School confiscating phone

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AIBU to think secondary school should not keep confiscated mobile phone overnight?

12 year old dd walks home alone and school had confiscated her phone during the day (this I fully support as discipline for breaching rules).
But they refused to return at end of day unless a parent collects it.

I'm a single parent and work fulltime, so unavailable during school opening hours to collect it. I feel very upset the school see fit to send her off on a lone walk home without it. I was oblivious, at work assuming she has the device to call for help if there was an emergency. We don't have a landline so, it remains her only method of communication if a disaster happened at home.

Do other schools do this?
I don't understand the logic of it having to be returned to a parent. Surely most parents work and are unable to collect before the school closes which is about 4pm.

Why is one child being held responsible for their sibling???

OP give them a ring and see if they will give her it back. Stress you are a working single parent so can't collect and they are putting DD in danger.

I wish school would just let kids use technology as the reality is they will soon be off to uni/work with free access to phones

@Soontobe60 and how on earth did he contact mummy to sort it out for him without his phone?

I think I have read this post before, and the answer is still the same. They want to inconvenience the parents so that they in turn effect change on the childrens behaviour. If your childs behaviour is resulting in the phone getting confiscated, then your child is at fault.

My son actually didn’t do any wrong and received countless awards and walked out with top grades. You need to give your head a wobble if you think someone’s child is a problem as he once (in 7yrs there) had his phone confiscated. It’s laughable how some posters on here think they can label someone as a problem child from one incident. Sitting outside with a friend on their phone. Anyway not having this conversation as your opinion is ridiculous and couldn’t be further from the reality of my son who caused the school no problems when he was there for 7yrs. But hey ho, carry on making up ridiculous assumptions

He had to pick her up once because I was on a training course and dad was working overseas. I think he could manage to do that once.

@Zanatdy so you assume that OPs child is also perfect, so should escape consequences?

How did your son contact mummy to tell her he couldn't pick up the little sister she'd made him responsible for?

Although I fail to see why a phone was needed for that?

Spot on.

@kisstheblarney ,

It’s secondary school. Pick the kid sister up first and come back for the older child.

Parents get a copy of the school’s policy, which allows them to keep children for 15 minutes (sometimes more) without notice. A cheeky school near me lets the children out at 3:30 but has an official finish time of 4:30. That’s so they can give one hour’s detention at no notice. It is a surprisingly popular school as it gets good results.

@Zanatdy amazing how the only day he ever picked her up he has his phone confiscated 🤐

@Zanatdy so he contacted mummy in the training course for the be tone he got his phone confiscated and had to collect his sister?

How did he manage that? I presume the school had to intervene and help him?

That was good of them, given he'd obviously broken rules.

Snap!

It's about following the rules. Yes you are both inconvenienced. Tell him to follow the rules going forward! I would fully support the staff, it must be a nightmare for them with children always trying to be on screens.

I wish school would just let kids use technology as the reality is they will soon be off to uni/work with free access to phones

Plenty of people work in jobs where they don't have free access to their phones. There's already a recruitment and retention crisis in education. I can't imagine anyone would train to be a teacher if schools allowed a class of 30+ students to freely use their phones.

So the mobile now stays at home to be used by her if there is an emergency. Presumably the walk to school is safe, otherwise why do it? She doesn't need the phone at school.

She can leave it at home then. Natural consequences.

whats wrong with posters on here these days? Make up absolute rubbish in their minds from one comment. Yes my son only ever picked his sister up once and yes that day he had his phone confiscated (only time ever). What’s so hard to believe about that?

Isn’t it just

No the school phoned me as he told them he had to pick up his sister

@Zanatdy an amazing chain of events....

Who contacted you to tell you his phone had been confiscated? How did you know?

I don't understand the logic of it having to be returned to a parent

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@BambooFridge It's a nudge to get your child to follow the rules. Just like detention, when you miss the school bus and need to be collected by a parent.

Yeah you guys are right, he had to pick her up every single day, poor kid worked to the bone having to help out. And he got his phone confiscated every day as he was such a tear away and constantly disrupted his classes. Is that what you want to believe? Instead of the fact he was a model pupil who got 97% in his A level exams which was one of the highest marks in the country in his maths A level and he never had a detention and won countless awards. And he got his phone taken once, yes on the only day he had to pick up his sister. Anyway last comment from me as I’m off to work and not sitting here listening to posters re-writing history as they’ve decided my kid is a little shit because he once had his phone taken. Couldn’t be further from the truth, some parents can raise good kids, it is possible. And some kids might break an occasional rule but that doesn’t make them a bad person. Go and do something useful with your days instead of making up compete rubbish about other peoples kids

The school reception contacted me

Whoops

I don't understand the logic of it having to be returned to a parent
This is baffling to me, especially as you say it's going to be inconvenient to you, so you have worked it out.

It's inconvenient for schools to be constantly dealing either phone incidents. To be worried about being filmed, to have to contact parents and store phones etc. to have parents making up transparent nonsense about why their child must absolutely have a phone, we had a major hoo-haa at our school where the parent insisted their chiid was looking at the time.

It all takes up time when everyone involved should be doing something else. Not just you.

@quisensoucie visiting my home town in the summer and going for a walk I discovered the 3 phone boxes that were on my old school walk home have now been removed.
3 - within a 20 minute walk.
That's why parents give their children phones these days.