Why are nursery fees not included in child maintenance?

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Yes, I know it’s the resident parent’s choice whether to send the child to nursery… but the reality is it’s either that or don’t work..!

I would LOVE ex to have 50/50 care of our child. I didn’t have a child expecting him to turn up once a week (at best) for half a day. I didn’t want this, he left.

And now I’m left with child maintenance which is a long way from half nursery fees. Why is nothing done about this? Women treated appallingly again.

Could he cover more childcare?

Agree 100%

Women will always put their dc first, unlike most men, if all women tomorrow took their dc to ex’s house and said they’re your responsibility now and walked off then men would get a big wake up call.
But women would never do this because their dc come first.
Many men are shite, it’s sad how disgusting men are.

The cut off for the tax relief is £100k for an individual. My partner and I earn a similar amount to you, me slightly less as I'm on 80% hours and get £500 a quarter if we put in the qualifying amount. Now my daughter has her 30 free hours our bills are now about 40% less so we don't use the full amount anymore.

We still qualify for most of the child benefit too. My partner has to do a self assessment tax return but as there are various things that come out before tax his taxable income is just over £50k rather than quite a lot over. It was an evenings work to fill the form in but we keep about 80% of the child benefit. Do claim for it and don't assume that at £58k you will lose so much it's not worthwhile claiming as it's the taxable wage that matters not the gross amount

To answer your original question. Child maintenance should cover the appropriate proportion of all reasonable costs of child care not just the bare essentials of keeping them alive. Food, clothes, child care, school trips, hair cuts all of it.

If the costs of childcare and housing were reasonable in the country, I would absolutely say that the NRP should be paying more of their wages as child support, but it isn't. We aren't going to fix any of those issues by crippling the NRP financially, whilst it still not being enough money to help the RP get back into work/get better employment opportunities.

I would much rather pay more tax for childcare than spend much more on unemployment benefits because we don't want to sort this situation out.

Men will never see us as equal if most women are being trapped as SAHPs or on low wages to fit around school hours. The only way to stop them being the "breadwinner" is to improve opportunities for women, not make it worse for men.

Every situation is different, so this feed is too broad.

I got asked to leave by a selfish ex partner who in the modern feminist world thinks she wants to do it all by herself ... Accept she doesn't... She wants UC, child benefit, maintenance, 65,% of house sale.. 👍 really independent, well done 👏 ... Oh and don't worry, the father asked to leave unexpectedly that now can't afford a pot to piss in and couldn't dream of getting back on the housing ladder, should shut the fuck up and raise his maintenance because she's so fucking hard done down by. No worries, I'll have main custody and take the benefits/UC and maintenance of you, and the so called hardship you suffer.... Yea right..not a chance, because of course you want it all.

Perhaps next time you choose to get married and have a child you should consider the commitment you made and stop chasing an Instagram life that doesn't exist 👍

Cheers guys