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Sacked for using 'N' word

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Horrace · 08/01/2024 22:08

I don't know how to copy link sorry but has anyone been following the story of the Lloyd's bank manager who was sacked for asking a relevant question in a so called anti racism training session by his employers but in his question he used the full 'N' word.
His question I believe was how would he be expected to deal with black employees or customers speaking to each other using that word.
The trainer was so offended by the word, she had to take 5 days off work. However, he got sacked.
He has since been awarded £500,00 but no apology from Lloyd's and no job back.
As far as we know, the ridiculous incompetent trainer is still employed.

I am close to this story but afraid to say how.
But will say that I'm losing sleep and furious more and more at this bank.

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OneTC · 09/01/2024 12:21

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:18

@OneTC WTF has that got to do with anything? That he may, after these events, feel that being a ‘white middle aged man puts him at the bottom of the pile’ [misquote from memory] may or may not be valid, it is irrelevant to the facts of the case and the judgment. Try reading it. You don’t have to like him to accept that Lloyds were in the wrong in this case.

To me it speaks volumes as to the likelihood of him mis-speaking owing to disinhibition or him just being an antagonistic wanker who knew what he was doing

Marrongrass · 09/01/2024 12:22

This thread is actually the first time I've ever come across anyone referring to words by their initial outside primary school, when some children would go, "ooh I'm telling, he used the [x/y/z]-word!"

I wouldn't use such words myself, but certainly if one comes up in conversation I'd say it rather than use its initial (though of course I'd avoid saying it once it was clear which word we were referring to). I'd never heard of words being absolute unsayables, rather than their use being offensive, before.

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:25

OneTC · 09/01/2024 12:21

To me it speaks volumes as to the likelihood of him mis-speaking owing to disinhibition or him just being an antagonistic wanker who knew what he was doing

On the basis that the training session is quoted in detail throughout the judgment, the tribunal clearly had access to a recording (they are recorded as standard these days) and the Tribunal judges did not pick this up - in fact, they expressly said that his comments were not spoken with any malice. Again, I’d suggest read the flipping judgment before labelling a person an ‘antagonistic wanker’. I think your comment says more about you than it does him.

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/01/2024 12:28

britneyisnotokay · 09/01/2024 10:50

@AnonnyMouseDave no it's not acceptable and it never should be.

I can't believe the number of mugs on this thread. Even the outlets that are publishing it seem to be for a certain demographic

I do not accept that there is any word that cannot be used in the right context, not least a discussion of the word.

When you say it is never acceptable are you saying for anyone or just white people? If the latter can you not see how having different standards for different races risks division and more racism?

zendeveloper · 09/01/2024 12:29

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:25

On the basis that the training session is quoted in detail throughout the judgment, the tribunal clearly had access to a recording (they are recorded as standard these days) and the Tribunal judges did not pick this up - in fact, they expressly said that his comments were not spoken with any malice. Again, I’d suggest read the flipping judgment before labelling a person an ‘antagonistic wanker’. I think your comment says more about you than it does him.

Edited

The tribunal explicitly says that the training was deleted, despite the claimant asking for it as evidence (page 21 says that the head of the training company investigated why, so presumably it was from the organiser's side), and the evidence in front of them is witness statements and hearsay.

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:32

Oops @zendeveloper I missed that when I read it! (It was late last night.) However, clearly the witness statements did not refer to his being antagonistic, so my over all point still stands?

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 09/01/2024 12:33

I'm white and I don't think that word should be used by white people. It's a word that was appropriated by the black community in defiance of being called it by racists amongst white people.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 09/01/2024 12:34

GrammarTeacher · 09/01/2024 11:02

I'm 45. I have taught OMAM. Still don't say the word and never have. Nor is it in my class room. We can discuss it and read it without saying it aloud!

Just out of interested if the students are reading allowed to the rest of the class would it be acceptable for them to read it allowed or should they censor what they say

zendeveloper · 09/01/2024 12:36

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:32

Oops @zendeveloper I missed that when I read it! (It was late last night.) However, clearly the witness statements did not refer to his being antagonistic, so my over all point still stands?

Yes, it looks like the witness statements are all in his favour. I can see why the tribunal might be somewhat skeptical in a situation where a crucial piece of evidence is deleted when a gross misconduct investigation is ongoing, and it is the accused party who repeatedly asks the internal investigators to add it to the case. And then, the person who was off ill due to being traumatised by the event does not want to give evidence (ok, which can be understandable), but neither do two other trainers from the same company who were present in the same training meeting but did not suffer adverse consequences.

CwmYoy · 09/01/2024 12:39

Deleted for pointing out the colour of a sewing thread in the 1960s. Without mentioning the actual word.

Some very sensitive flowers about today. Historical context is important to understand.

Mods need to get a grip. Pathetic.

Charlie2121 · 09/01/2024 12:41

SleepHasEscaped · 09/01/2024 09:36

He believes white middle aged men are at the bottom. I’ve only ever heard racist people come out with shit like that.

He should have said “the n word”, not used the actual term. He’s thick at best but based on his other comment, I think he’s probably racist.

At least people won’t have to work with him now. He can spend his time with his friends who also all believe that white middle aged men are at the bottom of everything. 🧐 Now there’s a group I wouldn’t want anything to do with. Twats. I imagine a lot of people will stay away from him, he might have got a payout but he’s embarrassed himself and shown himself for what he is.

You are a mile off here.

He’s shown the system up for being total nonsense. The only reason he’s got a huge payout is because of the absurdity of the matter.

Many colleagues will be thrilled for him that he’s won. They just can’t say so publicly and in many ways that’s the reason why he got so much cash. The whole reaction and resolution is ridiculously disproportionate but I’m afraid that’s where we are as a society.

It won’t be long before someone receives a life changing payout for being erroneously hounded out of a job for using incorrect pronouns.

We appear to have lost any semblance at proportionality. Every issue is fought at the extremes which is crazy.

OneTC · 09/01/2024 12:41

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:25

On the basis that the training session is quoted in detail throughout the judgment, the tribunal clearly had access to a recording (they are recorded as standard these days) and the Tribunal judges did not pick this up - in fact, they expressly said that his comments were not spoken with any malice. Again, I’d suggest read the flipping judgment before labelling a person an ‘antagonistic wanker’. I think your comment says more about you than it does him.

Edited

You didn't read it very far if you didn't notice the recordings have been deleted

Carpediemmakeitcount · 09/01/2024 12:47

BusyMummyWrites01 · 09/01/2024 12:12

Then your understanding of dyslexia is poor. These are the ways dyslexia is often first noticed but it involves significant and complex cognitive differences and challenges, including:

  • Find it hard to listen and maintain focus
  • Find it hard to concentrate if there are distractions
  • Feel sensations of mental overload/switching off
  • Have difficulty telling left from right
  • Get confused when given several instructions at once
  • Have difficulty organising thoughts on paper
  • Often forget conversations or important dates
  • Have difficulty with personal organisation, time management and prioritising tasks

I.e. having made the effort to ask the question carefully, being asked to paraphrase it again a) may have been hard to do when he’s been put on the spot with 100 course participants watching on camera and b) mean that he believed - it being a safe space and all - that saying the word in full as a direct quote was fine.

Dyslexia is now included under the neurodiversity umbrella and as a trainer Ms Osei ought to have considered that he may have a hidden disability leading to clumsy use of language. His processing issues were also referenced in the judgment.

EDI is supposed to be inclusive of and sensitive towards all diversities - not just ones related to skin colour.

He's 59 years old he should know better but he's from Hampshire. I have friends with dyslexia who wouldn't dream of using that word because they are 1 not racist and 2 cultured. He's ignorant and uncultured and he got caught out that's why he lost his job. If you respond with well he won of course he did racism exists in the public services.

zendeveloper · 09/01/2024 12:51

He’s shown the system up for being total nonsense. The only reason he’s got a huge payout is because of the absurdity of the matter.

Just in respect of the magnitude of the payout, I don't think it is miles off from fair.
He got 480K total, 160K of which I understand goes to his lawyers. He will pay tax on the remainder of it, leaving him net around £190K in the best case. He is unlikely to be employable any more after a loud case like that in a similar role, so the money is there to compensate for the lost income for a couple of years and missed pension contributions and other possible employment perks. I don't think it is ridiculously high tbh.

Carpediemmakeitcount · 09/01/2024 12:56

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/01/2024 12:28

I do not accept that there is any word that cannot be used in the right context, not least a discussion of the word.

When you say it is never acceptable are you saying for anyone or just white people? If the latter can you not see how having different standards for different races risks division and more racism?

Are you American or British?

Zarah123 · 09/01/2024 13:00

Cavityhole · 09/01/2024 09:52

So people outside of a group, aren't meant to say a word pertaining to that group, in training sessions? 🤔 best if participants just mime and do guess what I'm trying to say.

How did the N-word slur pertain to that group?

Lasegna · 09/01/2024 13:01

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Zarah123 · 09/01/2024 13:01

OneTC · 09/01/2024 12:41

You didn't read it very far if you didn't notice the recordings have been deleted

Edited

Conveniently deleted. Sounds like a hush up.

Carpediemmakeitcount · 09/01/2024 13:02

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Err did you miss the part where I said 'If you respond with well he won of course he did racism exists in the public services.'

Lasegna · 09/01/2024 13:03

So they payout is because of racism?

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/01/2024 13:05

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 09/01/2024 12:33

I'm white and I don't think that word should be used by white people. It's a word that was appropriated by the black community in defiance of being called it by racists amongst white people.

Do you think it encourages racial harmony having a word that white people cannot use even if it is in a private chat about the use of the word, whilst a proportion of black people (esp USA to be fair, but brits see these black american speech and tweet) use it as freely as "mate" or "bro"?

I am not advocating that white start using the word, nor am I going to tell a minority that they can;t reclaim a slur. But I am going to say that the current situation is ridiculous and more likely to stoke racism than a circumstance where it was acceptable for white people to use it certain very specific contexts and black people tended to try to avoid using it because it can be perceived as hypocritical to do something whilst telling others not to.

GaterGame · 09/01/2024 13:07

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/01/2024 13:05

Do you think it encourages racial harmony having a word that white people cannot use even if it is in a private chat about the use of the word, whilst a proportion of black people (esp USA to be fair, but brits see these black american speech and tweet) use it as freely as "mate" or "bro"?

I am not advocating that white start using the word, nor am I going to tell a minority that they can;t reclaim a slur. But I am going to say that the current situation is ridiculous and more likely to stoke racism than a circumstance where it was acceptable for white people to use it certain very specific contexts and black people tended to try to avoid using it because it can be perceived as hypocritical to do something whilst telling others not to.

The kind of white people who want to use the n word aren't interested on racial harmony.

I am not advocating that white start using the word, nor am I going to tell a minority that they can;t reclaim a slur.

It sounds a bit like you are. * *

Carpediemmakeitcount · 09/01/2024 13:07

Lasegna · 09/01/2024 13:03

So they payout is because of racism?

Did you not know there was racism in the police force, fire services or from our judges???

It all started with Christopher Columbus and that's when the fuckery began. It started in England our history is dreadful and we still haven't learned.

zendeveloper · 09/01/2024 13:08

Carpediemmakeitcount · 09/01/2024 13:07

Did you not know there was racism in the police force, fire services or from our judges???

It all started with Christopher Columbus and that's when the fuckery began. It started in England our history is dreadful and we still haven't learned.

Christopher Columbus was not British.

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/01/2024 13:11

GaterGame · 09/01/2024 13:07

The kind of white people who want to use the n word aren't interested on racial harmony.

I am not advocating that white start using the word, nor am I going to tell a minority that they can;t reclaim a slur.

It sounds a bit like you are. * *

I am not racist and I want the right to use the same words as black people as a matter of principle and so that I can use the N-word when conversing about the n-word.

I am not advocating that white start using the word, nor am I going to tell a minority that they can't reclaim a slur. That is what I said and that is what I meant. I am perfectly capable of wanting things to change whilst not specifically advocating for specific parts of that change.

I am saying that the status quo risks stoking racial division (how do you think it makes a stupid racist feel to be told he cannot use a word whilst he listens to rappers use it constantly on mainstream radio? Do you think he is likely to become even more angry and racist? I do)