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To say the word “boobs” in front of prudish SIL

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Sloan878787 · 13/01/2024 02:31

BIL/SIL’s with MIL. We had a nice festive catchup with them and SIL’s sister. SIL comes from a very prudish family and at one point I used the word “boobs” whilst talking about lingerie and she gasped and chuckled in a joky way. Thought nothing more of it until this Thursday.

Thursday just gone MIL was telling me that when SIL/BIL were round theirs the other day she mentioned she was shocked that I used the word “boobs” in company and she personally would have used “breasts or bosoms” instead.

I thought it was bloody pathetic that over a fortnight later she was gossiping about the fact I’d uttered “boobs” and not “breasts/bosoms”. I didn’t even think “boobs” was vulgar to be honest, just informal and casual. She’s such a wet lettuce and a prude!! Should I really have said “breasts or bosoms” or is she being pathetic??

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Createausername1970 · 13/01/2024 08:06

Oneofthesurvivors · 13/01/2024 07:42

I feel like only women like Lady Sybil Vimes have bosoms.

Oh 😢. Sam Vimes is my favourite character ever in a book. I grieved Terry Pratchett when he died, but I also grieved for his characters, especially Sam Vimes.

But, yes, agreed. Lady Sybil definitely had bosoms.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/01/2024 08:06

'Bosoms' gives me a vision of someone folding their arms underneath and hoiking them up.

Mothership4two · 13/01/2024 08:07

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/01/2024 07:58

Bristol Cities. In cockney rhyming slang you only say the first bit that doesn't rhyme.

You used to hear it in UK TV comedy shows in 70s (and probably 80s). I remember hearing it as a kid

AhBiscuits · 13/01/2024 08:09

Boobs 😱

I call them my Filthy Pillows.

niceladyatthedrs · 13/01/2024 08:09

Bosoms makes me think of the Les Dawson Cissie & Ada sketch! I'd also be playing bosom bingo with her now-let the fun begin....

SgtJuneAckland · 13/01/2024 08:20

You need to address if directly with SIL,
"I am appalled to have caused you any offence by my use of the term boobs, I had already mentally discarded melons, norks, bazookas, jugs and breasticles as too gauche , the Mitchell brothers, the girls and Phil and Ted as too opaque and tits as a little brash. I could always just (make two handed squeezing gesture and loud honking sound) in future for discretion? What do you think is best? ,"

FuckinghellthatsUnbelievable · 13/01/2024 08:27

I read a lot of historical romance novels in my youth. Lots of bosoms and gasping too.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 13/01/2024 08:28

I got ‘told off’ for saying I’d bought a a new coat, a double breasted coat. Mind you the person telling me off is my 13 year old grandson. “Grandma! Why did you say breast?” I had to explain it’s a style of coat that’s crosses over the breast area twice with a double row of buttons unlike a single breasted coat.
I understood his embarrassment because he’s 13.
I’d find it difficult to understand a grown woman’s pearl clutching at the word ‘Boobs’.

maslinpan · 13/01/2024 08:39

My great grandmother was so prudish that she was unable to ask for a piece of chicken breast, she always called it "white meat".

Shade17 · 13/01/2024 08:40

Definitely don’t play Me Julie by Ali G next time you see her, don’t do that at all 🤣🤣

gardenfoundry · 13/01/2024 08:43

"I went to M&S and bought a new bra. Makes me knockers look incredible!"

JudgeJ · 13/01/2024 08:43

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/01/2024 04:03

Just here for the bosoms really, who the fuck says 'bosoms' now?

Boobs is fine. Perfectly normal. Ditto the suggestion to find a new term for them, in front of her, every time. I submit, 'funbags' and 'chesticles'.

Nothing new about chesticles !

strawberryandtomato · 13/01/2024 08:43

Bosom gives me the ick

capnfeathersword · 13/01/2024 08:48

My mum (in her 70s) is the only person I know who says bosoms, and she even says that like she's saying a forbidden word! She absolutely thinks 'boobs' is vulgar, we weren't allowed to say it as kids! How old is SIL?

ChaToilLeam · 13/01/2024 08:52

I think you should make a bingo card for the family and then try to use as many different terms as possible. 😆

RedToothBrush · 13/01/2024 08:52

Next time see how many words relating to breasts you can mention. "I do love a blue tit".

Honest to god it's 2023 she needs to get over herself.

I wouldn't indulge it.

MillicentRogers · 13/01/2024 08:54

Milkers.

ManateeFair · 13/01/2024 08:57

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/01/2024 08:06

'Bosoms' gives me a vision of someone folding their arms underneath and hoiking them up.

I’m properly laughing at the idea of a grown woman who is shocked by the word ‘boobs’. Incredible.

MillicentRogers · 13/01/2024 08:58

Make her this for her next birthday present

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/221758673/boobie-scarf-pdf-pattern

RedToothBrush · 13/01/2024 08:58

"I love 'allo 'allo. The fallen Madonna with the big boobies always had me in stitches"

"Thanks for the mammories"

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 13/01/2024 09:00

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/01/2024 03:58

"Bosoms"? Does anyone say that ever?

They did in the 70's

TheDogsMother · 13/01/2024 09:00

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 13/01/2024 05:12

Yes, I’d drop in a few softly spoken cunts when it is just the two of you!!!

🤣🤣

LlynTegid · 13/01/2024 09:01

I could understand not wanting to talk about lingerie when men are present, but not being offended by boobs being the term used.

HarpyRampant · 13/01/2024 09:01

If we’re having a competition about verbally-prissy SILs, mine refused to allow her small children to say ‘wee’ or ‘poo’. Even as toddlers, they had to say ‘urine’ and ‘excrement’.

CaineRaine · 13/01/2024 09:01

I’m on page 4 of replies and still chuckling at Phil & Grant 🤣

Knockers is my go-to when talking flippantly about them.

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