to want this mother to discipline her dc!

[justabouthadit]

I'm probaby going to get flamed...hence the name change. sheepish
But I've just about had enough.
Every morning this dc, 3, runs into the play ground, straight up to my dc..and whacks them! He either punches or kicks. Every day
Every day my dc's stand there and take it
Every day his mother says...Oh xxxxxxx in a really pathetic voice to which he doesn't take the blindest bit of notice, carries on running around fighting everyone in sight.
We can't hide the playground is tiny, but I've had enough and I've had enough of her embarrassed smiles, I want her to do something about it.
Go on then....I'm being really U aren't I!

does he have SN?

there is a boy in dd1's class who is quite agressive but he has SN so discipline will not work

they teach him to have happy hands instead

can you turn up later/stand somewhere else?

it must be annoying

Not unreasonable at all. You cannot let your children be consistently hit by other children. If mother won't do something, I would. Maybe say to the other child "please don't hit dcs and stand between them". I certainly wouldn't take offence at something like that if my child was doing the hitting.

you are not being unreasoanable!

can you tell him,'no, kicking /punching is not nice behaviour' in a firm voice?

i would if my DC was getting kicked every day and the other mother was not doing anything.

she might be more embarassed of disciplining him publicly, maybe say something? tell her ,' oh, when my DC kicks, i do X Y Z', she might not know what to do

It can't be nice for your DC. Have your spoken to the Head or their teacher about it. Perhaps they could have a word with the other mother?

I think you need to say something to the mum, in as calm a way as possible, such as, 'have you noticed this is happening? Could you speak to your DS about this?' If it continues to happen, I think you are on strong ground to say directly to the little critter 'Critter, no hitting!' That'll scare the pants off him.

If there are no SN (and we have the same type of parents in DS class - it is so, so infuriating!) then tomorrow, bend down to the child and say "oh that's not very nice..." with a stern look and then move your DC away.

That way, the message gets across to the kid that they are being horrid and the parent that they should DO something and shows your DC a way of dealing with it too but is totally non-offensive (unlike my version when I told the child, after he "told on" my son to me that he was being rude and horrid so my DS was right to ignore him!!!)

I don't know if he has SN, I don't think his mother knows either. He's only 3 and has just started nursery.
I can't turn up any later, or we'll be late, and we're standing in line and tbh I don't see why we should move,..we're not doing anything wrong.

I'd be tempted to run up to the mother and whack her, tbh, useless woman.

If she's doing nowt, you tell her dc it's not on.

NO HITTING PLEASE. WE DON'T HIT.

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agree with goosey & camilla, say something to the child, lots of children play up for their mothers and she obviously can't or won't deal with it. If the mumm confronts you after tell her it is upsetting your ds, if it continues you'll have to speak to the head. He may have sn and this may be recognised by the school.

oh sorry didn't realise you meant you were in the line ... I agree; don't move. Just look at the kid and tell them off yourself in that case - could you stand body-guard like so the child doesn't reach your DC? (it is so annoying though - totally sympathise)

Sounds like he wants to be friends with your dc's but doesn't have the skills to express it. Tell him no but you don't have to be cross with him ( he may be SN in which case it won't work) Why not try to get him involved in a game with your dc and try to show him a new way to say hello to your chn?

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I know someone like this, used to be awful he would push, hit and nip dd. Take all her toys away from her and give them to his mum who would keep them for him rather than tell him to give them back. All she ever said was "ooh XXXX" in a soothing voice. IT got so bad the mum and I actually fell out about it. See them around quite a lot and he is still the same with her doing noting about it. When he started at nursery she was called in on a monthly basis for about 6 months and our nursery are fantastic at dealing with things so for them to call her in it must have been bad.

All the children who have done this to my ds2 have been SN.

If I'm being honest I think there is a good chance he does have some sort of SN. I don't think it's even crossed the mothers mind. This isn't really the sort of area where it's ok to tell off someone else child, hence the reason I've held my tongue. But I think there are quite a lot of other people doing the same.

Speak to the teachers to make them aware of what is happening. They will probably be able to help with the situation.

Or you could teach your child to say "no".

When dd1 was at nursery we had a little boy who did have SN, but his mum still disapline/talk to him about what he had done. And yes it did take a while for him to understand what he was doing was wrong but by the end of term he had stop doing it.

Teach your children to hold out their arm, palm up in a stop sigh and to say "No hitting!" in a loud clear voice when the child approaches.

Clearly I live in a bubble, but in what way is it the sort of area where it's not OK to tell off someone else's child? What would the reaction be?

oh you know...general ostracism. I don't know, it's just not done here, everyone smiles beatifically even if the kids are burning the blardy school down.

It doesn't matter if he does have sn. It is still up to the mother to do everything she can to prevent such kind of thing. sn is not an excuse for lazy parenting.

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if the mother isnt handling it you must,
pre empt it and wait for him to run over, just as he is launching his attack get down to his level, hold his hands and say dont hit my children.