to find this uncomfortable

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0001010001a2 · 04/01/2024 21:00

My child, 3.5 has a grandparent (my PIL) who, when it's time to say goodbye, asks for a kiss and kisses my child on the lips. It makes me really uncomfortable for some reason and I feel it's inappropriate. I want it to stop before my child feels uncomfortable too as they're getting to the age where they soon might. I also have a 6 month old and I don't want this habit to start with them too. What can I say that's low-key enough not to cause upset but firm enough so that they know I'm not happy with it and that it never starts with my baby?

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Letsgetouttahere2023 · 05/01/2024 21:53

GRex · 05/01/2024 09:32

I find the idea of kissing any child on the lips profoundly disgusting, and would be horrified if someone tried that with mine. I don't know why you've allowed it so far, but whoever's parent it is needs to just have a clear conversation "We've decided no lip kissing for the kids, you can still kiss their cheek or forehead." It's no wonder so many people get herpes, the whole family would catch it from one person. It also muddies sexual boundaries, making it harder for children to judge what is it isn't appropriate. Anyone doing this needs to have a huge rethink.

Wow , this is so extreme !!!!.

Kissing loved ones in a non sexual way is completely normal and natural.

in some cultures it is completely the normal set up, even between adults and friends , let alone children and grandparents

It might not be for your family but "profoundly disgusting " is a very ?!?!?? position to take. So just sending hugs for whatever happened in your past to cause such trauma to lead you to this cold and lonely place xx

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