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Did you freak out when you turned 40?!

84 replies

Cloud44 · 11/01/2024 20:00

Turning 40 this year and feeling a wobbly about it - how did you feel turning 40?!

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Am I being unreasonable?

66 votes. Final results.

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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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EC22 · 11/01/2024 20:02

I had a massive party, had a great night and didn’t have any wobbles at all.

i do wonder if 50 might be my wobbly year but its just getting older so i hope not.

Dilbertian · 11/01/2024 20:02

No. My wobble was when I turned 30. By the time I turned 40 my life was so different, so busy, that it barely mattered. The next time I had a wobble was when my eldest dc turned 18.

upanddownandupanddown · 11/01/2024 20:03

I’m turning 40 this year too; and I’m not bothered in the slightest! My husband and most of my friends are in their 40s and 50s so it doesn’t feel old at all to me. I’m quite looking forward to it actually!

WhereverIlaymycatthatsmyhome · 11/01/2024 20:03

Consider the alternative.

Ageing is a privilege denied to many.

WandaWonder · 11/01/2024 20:05

I figured it was going to happen regardless so just let it happen

MsVestibule · 11/01/2024 20:05

I found turning 30 more difficult as I wasn't really very happy with where I was in my life. By the time I was 40, I was happily married with two children, new house, life was great. Ditto 50!

PollyOrange · 11/01/2024 20:06

I know I'll find 50 really tough but 40 was great.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 11/01/2024 20:07

No, I had a very slight wobble at 30. None at 40 or 50!

Dammitthisisshit · 11/01/2024 20:08

WhereverIlaymycatthatsmyhome · 11/01/2024 20:03

Consider the alternative.

Ageing is a privilege denied to many.

This.

BeaRF75 · 11/01/2024 20:09

No. What's wrong with being 40? Or 50? Or 60?

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 11/01/2024 20:09

I didn’t mind. Awesome celebration , fab gifts and I still feel about 30 so don’t really see the issue!

Sar198 · 11/01/2024 20:10

No but I did get horribly drunk and was in bed for 8pm and everyone else carried on the party without me, I woke up about 11pm to hear Prosecco corks popping, it was like I'd died and could hear my own wake

*I should add I got horribly drunk through seeing lots of people I'd not seen for a while, all insisting on buying me drinks, and me thinking I could drink like I was 20 not 40, not down to some depression / wobble about being 40!

Strugglingtodomybest · 11/01/2024 20:10

I looked forward to turning 40 tbh, I was looking forward to feeling more secure in myself as I aged.

I had a massive party (joint with 2 others), invited everyone I'd ever known, and got hammered! It was great fun 😁

sammylady37 · 11/01/2024 20:10

I used it as an excuse to cast off shackles and go a bit wild!

KnowledgeableMomma · 11/01/2024 20:10

Currently I'm 42. 40 was no big deal as I was just happy to have made it to 40! (Had a lot of medical issues beginning at 38). Weirdly, 25 hit me hard because I kept thinking, 25% of my life was over, a whole 1/4. (I guess I naturally thought I'd live to 100, then?? 😆).

My mom is 63 and just last year has started to seem much older and frailer. So I think 60 may hit me hard when I get close.

Silmar · 11/01/2024 20:10

It’s no different than the day before or after. You are still you, with all of your good and bad points. If you go into it feeling like it’s a tragedy then it will be. If you go into it feeling like it’s a privilege and a celebration then it will be. Then one thing I did feel was that I needed to make a commitment to be better and improve myself. It’s a beginning not an end.

WonderingWanda · 11/01/2024 20:11

40 felt OK...mid 40's is feeling a bit weird, not quite sure where I fit. I don't feel middle aged (despite clearly being middle aged) and looking fairly middle aged, but I don't feel young. I hate shopping for clothes, lots of stuff looks too young for me and everything looks else too frumpy for me.

LoreleiG · 11/01/2024 20:11

No, I didn’t. I enjoyed turning 40 as I had a great night out, also all my friends were too so it would have been weird not to!

RaininSummer · 11/01/2024 20:12

No. Haven't freaked out at any age. Better than not having a birthday.

GreyhpundGirl · 11/01/2024 20:12

I didn't care. Recently turned 47. Measuring anything by how many times you've been around the sun, especially if it has a 0 at the end is arbitrary at best.

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 11/01/2024 20:12

I loved it. Really coming into my own in my 40s. More happy in my skin and in charge of my own life than ever before.

googledidnthelp · 11/01/2024 20:12

I'll let you know real soon!

I definitely wasn't happy turning 30, however I felt I had some big milestones missing from my life. Now I don't do think I'm more at peace with 40 for that reason - could all be different in the day though!

NotSuchASmugMarriedAnymore · 11/01/2024 20:14

it was just another day for me. I mean I got presents and cake and went for a meal but i do that for all my birthdays really. So it was a normal but special day if that makes sense.

All2Well · 11/01/2024 20:14

I'm going to be 40 very soon. Turning 30 was more traumatic as was turning 35. I'm single and childless so it feels there's a lot to be sad and disappointed about but honestly, I've been through a lot and I'm determined to focus on the positives and not spend life miserable. I've matured a lot in the past 10 years, the pandemic and heartbreaks have changed me...I see that 10 years ago I was far too dramatic about the milestone birthday and I don't want to do that again.

40 doesn't mean much, it's just a measure of time, that's all. Age means nothing. It's life, and love (in whatever form it may take), that matter.

Globules · 11/01/2024 20:15

I loved turning 40. I had a wonderful 90s themed party that was so much fun. Wasn't bothered about the change in decade at all.

My 40s have easily been the best decade of my life so far. So liberating. So comfortable in my skin. So confident in who I am and who I want to be.

I'm turning 50 soon. I'm really looking forward to the celebrations and what the new decade is going to bring. Very exciting times.

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