Gift to new parents

[MoonWoman69]

Ok, I may be being over dramatic here, but bear with!
My husbands best friends son (I've known my HBF longer than my husband, so 36 years) has just had twins with his wife. I didn't want to buy the usual - clothes etc, so I chose a twin feeding pillow. Now his son, (who has always called me his second mum, his real mum doesn't mind this at all, as I've been in his life from birth and we're close. Just to set the scene!) called round yesterday to pick the gift up, thanked me, said he absolutely loved it and they'd been considering one etc. I was chuffed that I'd chosen something they would get some use out of. I've had no word of thanks from his wife at all, even though she has my number.
I've just had an email notification that she'd posted on FB, so I went to check it out, hoping it was a picture of the twins in their new "seat". It was a picture of one twin, propped in a v pillow, with a comment that she was chilling while mummy did chores!!! I had to hold myself back from typing, "they could both be chilling in the new pillow"!!!
Am I being unreasonable to expect some acknowledgement from her over the gift? These things aren't cheap (not that it makes any difference really) but she's put pictures up of everything else people have bought, made or given her, which are the usual things🤷🏼‍♀️

Maybe the pillow you gave them is in another room They can't wrangle twins and a double pillow every time they step in and out of different rooms.

Twins!! And you expect both of them to thank you! WTF!

I'd imagine that at times the V pillow is more appropriate. The twin ones take up a lot of space and aren't convenient to lug around from room to room. Maybe the other twin was asleep in a cot/moses basket, being walked/rocked by DH or DPs etc. Maybe the V pillow was better at propping baby up at this stage in their development. Maybe one of them had puked, peed or pooped on it and it was being cleaned etc etc

And you HAVE been thanked.

And the poor man had to leave his wife and newborn twins to go round to your home to collect it.

They haven't been rude at all.

Get over yourself. Wanting a post on brag book. They said thanks in person. We received gifts for weeks and weeks, once the gifts slowed down after around 2 months we then sent thank you cards. Also hope you gave a gift receipt as they may have had a specific product they were planning to purchase.

New parents with twins...limited time. Husband already thanked you. Why does she need to too. They be surviving hour by hour for now. Yabu

You sound like HUGE hard work!

She is looking after TWINS and probably barely sleeping.

I had one baby and didn't know what day of the week it was, let alone manage to thank people when my husband already had.

Knowing my husband he would completely forget to say who it was from or tell me no need to text as he had already thanked the present buyer etc. I still would but husbands can be pretty crap at passing info on!,

Knowing most of the men I do, there's a 90% chance it's still in the car boot! (like my christmas pressies!)

I would not think to thank someone for a gift if my husband had already done it. Surely the thanks is on behalf of both of them. Why do you need to hear it from the wife? She’s just given birth to twins and has far more important things to worry about.

The dad gave you an enthausastic thank you.

YABRidiculouslyU

I think for many people, saying thank you is a woman’s job and the thank-you-saying has not been done properly until the woman has done it. Even if the man is the one whom the present-giver is actually friendly with.

Her husband has thanked you and that'll be on behalf of both of them

You are being Very unreasonable

The present was from both of us. DH and I have always both thanked people for gifts that have been given for the both of us! If either one of us isn't there at the time, then it's a quick text or a phone call from the other one.
Some of you chose to assume things about me, some of you chose to be insulting. Seems that this is Mumsnet at it's finest!
I receive email notifications for some friends posts and I don't actually know how, but as I was on my phone and it popped up, that's why I saw it! I very rarely go on Facebook! So no, it's not creepy.
And I had already been to visit the twins and taken them small gifts and a card, because I'd had to wait for the twin pillow order to arrive. The husband had said he would call in and see me on his way home from work, it just so happened that it arrived that afternoon!
I was brought up with manners, but as shown in some of these comments, not everyone was - and it shows!

OP: Am I being unreasonable?

Everyone without exception: Extremely unreasonable

OP: No I'm not, you're all vipers

Why did you ask OP if you're so convinced that you're right and everyone else is wrong?

Do you have children OP?

They've just had twins - please don't expect thanks. They likely won't even have time to pee, eat or sleep just now. Thank you texts/messages won't even be on their priority list atm (rightly so).

You're correct, this is Mumsnet at its finest. YABVU and entitled, chill.

You gave a gift to a couple/ their kids. You got a thank you from the half of the couple you have the long running relationship with. To expect a thank you from the mum/ wife too rather suggests that you see a baby gift as her domain rather than his, which suggests more than a waft of misogyny sadly.
'I may be being over dramatic here' - you got it in the first line.

Also this.

This. You know the son well not her. And besides how do you know if that's what they even wanted? Did you even ask them. You shouldn't have bothered if you wanted praise and glory over a gift!

You clearly weren’t brought up with any depth of courtesy or decorum if you’re expecting the mother of twins to be thanking you for something her husband has already thanked you for. I often find the most ignorant and entitled people “think” they have manners, it’s quite scary really.

She's in a busy and exhausted haze with far far more important things to see too. You have been thanked and the gift even picked up.

Honestly I think if people want to be actually giving to new parents just give cash with no expectations and yes this is what I've always done.