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AIBU to not to go back to baby sensory

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babysensoryclass · 09/01/2024 19:50

I booked a course of baby sensory type classes for little one. He's six weeks old.

Went to the class today and all the other babies were awake. My one wouldn't wake up... nappy change, go outside, lifting him up.... nothing.

I started to panic and the course leader called an ambulance.

All was ok.

AIBU to not go back; I feel so embarrassed.

Little one sleeps for ages and especially in that part of the morning:

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HiCandles · 09/01/2024 20:20

babysensoryclass · 09/01/2024 20:11

Google says it's 6 weeks?

You might see a smile at 6 weeks but it's another few weeks before smiles come readily and regularly. My DS started baby sensory at 4 weeks but was just wide eyed taking it all in until about 3 months. I went for the mum chat and something to get us out the house!

missmarplesapprentice · 09/01/2024 20:22

We did baby sensory from 12 weeks alongside a fiend who’s baby was only 4 weeks. They came every week even though a lot of the time she was asleep until she got a bit older. It was just as important for my friend to get out and have something to focus on. As time went on they start to be more awake for the class and it helps.

Don’t be embarrassed, everyone there is a mum and will want to be there to support rather than judge. you could always drop the class teacher a message and let her know your concerns.

Jewnicorn · 09/01/2024 20:27

I started baby sensory with my youngest when she was 2 weeks old. She slept through probably the first month of classes but it was an excellent excuse to get out of the house and I got lots of ideas for stuff to do at home with her. She’s now 16 months and toddlersense classes are probably her favourite thing in the world.
Do they offer Hello Baby classes and could you see about switching to those? They’re birth to 12 weeks and more about massage and gentle soothing activities for younger babies.

80skid · 09/01/2024 20:38

It's totally up to you. I would imagine the other mums would be pleased you see you and relieved all is ok - probably worrying for them as well as you.

Don't not go out of embarrassment, you did nothing wrong and neither did your baby.

mynameiscalypso · 09/01/2024 20:43

I started taking DS at 5 weeks because I wanted to get out the house. He either slept the whole time and would see it as an opportunity to do a massive poo. It was really a chance for me to practice leaving the house and getting into a routine though. He derived no benefit from it until he was much older!

Butterandtoast · 09/01/2024 20:44

Please don't feel embarrassed op!

Definitely keep going, you'll enjoy the company and it gets you both out of the house. You might find your baby wakes up next time and enjoys it.

Interaction wise, just lots of cuddles, eye contact and smiles is all your baby needs. Try not to overthink it.

I have two, one was a smiler, the other hardly ever smiles, you have to work really hard to get one 😄 he's 18 months now and still hardly smiles.

anniz91 · 09/01/2024 20:48

babysensoryclass · 09/01/2024 19:50

I booked a course of baby sensory type classes for little one. He's six weeks old.

Went to the class today and all the other babies were awake. My one wouldn't wake up... nappy change, go outside, lifting him up.... nothing.

I started to panic and the course leader called an ambulance.

All was ok.

AIBU to not go back; I feel so embarrassed.

Little one sleeps for ages and especially in that part of the morning:

I'm doing baby sensory right now and I'm on my last session.

I went with baby when he was 3 months old and to be honest with you he only started actually engaging and enjoying them when he was 5 months.

But do go! I'm just saying I wish I would have saved the money and went when he was more aware.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 09/01/2024 20:51

I'd try baby massage instead if you want to go to a group.....sounds like he might enjoy it more. He's really little still. Don't be embarrassed though...never be embarrassed, it's a steep learning curve!

familyissues12345 · 09/01/2024 21:00

Ah please don't feel embarrassed OP, you have done nothing wrong!

Also, please don't fret about your little one not smiling at 6 weeks, it's very much a guide not a definite thing

planetarynoodle · 09/01/2024 21:03

Ignore Google. Ignore the other mums. Focus on you right now. It is boring at times.

ClimbingHydrangea · 09/01/2024 21:08

I asked my midwife if there was something wrong with my newborn as they just slept all the time. She laughed (not horribly) and reassured me. They still like their sleep now 3 years on. Please don’t worry OP, all first time parents have had a moment. It’s terrifying being so responsible for something so small.

MumblesParty · 09/01/2024 21:09

DS1 slept through baby massage, baby music, baby everything really. I only went for the change of scenery and to meet people, or at least speak with some adults.

chickpea1982 · 09/01/2024 21:16

Honestly, 6 weeks is way too young for baby sensory. They can't see very much at that age - it's all still very fuzzy - and they need a lot of rest. And they don't need lots of entertainment when they are that young - it's enough just looking around at their normal environment. I'd also worry about overstimulating them, and ending up with a cranky, crying baby in the middle of a baby group. I did this with my first, and eventually realised that it wasn't actually enjoyable for my baby until he got a bit older. I'd say it would be more suitable from about 4 months.

ClimbingHydrangea · 09/01/2024 21:24

DH and I were laughing at a picture yesterday of our then 2 month old sound asleep at a Botanical Gardens. It was 2020 and I had had a complete meltdown that the baby wasn’t getting enough sensory stimulation because of lockdowns. Slept through the entire trip to the Botanical Gardens. I was so upset at the time. Very funny now.

babysensoryclass · 09/01/2024 21:47

MumblesParty · 09/01/2024 21:09

DS1 slept through baby massage, baby music, baby everything really. I only went for the change of scenery and to meet people, or at least speak with some adults.

That's why I'm going. So I don't feel like I'm doing nothing all day.

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babysensoryclass · 09/01/2024 21:48

It was baby sensory type class.... no idea what it was to be honest. Cringey baby class lol

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Midwinter91 · 09/01/2024 21:58

6 weeks is too young I would go back around 12 weeks onwards

mumsytoon · 09/01/2024 22:01

These classes are sooo completely unnecessary at 6 weeks old. It's purely for you, not your baby.

Sparklesocks · 09/01/2024 22:05

OP you’re doing great going to baby classes at 6 weeks! At that stage I was still in the bleary ‘getting out for a walk is an achievement even if I don’t wear a bra for it’ stage 😄

Don’t be embarrassed. I’m sure they were just relieved your baby was okay.

My DD was a bit older and screamed through her first sensory class, then slept through her second. Money well spent 🙄

if you’re not up for it then that’s fine, try and defer as pp suggested - but please don’t only avoid it because you’re embarrassed. Parents get it.

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 09/01/2024 22:08

Baby sensory is only for you op, go if you want too your baby won't care less.

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 10/01/2024 16:44

There isn't much to interact with, small babies are boring! They just need sleep held, fed changed, gazed at and spoken too

Nagado · 10/01/2024 17:01

Bugger what Google says. Babies are notoriously bloody awkward when it comes to doing things. Give it a few months and your DC will be way ahead in some things, slightly behind in others and dead on schedule with the rest. Also, bugger what the other mums are saying. It’s only natural to want to tell everyone what a child prodigy you have, simply because they smiled a week before Google says they should have. It doesn’t actually mean anything at this stage (although my DN is actually a genius 😉).

I’d try with a baby massage class at this age. It gets you out of the house and teaches you things you’ll be able to do to relax him when you’re at home together. And if he’s asleep, it won’t be a waste of your money. And then maybe give sensory another go in a little while. Do you drive? We take our DN to classes in various different towns on the days we have him because the times work better for his naps and meal times. And some are just more enjoyable than others.

Barrante87 · 10/01/2024 17:06

Is there a reason you were trying to wake him up? Were you concerned about him and trying to check he was ok? I don't see why you need to be embarrassed - if they called the ambulance they were clearly worried and so it's not like you were over reacting or anything?

If it's that you were trying to wake him so he could be present for the class I really wouldn't bother. He isn't going to care one bit about it at that age.

Six weeks is when (for some babies) you start getting smiles but not consistently. Also it's still the stage where it really is still potentially wind and you gradually start getting more sure that no that was definitely a smile. The bright eyed, lots of looking and smiling and not sleeping as much babies sounds like they were older.

But also don't compare yourself or your baby to others. Mine had CMPA and reflux and I used to see people do things like lie their babies flat on the floor or just take them out for coffee with friends without them screaming for literal hours and they'd just go about their normal lives and I'd feel so jealous and assumed I was doing something wrong. But he was just a difficult newborn. Once he got to about 8/9 months he was easier than most others IMO.

Go to these things for you and choose the ones you like. Let your baby sleep as they like.

I actually think the cheap/free stay and plays that you just choose whether to attend each week, usually in a church hall or whatever are better than the sensory/yoga/massage branded ones where you pay for a term upfront. And even better yet have been the free children's centre ones - they have been excellent - but they are only an hour which is a shame.

At this age you just need to keep him alive every day and let him enjoy hearing your voice and feeling your body against him. Outside of that, do the activities you like best.

As far as interacting with him, I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself with this. Mine had the audacity not to coo at the exact minute the milestones prescribed he would and the the HV told us to talk to him more. We had already been talking and singing non stop and at this point felt we had to become full time singing and dancing children's entertainers to this little potato.

I get it. As far as she knew, I might be one of those people who just played on my phone ignoring him all day or left him crying to "toughen him up". But I wasn't and if anything I was probably stimulating him too much. I feel like there's so much pressure and such high standards and it really gets hard. You're evidently doing great with him.

babysensoryclass · 10/01/2024 23:39

Barrante87 · 10/01/2024 17:06

Is there a reason you were trying to wake him up? Were you concerned about him and trying to check he was ok? I don't see why you need to be embarrassed - if they called the ambulance they were clearly worried and so it's not like you were over reacting or anything?

If it's that you were trying to wake him so he could be present for the class I really wouldn't bother. He isn't going to care one bit about it at that age.

Six weeks is when (for some babies) you start getting smiles but not consistently. Also it's still the stage where it really is still potentially wind and you gradually start getting more sure that no that was definitely a smile. The bright eyed, lots of looking and smiling and not sleeping as much babies sounds like they were older.

But also don't compare yourself or your baby to others. Mine had CMPA and reflux and I used to see people do things like lie their babies flat on the floor or just take them out for coffee with friends without them screaming for literal hours and they'd just go about their normal lives and I'd feel so jealous and assumed I was doing something wrong. But he was just a difficult newborn. Once he got to about 8/9 months he was easier than most others IMO.

Go to these things for you and choose the ones you like. Let your baby sleep as they like.

I actually think the cheap/free stay and plays that you just choose whether to attend each week, usually in a church hall or whatever are better than the sensory/yoga/massage branded ones where you pay for a term upfront. And even better yet have been the free children's centre ones - they have been excellent - but they are only an hour which is a shame.

At this age you just need to keep him alive every day and let him enjoy hearing your voice and feeling your body against him. Outside of that, do the activities you like best.

As far as interacting with him, I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself with this. Mine had the audacity not to coo at the exact minute the milestones prescribed he would and the the HV told us to talk to him more. We had already been talking and singing non stop and at this point felt we had to become full time singing and dancing children's entertainers to this little potato.

I get it. As far as she knew, I might be one of those people who just played on my phone ignoring him all day or left him crying to "toughen him up". But I wasn't and if anything I was probably stimulating him too much. I feel like there's so much pressure and such high standards and it really gets hard. You're evidently doing great with him.

I didn't want to go to a class and not do anything

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babysensoryclass · 10/01/2024 23:39

Thanks for all the advise everyone

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