AIBU to not to go back to baby sensory

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I booked a course of baby sensory type classes for little one. He's six weeks old.

Went to the class today and all the other babies were awake. My one wouldn't wake up... nappy change, go outside, lifting him up.... nothing.

I started to panic and the course leader called an ambulance.

All was ok.

AIBU to not go back; I feel so embarrassed.

Little one sleeps for ages and especially in that part of the morning:

Ah no, it's not embarrassing. You should go back OP with your head held high!!

You're new to the game and a bit anxious, it's totally normal.

At that age, the classes are for the mums anyway!

Oh bless you! That must have been a horrible experience. Babies of that age do sleep a lot and the classes are more for Mum to socialise than baby. Don't let it put you off going to classes again but don't feel that you need to at this age either. It might be a good idea to go back to that class next week though, just so it doesn't become a "thing" for you and stop you going out with baby in the future?

Congrats on your new baby!

Only go back if you think you’ll enjoy it… don’t force yourself if not. Maybe give it one more week and then decide if you want to keep going.

6 weeks is a little young for classes… they’re not really bothered (as you discovered!) so you’re only going for your benefit.

Go back! If there was enough worry to call an ambulance then others were clearly worried too. What were the rest of the mums doing when you were trying to rouse baby? It must've been very obvious something was wrong and not your fault.

I wonder if he is a bit too young for baby sensory classes at the moment as at 6 weeks they still tend to sleep for long periods during the day. I would wait until he’s a bit older and then go back. If you speak to the group leader and say after what happened today you don’t feel that either of you is ready and can you defer for a few weeks I’m sure they will be fine with it.

My baby slept through her first Baby Sensory class! But no, nothing to be embarrassed about. Noone will judge you.

Did they call an ambulance because they thought something may be wrong with the baby?

It was some baby class for 6-6 months.

Yea he's prob too young but all I hear is other mums saying how their baby doesn't sleep and starting to smile at them.

That’s a really good idea actually. Instead of loosing your money see if you can transfer to the next block of classes.

And then there’ll probably be different mums so you won’t feel so self conscious.

Oh sweetheart, don’t be hard on yourself, you had a baby six weeks ago! If you enjoyed the class go back next week and enjoy the sleepy newborn stage. My littlest is 18 months and is completely tearing the house apart already - toddlerhood is something else 😁

Are you saying you woke your sleeping baby to take part in the class? These classes are for you. Baby isn't bothered at all. Save your money, leave your baby to rest and wait until they're out of the fourth trimester and can actually enjoy it, awake.

Maybe you could ask the course leader if there is a time you could move to when baby might be more awake? I know when mine was that tiny I was very choosy about timings of such classes to ensure he'd be awake, fed and happy.

Why not ask to change class times for a later class when they are more likely to be awake?

As PPs have said, they are more about the mum than tge baby. I've had 2 kids through baby sensory, the first was awesome, from 6 weeks till graduation at age 1, went along with a group of us and we did lunch/coffee/cake after. Great fun.

Secon it was just me and DS2, it just seemed like a chore tbh, but Ds2 liked it so I did a block then didn't go back. But by that time we had enough toys at home to occupy us, where we didn't with our first baby

Oh bless you. Don’t feel embarrassed, you are so new to this! Everyone is just winging it, I promise. If going is good for you and gets you out the house then go back, absolutely nobody will be judging you or anything nasty like that! xx

A week or 2 can make a big difference in terms of interaction though.

So an 8 or 10 week old baby will be developing at a different rate to yours. You might be thinking "well there's only 2 weeks or so between them so why isn't mine doing that?" but they're all so different, so don't worry about comparing them at that age.

Don’t be embarrassed! Everyone is just figuring parenthood out as they go, and you’re always sensible to have your baby checked if you think something might be wrong (even if all turns out well).

I find it hard to interact with him so I thought the class would be good for me to learn as well

If their babies are smiling at them, they are a lot older than 6 weeks.

Go back at 12 weeks, when your baby is old enough to enjoy it. Think we started taking DS from about 4-5 months, though he was prem so maybe 3-4 months corrected age?

My 5th always used to sleep at baby groups until he was about 18 months. The car journey used to send him to sleep. Unlike my first who was born active and hardly ever slept.

Don’t be hard yourself. At that age they’re squishy little potatoes, they just need to be cuddled, warm, clean and fed, that’s all they care about.

I used to feel like a had to constantly be giving my baby some kind of educational input, talking or singing etc. Probably because I was bored, I drove myself mad. Really wish I had been more relaxed.

That’s because he’s 6 weeks! You aren’t doing anything wrong OP. At 6 weeks all they do is feed, cry and sleep. It’s why ~ 5-8 weeks is often cited as being about the hardest of the newborn stage. You’ve had brutal weeks of sleep deprivation and being constantly needed, the excitement and novelty has firmly gone, your hormones are still everywhere AND you still aren’t getting much in return. I promise he’ll wake up to the world in the next few weeks to months and you’ll see his personality coming through and then baby groups become lovely. I was at one with my 6 month old today and it was so fab, much better than even before Xmas!

Google says it's 6 weeks?

@VivaVivaa thank you

Oh bless you, I've got a photo of my dead-to-the-world 6 week old balanced on a sparkly beach ball at baby sensory. She was always awake after that one!
You're not missing anything by waiting a little longer for baby classes, but you're absolutely fine to be there and should hold your head up high if you want to continue.
This will be a funny story in years to come I promise

I’ve had one very difficult baby who cried a lot and one sleepy potato who didn’t do much other than exist. Neither were reliably socially smiling until more like 9-10 weeks. In fact the colicky, unsettled one was smiling first I think!