To ask if you notice how many likes other people get

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I don’t post often but someone in my family had achieved something so I uploaded a nice photo of them etc. Maybe it was the algorithm but it has been liked seven times in one whole 24 hour period and I feel a bit embarrassed especially given the people who liked it latterly will have noticed it had so few likes and probably think I have no friends!

I’m worried about this irrationally so. I need to get a grip I know, for it’s social media and not real life. Would you notice or start thinking if you saw your friends hadn’t had many likes on a post or would you literally just like it and move on?

Nope - it means nothing. Like you say, the algorithm has a lot to do with it, and sometimes just the way people view social media. I often forget to “like” things but I’ve seen it and I do enjoy the content. Sometimes things don’t appear for days on my feed. Sometimes it’s just the time you post.

I never, ever give any thought to how many likes a post gets

Do yourself the biggest favour of your life and get off sm. Honestly, you've gotten to the point of asking MN and questioning your worth due to the number of likes on some dumb sm post. It's fucking madness.

I need to get a grip I know, for it’s social media and not real life.

YES. Delete your accounts. You will be so glad you did. It is nothing but nonsense.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't notice but I don't care. There is actually "peak times" for posts too. If you're bothered (assuming you mean FB) you can change the part that says how many people have liked it I think it says "and others" when it has 2 likes

I can't imagine ever giving a shit about this utter bollocks.

I think you need to step away from the false and shallow world of social media. It isn't reality.

No, never. It's probable I'd not even see the post at all. I don't scroll things like that much let alone look at how many has liked it or who, anyone I actually know or am genuinely interested will presumably share any news in a whatsapp group or when I see them etc.

I think if a person is feeling this way about social media then it would be useful to take that as a prompt to think about whether it is positive for them.

Only if it's a really high amount like 100+ and I think how many 'friends' can one person have

You shouldn't stress about it. And depends what time you post it.

This is exactly why I hate social media sites with likes , it consumes people and they get fixated on how many people like a post or picture.

No. Never pay attention to likes.

I've noticed in Facebook that some people post and it just says "likes" rather than the number. I don't know how they do this??

It really isn't real life. When you worry about this, it's time for a break.

"you and others" rather than the number.

I do notice this too. Someone I know could post the more boring post but gets hundreds of likes. Yet others pass a uni course and get a handful.

My BIL is a complete arsehole and regularly posts xenophobic twaddle. That is literally the ONLY time I ever look at how many likes anyone gets. So I can say 'phew, even his friends don't agree'. Then I snooze him again.

Anyone else, I really don't even notice.

No because my life is not on the internet, I do what I want on it then have my normal life

And if you want Likes. Kids (which I don't post), dogs (which I do), beautiful scenery.

Go to settings then "reaction preferences"

Got lots of Likes on my wedding pic / new baby pic.
Other than that, not really. I post a lot less nowadays.

This is honestly a bit sad. You are a grown woman.

I agree.

It doesn't really mean that much. Some people obsessively look up and add everyone they meet in real life so have many more 'friends' to like their posts. I started a new job a few months back and within the first fortnight I had a few people trying to add me who I'd only met twice. They struck me as slightly sad individuals tbh.

Exactly this.
I've never done Facebook.
I've not missed out.

Ugh this is why I deleted fb. I was not only concerned with how many likes I got but also with whether I’d liked others posts. I found myself just liking everything that was presented to me without even having a look at the bloody post. I just started to find it toxic for me.

I actually find it a bit weird and desperate when people that aren't good mates of mine look me up and add me. Especially if I've only been introduced by my first name. Makes me think they must've done some stalking on the company intranet to find my full name or trawled through the friend list of a mutual acquaintance.

No, not in the slightest. Why would you worry about that? You've posted your stuff, your friends can see it, job done. They can respond, answer, like, add emojis, whatever, but that's on them, and they'll do that when they have time. Could be next weekend!

You move on with the next (far more interesting) thing in your day.

It registers but doesn't really mean anything to me.

In your case you've posted a photo of a family member. If I was on your sm and didn't know said family member I wouldn't like it. I only interact when I directly know the person involved.