to want to shove an organic carrot up the bum of Mrs I Can Parent Better Than You?

[StripeyMama]

Aaaaarrrgghhh.

One of the parents at dd's kindergarten is really starting to feck me off. She seems to think that I can't cope because I am a single parent, which is just ridiculous and offensive. She never offers any constructive help (like a lift when its pissing down) but endless interfering and 'advice'. Its almost laughable as her ds is a whingy little so-and-so who gets away with all sorts - not that dd is an angel but I deal with her behaviour in an appropriate way rather than muttering about "Indigo children" and offering biscuits.

She had the nerve to pick my dd up and cuddle her when I was in the middle of telling her off for swearing at me and trying to bite my hand.

I was once trying to get dd to put her coat on, and said there would be no cake from the cake stall until she did it. Woman then said to dd "Just put it on, you can always take it off after you've had a cake"

Its just constant bloody undermining in the guise of helpful advice and tbh I could poke her in the eye for it.

I'm not going to bother saying anythng as dd is leaving the kindergarten tomorrow anyway but raaaaaaah it has been irritating me.

Aah thats better for offloading it,

Can you start doing the same, interfering with whatever she doing.

Although if it ws me i would be telling her to mind her own business and concentrate on her own child while i deal with mine. But i'm a stroppy moo .

what are panda pops?

Blueskythinker - where have you been to not know what a panda pop is?!

I don't know. Are they bad?

Worse than fruit shoots..

Now I have to admit that I didn't know fruit shoots were bad, but I don't have kids to see their effects, do they send kids batty?

She sounds like she is trying to give you constructive help

Mine seem to like them

You can of course try to identify her specific areas of preciousness and try to beat her at her own game. I have derived a certain amount of entertainment this way:

Precious Mum: Ah, we think it is so important that little Socrates should be raised in a Montessori setting where they really understand about nurturing a child's individuality. We can't imagine why some people don't seem to care about fostering their child's creativity and imagination.

Me (with child at state school): Really? (raises eyebrows) Well, I'm afraid my husband and I could never contemplate that. You see, we think it is absolutely crucial for our children's later development that they should be raised on sound environmental principles. We wouldn't dream of putting them in a situation where they had to travel by car every day. (smiles patronisingly and half lifts arm as if threatening to give other parent a condescending pat)

(never mind that I can't drive anyway because of my crap eyesight, and I'd be far too lazy to do it if I could when the local infants is literally round the corner)

Firstly, pmls at Indigo Children link.

Second, this panda pop discussion is very topical for me as last night I was about to come on mumnset and post that yesterday I came out of a shop that sells Panda Pops, and witnessed a young mum standing in the doorway, decanting blue panda pop into the bottle of her child who looked about 9m old.

I felt like rushing back in and buying her the healthier option of a fruit shoot

And thirdly, still pmsl about Indigo Children.

YABU.

FFS.

Make it a non organic frozen chicken burger.

They still do blue panda pops?

You can still buy them round here! It was in one of those discount toiletries/bargain shops so probably a lot cheaper to buy a panda pop than go next door to boots for a bottle of water....

Definitely go with Tenacious' idea or variations on. She is deliberately undermining you. Although if her kid does hit the roof in a blue pop high, it will only confirm her in her opinion that hers is the only way to parent...

And may I join in the collective snort about Indigo Children (aka Children whose parents are too feeble to stand up to their kid)

LOVED that indigo children link...
got to the bit about avatar and snorted coffee out of my nose! Quite painful you know

Indigo = DS's choice of colour for decorating the kitchen wall yesterday

Should I be smug?

Ugh. I'd just say to her can you stfu please, rather than try and encourage my daughter to misbehave.
Or a 'She's only like this when she is round you, you know they say indigo children can sense things, have you ever been to see a spiritualist, I think you may have problems on the horizon' type ramble.

Re the Indigo Children link: I am more at a child being called Dusk

WTF????

Traits of the indigo child:

They come into the world with a feeling of royalty (and often act like it)

They have a feeling of "deserving to be here," and are surprised when others don't share that.

Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents "who they are."

They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).

They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.

They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don't require creative thought.

They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like "system busters" (nonconforming to any system).

They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.

They will not respond to "guilt" discipline ("Wait till your father gets home and finds out what you did").

They are not shy in letting you know what they need.

YANBU!

Hmmm there seems to be a large overlap between "Indigo child" and that "poncey child" thread from a while back!

Think ds ticks rather a lot of boxes on that list

Hmm so Indigo children are basically spoilt brats who prefer to be in a pack?

Like wild animals methinks...

oh crap..according to that list my 2 boys are definatly indigo...little buggers.