How much have you spent on attending a hen party?

[Ticklemeharder]

Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable for declining a hen party invite abroad for three nights. Love the bride and feeling very guilty at declining as everyone else in the group appears to not have an issue with the cost. It’d end up between £1200/£1500 for the weekend if I’m being realistic and although we technically have the money to spend, it’s not spare and would be coming out of our savings. Currently experiencing radio silence from the bride/rest of the group and feeling a bit down and questioning whether I’ve done the right thing.

Too many cousins so best not to invite any rather than risk upset anybody. (Despite me being the only cousin who actually went on the hen weekend)

£200 at a push. I do not spend money on ridiculous hen dos like this, almost always it’s a small gaggle of bestie bridesmaids palming off their holiday costs on other women.

I turned down every invite to any hen do that involved a large expense. I think the most I spent was travelling 200 miles and a night out with dinner and clubbing and an overnight stay. But that was staying at a friend’s house.

I have been to a few wedding overseas but the relatives and friends actually live overseas.

One of those threads which makes me glad to be middle aged. Alongside baby showers and Halloween parties.
This was never a thing 30 years ago.
YANBU OP

I think totally fair to turn that down - you could go to a decent all inclusive for a week for that money!

I've not been on any abroad but in the UK I've done day ones at probably £100-£150, and weekends away (e.g. big Airbnb) for typically £250-£350.

I have once spent £1500 in total on a hen do. We went to Ibiza, just bride and bridesmaids, and shared the cost of the bride’s flights and accommodation between the 3 of us bridesmaids (I was MOH). I would not have spent that much on anyone else’s and it was planned knowing we were all up for it and good for the money. I think it’s far too much if you don’t know everyone you invite would happily pay it-if you want all invitees to attend then a sensible budget needs to be set.

Same here. No way would I do more than an evening out.

I did one for about £150 which was an overnight in Oxford (shared apartments so cheaper than hotel). Would never spent loads - most I have been to are evening events (dinner and drinks).

The last hen party I went to was an afternoon tea. The whole afternoon cost me less than £25.

Stick to your guns and don't be guilt tripped into going.

That's a huge amount of, I'm spending less than that on DD's and I'm funding the whole accommodation bill (4 bed house) plus travel

That's ridiculous, I'd say about £350 was the most I've spent on one!

Is it Ibiza? It's painfully expensive when you are there too. I'd decline and just say you simply don't have that much to spend on a weekend and you're really sorry. Speak to the bride personally

Omg what a piss take. This happened to a friend of mine who spent a fortune going on a stag do only to not be invited to the wedding.

So rude!!!!!

That is such a large amount! I am currently trying to plan my own hen and have set the budget to be £100pp max including food and activities. I also wouldn't be upset at anyone if someone couldn't come.

I’ve only been to one and that was £50 including a meal, drinks and train fare 20 years ago.

Bridezillas and MOHzillas would stop organising these overly expensive extravaganzas if people could just woman up and say "no, it's too expensive"

That's so inconsiderate! I'm really sorry that happened to you.

I’ve never accepted an invite to a hen do abroad because I can’t justify the cost. Happy with drinks, dinner, afternoon tea, spa day etc so usually below £200.

It's ridiculous. The whole hen/stag weekend aboard thing started when you could get a return flight for £20 and much of the newly expanded Eurozone was a lot cheaper then the UK. Neither of which are case anymore.

Hundreds…. Not thousands!