Would you think Person B is lying?

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Person A and Person B live on a farm with lots of fences, muddy verges and machinery/equipment.

Person A and B went out for food with friends one night. On return to the house, Person A notices the fence leading to the house is partly knocked down and the long panels are snapped. It's rare other people venture up the to the farm but there was a delivery earlier that day. Person A comments 'the fence is all knocked down, someone must have reversed into it. Maybe the delivery driver'. Person B replies 'the fence posts could have rotted out. I can't see any tracks to the fence so doubt it has been reversed into'. It was dark and nothing else was said.

This morning, Person A looks at the fence again and says 'there are track marks to it actually and it's only snapped fully in one place'. Person A then notices and picks up a magnetic trailer light from the wood debris and says to Person B 'this is off the trailer you have been towing'. Person B replies 'I do not know why that is there'. Person A says 'well it's obvious why it is there. It was you who reversed into the fence and smashed it up and have since covered it up. I thought your response yesterday was odd, immediately saying you didn't think it had been reversed into'. Person B says 'it does look like I did it but I didn't have any knowledge of it and had no idea it happened as I didn't feel anything when pulling the trailer out the other day'. Person A believes Person B is lying, stating their 'odd responses' throughout the whole matter. Person B says they are categorically NOT lying and had no idea they had done it and thought rotted fence posts was more likely.

Would you believe Person B or go with Person A's theory that Person A has known they did it all along?

Well person B is clearly scared of upsetting person A.

Person A is clearly like a dog with a bone especially since they have took to this forum to post such a thing!!!

So your dh reversed into a fence, maybe he didn't see it, what's the weather been like. Maybe he was afraid of being nagged to death about it.

Is the trailer missing a light?

Person B should probably be looking to get out of the relationship with person A. Both professionally and personally

I think Person B probably did do it. But I also think person A sounds incredibly hard work and I would totally lie to them as well.

This!!

I think person B probably just hit it without realising.

If I were person B, when the magnetic light was discovered I'd have said "oh bloody hell, I must have hit it with the trailer" rather than the silly "I don't know how that got there". But then, my husband doesn't accuse me of lying or over analyse my verbal responses and judge whether they are acceptable or "odd". If he did, I might tend to feel more defensive and be more likely to respond how person B has here.

Does B have form for lying would be my question really.

Yes, B could be fibbing (it would be a shame to have any fibbing at all in a marriage but especially over something quite trivial). But it’s possible B didn’t realise.

I actually thought you were B but I can see I’m wrong!

Person A sounds like an annoying twat

I don’t get the assumption that person A is hard work from what’s written. I think it’s normal to care about damage to the property and while there are various reasons people lie I wouldn’t assume it’s person A’s fault they were lied to.

I think it was strange that person B said there were no tracks in the dark and to think the posts had rotted so that would make me wonder if they were lying. Also you should be aware if you’ve reversed into something. I’d be concerned about B’s driving.

It is easy to hit something with a trailer without noticing. Particularly on bumpy ground.

It didn't work 🤣

Just gonna ditto this like many others.

couldn’t be arsed with person A’s response so covered it or didn’t even notice un till person A got all smarmy about it.

I would be fuming if someone accused me of lying and I wasn’t.

Without us seeing evidence, we can’t really judge though.

Do you honestly think he would lie about this?

Wouldn’t most people just be like “oh yeah that was me”, not create a completely different story or lie about it.

I find it really odd behaviour.

Ahh that would make more sense as to why he ‘lied’.

Doesn't matter who did it. The problem is Person A and B do not trust each other and cannot be honest for fear of reprisal (even if that reprisal is just disappointment in the other).

It sounds like A is the type that doesn't like letting it go/needs someone to be blamed and B is the type to be anxious of how they are perceived by A.

They are incompatible and a relationship without trust is a miserable one.

Person A sounds like a blooming’ nightmare to live with.

We have no way at all of knowing if B is lying (and neither does A). Sounds like they have had enough of A and the way A speaks to them.

Well, does anything matter on here?

Does it matter if it matters?

Just help the OP out by answering their query! 🙄

I guess my biggest question was 'do you think he genuinely didn't know he'd done it?

Speak volumes that is your biggest question rather than reflecting the real reasons why your dh didn't feel comfortable to just say - yes that that me (assuming he knew).

Yes you can back a trailer into something and not notice especially things like fence posts.
The posts probably were rotten as well, unless they were hit really hard.
I think it’s just one of those things especially if the yard is tight for space and it’s dark. I caught my trailer on a rock (strategically placed to stop larger vehicles taking out the fence) he other day. I thought I’d just brushed against it but damage said otherwise ( not serious)

No, I wouldn't assume they were lying.

There have been times when dp has assumed I've lied because he's been so certain his interpretation of the matter is the only correct one, until he's been faced with evidence to the contrary when he had to do a complete u-turn. Luckily, neither time did he outright accuse me of lying, he just told me afterwards he thought he had, but that was bad enough. If he had accused me I'm not sure what would have don't, as in both cases I couldn't, at the time, prove my innocence.

Sometimes the obvious answer isn't the actual answer.

Mate, that was not a success.

You just came off as Person A being a weird nitpicker that B was trying to avoid aggro from.

Well, all I can say is that there will be sheep in your garden again unless you both pitch in and fix the fence.

It does sound like person B did it.
It would also make me wonder why they didn't want to admit it to person A.
If it wasn't a huge issue to fix and person B would be the person that would be doing the fixing it makes me think they already knew person A would be unreasonable about it

Lying. I'd probably try and force a confession by asking them to call the delivery company to report it. they wont be willing to for obvious reasons.