gift? These things aren't cheap (not that it makes any difference really) but she's put pictures up of everything else people have bought, made or given her, which are the usual things🤷🏼‍♀️

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takealettermsjones · 20/01/2024 19:58

MoonWoman69 · 18/01/2024 08:10

The present was from both of us. DH and I have always both thanked people for gifts that have been given for the both of us! If either one of us isn't there at the time, then it's a quick text or a phone call from the other one.
Some of you chose to assume things about me, some of you chose to be insulting. Seems that this is Mumsnet at it's finest!
I receive email notifications for some friends posts and I don't actually know how, but as I was on my phone and it popped up, that's why I saw it! I very rarely go on Facebook! So no, it's not creepy.
And I had already been to visit the twins and taken them small gifts and a card, because I'd had to wait for the twin pillow order to arrive. The husband had said he would call in and see me on his way home from work, it just so happened that it arrived that afternoon!
I was brought up with manners, but as shown in some of these comments, not everyone was - and it shows!

So why do you get to send a present on behalf of both spouses but they can't give a thank you on behalf of both spouses? 🤔

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