Would you think Person B is lying?

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Person A and Person B live on a farm with lots of fences, muddy verges and machinery/equipment.

Person A and B went out for food with friends one night. On return to the house, Person A notices the fence leading to the house is partly knocked down and the long panels are snapped. It's rare other people venture up the to the farm but there was a delivery earlier that day. Person A comments 'the fence is all knocked down, someone must have reversed into it. Maybe the delivery driver'. Person B replies 'the fence posts could have rotted out. I can't see any tracks to the fence so doubt it has been reversed into'. It was dark and nothing else was said.

This morning, Person A looks at the fence again and says 'there are track marks to it actually and it's only snapped fully in one place'. Person A then notices and picks up a magnetic trailer light from the wood debris and says to Person B 'this is off the trailer you have been towing'. Person B replies 'I do not know why that is there'. Person A says 'well it's obvious why it is there. It was you who reversed into the fence and smashed it up and have since covered it up. I thought your response yesterday was odd, immediately saying you didn't think it had been reversed into'. Person B says 'it does look like I did it but I didn't have any knowledge of it and had no idea it happened as I didn't feel anything when pulling the trailer out the other day'. Person A believes Person B is lying, stating their 'odd responses' throughout the whole matter. Person B says they are categorically NOT lying and had no idea they had done it and thought rotted fence posts was more likely.

Would you believe Person B or go with Person A's theory that Person A has known they did it all along?

I'm with person A, I think person B is the annoying one. Fix him with a hard stare until he cracks 🧐

@Floooooof 😅😅

Maybe I am the annoying one. He's just so arrogant with his 'I'm a great driver and you're terrible' etc even though he seems to mess up more than I do with driving related incidents.
He is now saying he did do it and 'it crossed his mind' he did do it when I originally noticed the fence down but he definitely 'didn't know for sure he'd done it at the time so didn't admit to it'. So who knows?

It's fixed now anyway. Joint effort.

Person B hit the post with the trailer. They DID know they did it because they made up the BS about the rotting posts. Why did they lie? Because they didn’t want the grief that Person A was undoubtedly going to give them. Exactly the same reason why a toddler with a purple felt tip in his hands denies all knowledge of purple pen all over the sofa.

Person a knows the truth. Person b isn’t going to admit it. The question is why?

Haha @Moveoverdarlin good analogy!

@Starryskies1 I wonder why too! Yes I'd have nagged him to fix it and playfully mocked him for always saying he's the 'better driver' but I honestly don't think I'm a monster towards him making mistakes!

Person B needs to grow up and stop trying to fib his way out of trouble. He's not just your DH, he's your colleague and this sort of childish dodging of responsibility would annoy the shit out of me. Just fess up that you made a mistake and focus on fixing it ffs.

It was patently obvious that you were A. I am glad I am not in a marriage like yours, it must be utterly miserable. DH and I would just fix the fence.

I'd expect DH to tell me the truth about something like this, and if he didn't, it would make me question whether I could trust him to tell me other things. Pretending nothing happened and then lying about it is juvenile.

While I can understand him not wanting to tarnish his reputation as an excellent driver, considering that he has apparently joked about OP's bad driving in the past, he should be man enough to take a little light ribbing, now that he's made a mistake of his own.

I’ve read your updates but formed my opinion beforehand. I was going to say evidence is quite strong but would really depend on the person’s track record (pun not intended!).

And I also agree with this. The OP is clearly Person A too. Not sure it really matters though

Person B, if the fence was rotted you wouldn’t feel that much when reversing into it with a trailer. I mean you should be able to check the wood? And it’s been very wet.

I had a relative reverse into the door of a bmw and didn’t feel a thing! It can depend on the speed of travel.

At the end of the day it is a bit of fence and it isn’t that huge of a deal, I don’t see that much to motivate elaborate lying.

Except that person A may be liable to make a big thing out of it…

Wanting the truth and wanting your farm animals to remain in the field you put them in both seem like pretty reasonable things to me.

Person A sounds like they don't suffer fools gladly, take their work seriously and don't mess about. If I was a fool who messed around and didn't take work seriously then I might find A hard work, but she sounds like the perfect partner if you're running a farm and need to get shit done!

It does look like person B caused the damage, but he may have been unaware of this.
If he had been aware I assume he would have inspected the area and removed any evidence so as not to get nagged by person A.

Person B shouldn’t be trying to lie their way out of trouble for something that isn’t a big deal, but that doesn’t happen in relationships which are accommodating of mistakes. Perhaps rather than continuing an unnecessary argument they should think about why they’re arguing.

I never understand why people think asking around is going to give them an answer on this kind of thing.

Suppose that, nine times out of ten, you'd feel that kind of accident. Okay. But nobody can tell you whether your husband is the remaining one in ten.

You would judge this kind of situation on the person, the relationship, and the environment, which is why we can't answer your question - you have all that information. But assuming someone is lying is bad for your relationship. So don't try to delegate the decision to random people online with barely any relevant information.

I’d be concerned he didn’t remember or notice doing it. Unless he has form and is lying to avoid a ticking off.

I would always give the benefit of the doubt unless I had reason to think they would lie. I would take it really bad to be called a liar so im
not about to call someone else one unless I have proof or they have form. I hate hate hate lies

I think when you said you nag about keeping on top of little jobs. I would say your dh probably evaded telling you the truth because he thought he would be made to repair the fence immediately instead of going out that night. Or if you did go out you would have been reminding him about what he had to do the following day all evening

if person a and b live on a farm i’m sure they can afford to mend a fence post, lol.

I think that person A needs to let it go as life is too short.

Person A is a knob

I would probably question what the hell happened in my life that resulted in me trying to decide which of two, married farmers reversed into their own fence on a Saturday night.

Oh, wait...

'Was just intrigued as to how others would have perceived his response.'

This is bollocks and you know it. I used to be with someone who insisted on being right all the fucking time. Beyond tedious. Childish. Awful.