Does your adult DC live in the family home still?

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If you have DC in their 20's, can I ask if they still live in the family home?

20 year old at home, 23 year old moved out last summer into a student flat. I moved out at 24 when I got married.

My 25 daughter has her own home . My 19 son lives with me.

21 yr old DS still with us. Has a full time job locally and is saving up to buy a house one day. Why do you ask?

20yr old at uni lives at home
22yr old still lives at home, started graduate job with 2 and a half years of exams to go. They’re working and saving as much as they can for a deposit for a flat looking to move out after final job exam.

I moved out at 24 and dh was 26. We moved in together after getting married.

Two in their 20s have moved out. Our third was away at college and living away but has now returned in an effort to save for his own home.

One moved out at 26, then back at 28 with partner in tow and had DGC. All moved out when DD was 30.
Another moved out at 28 to live with partner. Third is 24, still here, and his girlfriend too 3/4 nights a week.
All three know that they, their partners and DC can consider this their home whenever they want it.

My son, 20, had to give up uni due to chronic health problems. He can't work and honestly I don't think he will be able to move out on his own for years.

Yes, because student housing is phenomenally expensive and so is rent in London. I am not happy about it. I absolutely will not allow partners or DC to live with me though. The house is too small anyway.

Yes. 22 year old .

I have actually been wondering if it's ok for me to move out. I have been told that it's cruel to expect DC to move out in this financial climate- fine, ok- but is it all right for me to move out if my DC can't afford to? Course no one wants a 51 year old housemate in a house share!

Eldest (early 20s) still at home as he's been saving for a house deposit. I saw no reason for him to rent for the sake of it, unless he really wanted to. I'd have supported his choice either way. He's now saved enough for a decent deposit and is house hunting - I'll be sad when he goes, but excited for him too :-)

22 year old at university but the rest of the time he is at home
20 year old works and lives at home
18 year old lives at home

No. Both dcs 27 and 25 bought flats 2 years ago.

Yes, 23 and 25, they both moved away for university and then came back home.

Eldest DC moved out when he was 24 but tat was over 10 years ago so things were a bit different then.

I think moving out in your late 20s is normal today. My 3 eldest GCs all between 25 land 29 live home with their various parents..

My own children all set up independently before they were 20. One got a job that required living away, one went travelling and one got married. I don’t think any of them could do that in today’s financial climate. Also none of them went to University, so they never had student debt.

My 3 - 28, 23 & 22 all live at home. The 22 year has a baby and partner here too. It's lovely they all still want to be here.
The house is busy but good.
I have daily access to my grandchild, it's bliss. They all work and contribute to the running of the home.

Am I alone in not wanting daily access to my grandchild?😀 I feel like a freak of nature ! The best part is I am Asian so I should apparently be looking forward to a big joint family but I am not! I would like to live on my own and see my DC once or twice a week.

DC1 25 still at home. Went to uni. Came back. Worked then travelled. Now working again but no sign of ever being able to move out. Earns £26k in outer London.
DT1. 21 Did an apprenticeship. Now earns £42k. At home and saving.
DT2. 21 Went straight to work. Earns £27k and saving.
It would cost them about £1000 /m for a grotty house share and no long term solution so I accept they’ll be with me for years until I retire and kick them out and run away.
Their dad has loads more space but they like living with me. I confess I would like at least one of them to be able to move out. How when starter flats are £350k? 😥

My youngest is a student, so still has a room here, but doesn't really live here.
The older two now have their own homes, but both returned after University and live with us for some years whilst saving furiously.

Why do you ask ?

Probably not! 😀

24 & 26 year olds both living at home.

24 year old son still at home, and probably will be for sometime. So expensive to rent in our area.

22 yo daughter has moved out.
23 yo son still lives at home- just about finished his degree. I expect he will move out in the next year.

35 and 29 year olds still at home. No chance ever of buying a property in London, and they don't want to move away because of jobs, hobbies and friends. Neither do they wish to have a partner in case relationship breaks down and they're saddled with more debt. Therefore, it's likely they will remain at home till we depart this planet, and then acquire our 3 bed house to argue over.

The OP asked the question in January and then had no further input into the thread. So why has it been resurrected and why are people still responding?😒