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Actor stopped because of emailer in audience

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ChangeNameLikeIChangeSocks · 02/01/2024 22:24

I just read about this in the guardian, I'll put a picture of the heading of the article.

He says he "thought" the audience member was sending emails on his laptop. I wonder how he knew that, presumably he couldn't see the screen, and signal in theatres is dreadful. I would take a punt that he was in fact playing minesweeper.

I'm going off topic. The reason I wanted to post this is because it leapt out as me as a parallel to typical behaviour in many of the (Good!) schools I've taught in. Low level disruption. Except it's not one audience (class) member, it's most of them.

So I had to smile wryly to myself that this made the national news.

Either the audience member had very good reason, or this is a natural follow on from the deterioration of respect and good behaviour in schools.

Oh actors, come teach the dear children!

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EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:49

even then, it should be on vibrate, or very low - just enough to alert you.

Obviously it's on silent 🤦🏻‍♀️

EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:51

I'm at the bottom of the hierarchy. I don't have anyone I can give work to so if I had a training course all day I might need to also do some multitasking. It's not the same as a day off.

Exactly.

I'm firmly in the middle! But my role means sometimes there's a response needed from me; I'm working, I'm on campus, so why wouldn't I do so, if I can, depending on the specific need and the course set up.

EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:51

BIossomtoes · 03/01/2024 11:39

In an adult, professional training environment, it shouldn't be done at all.

It wouldn’t have to if people behaved like adult professionals. It’s hardly difficult to turn a phone off and leave it in a bag or pocket for a couple of hours.

Read the posts explaining ...

EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:54

@KimberleyClark

Do you really not have a subordinate who can deal with urgent matters in your absence? What if you were abroad on holiday or unconscious in hospital?

Oh this is getting tiring. Read my previous posts for the already-given explanation.

It's not about 'subordinates' - though I don't ever think or refer to my team as such.

It's about something that might need a quick response, with a degree of urgency. It can be done, is completely accepted by the course facilitators (as I said, it's very common for attendees to miss part of the day to attend a meeting or teach, for example). It may not be the same in every work place but in the HE sectors, it really is.

BIossomtoes · 03/01/2024 11:54

EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:51

Read the posts explaining ...

I have. And had before I posted.

LifeonMarsnotVenus · 03/01/2024 11:55

@EarringsandLipstick

And for context, I have a university teaching role. Students are often on phones, it probably means they miss some content but it doesn't bother me. The way to minimise it is by making classes interactive so there'll be tasks / engagement required. I'd never call them out directly.

It might not bother you but it’s still inherently selfish behaviour because the person doing it clearly doesn’t give a stuff about the impact they’re having on the other students sat nearby who are trying to focus on the speaker.

As a former HoD in a University, I definitely view it as your job to deal with these types of petty disruptions.

MrsSkylerWhite · 03/01/2024 11:59

LunaNorth · Today 11:32
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Maybe we’re going back to the days of the Globe.
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The actor playing Hamlet in Shakespeare’s day would have been dodging flying orange peel and god knows what else if the groundlings weren’t happy 😀”

Tbf, they were paying hapenny for standing room and a penny for a box. Not upwards of 100 quid for West End.

Emotionalsupportviper · 03/01/2024 12:00

EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:49

Can you suggest one to use when dealing with an adult who is so self- entitled that they feel they can take phone messages/ e-mails during a training course?

You're pretty rude aren't you?

I have done so - read my posts, I'm not repeating it again.

For the last time as you seem unable to get it, it's not about 'self-entitlement'; it's about professionals doing their job & understanding boundaries - both attendees & facilitators.

And if my students need to step out or leave or take a call - they are more than welcome to and I would not for a moment consider it 'entitlement'. 🙄

You seem shockingly out of touch.

Not sure what's rude abut asking for a practical suggestion, whereas I can see a lot that is rude about disturbing a training session.

Trainers are professionals, too, and as a trainer if someone said to me that they may have to leave for any reason, I would be fine with that, but would expect them to be discreet about it.

But it's been years since I did any training, so as you say "shockingly out of touch".

I am from an era where on the whole, people attened courses to get something from them.

I wonder how people like yourself coped with their very important jobs before the advent of mobile phones? A runner with a forked stick dashing into the training hall?

Anyway - I accept that I have dinosaur opinions here, and that you are the new blood. As you were.

Gwenhwyfar · 03/01/2024 12:02

" the person doing it clearly doesn’t give a stuff about the impact they’re having on the other students sat nearby who are trying to focus on the speaker."

What impact does it have on other students though?

I'm doing an evening class. People sometimes text during the class. It doesn't affect me at all.
I use my phone to translate words because I don't want to carry a big dictionary ever week. What's wrong with that?

KimberleyClark · 03/01/2024 12:03

EarringsandLipstick · 03/01/2024 11:54

@KimberleyClark

Do you really not have a subordinate who can deal with urgent matters in your absence? What if you were abroad on holiday or unconscious in hospital?

Oh this is getting tiring. Read my previous posts for the already-given explanation.

It's not about 'subordinates' - though I don't ever think or refer to my team as such.

It's about something that might need a quick response, with a degree of urgency. It can be done, is completely accepted by the course facilitators (as I said, it's very common for attendees to miss part of the day to attend a meeting or teach, for example). It may not be the same in every work place but in the HE sectors, it really is.

You’ve not answered my question. If you were incapacitated would no one really be able to cover for you? Are you truly indispensable?

BIossomtoes · 03/01/2024 12:08

KimberleyClark · 03/01/2024 12:03

You’ve not answered my question. If you were incapacitated would no one really be able to cover for you? Are you truly indispensable?

Apparently. Because she’s a professional, dontcha know? And she’s definitely not going to let us forget it.

ErrolTheDragon · 03/01/2024 12:09

Gnomegnomegnome · 03/01/2024 11:39

It’s incredibly rude. Maybe phones/devices shouldn’t be allowed in theatres and concerts at all?

Good for the hot priest

Impractical to impound and return them, unfortunately!

There's simply no excuse for not turning them off or setting to silent or 'theatre mode', there's nearly always a reminder before the start.

artifan · 03/01/2024 12:11

Good for him, how rude!

ErrolTheDragon · 03/01/2024 12:16

Re training courses - if people are liable to miss part of them for legitimate reasons, then I would hope they're recorded or there are sufficient printed materials so you can catch up? In which case leaving the room and not coming back part way through the session seems like a good idea for minimising disruption to others.

If there are training events where it really doesn't matter if you miss a large chunk then they're probably of questionable value in the first place.

ChangeNameLikeIChangeSocks · 03/01/2024 12:17

LightSwerve · 03/01/2024 09:32

this is a natural follow on from the deterioration of respect and good behaviour in schools
Nice try at blaming schools for every social ill, @ChangeNameLikeIChangeSocks , but young people learn most of their behaviour from their parents. Teachers can't fix social problems, their job is to provide an education.

Nice try? I'm not trying anything, but do re read my op which says

it leapt out as me as a parallel to typical behaviour in many of the (Good!) schools I've taught in

Who am I blaming - I was the teacher?!

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JamSandle · 03/01/2024 12:19

DonnaBanana · 03/01/2024 09:58

Why do some people bother going to shows if they can't pay attention to them?

Not everyone wants to be there but may be dragged by family or SO. If I’m at a thing I’m not interested in I’ll listen to a podcast or something but wouldn’t get a laptop out

Why don't you just say you don't want to go?

I dont make myself go to things I don't enjoy just to disrupt those who do enjoy it.

DonnaBanana · 03/01/2024 12:20

JamSandle · 03/01/2024 12:19

Why don't you just say you don't want to go?

I dont make myself go to things I don't enjoy just to disrupt those who do enjoy it.

It's not really disruptive if no-one can even tell I'm doing it, is it? It's a whole lot better than taking a nap and snoring which would be my other alternative.

MermaidMummy06 · 03/01/2024 12:21

Not that kind of comedian. It would shatter his reputation if it was outed as staged so it's possible, but doubtful.

Either way it was hilarious. I've never seen so many people grappling to shove phones out of sight! 😂

Coolhwip · 03/01/2024 12:22

JamSandle · 03/01/2024 12:19

Why don't you just say you don't want to go?

I dont make myself go to things I don't enjoy just to disrupt those who do enjoy it.

FOMO probably. Some people can’t bear to pass up a free ticket.

DdraigGoch · 03/01/2024 12:22

*I absolutely hate this approach. It's so patronising & humiliating.
People this rude deserve to be patronised and humiliated.

ChanelNo19EDT · 03/01/2024 12:24

If it was a theatre critic typing up his review as he acted, that would be v off-putting

forcedfun · 03/01/2024 12:26

Gwenhwyfar · 03/01/2024 11:39

I'm at the bottom of the hierarchy. I don't have anyone I can give work to so if I had a training course all day I might need to also do some multitasking. It's not the same as a day off.

If one of my team was on a course I would expect them to arrange for me or someone else in the team to cover their work so they could fully focus on the course

ChangeNameLikeIChangeSocks · 03/01/2024 12:26

Yes I was a teacher and had this a lot in a number of ways.

  • Talking while I was explaining something. This led to me either stopping a lot, and just waiting, or asking them by name to stop, or just carrying on, but this has the consequence that the students around them can't hear and miss things. It's a tricky thing to police. If any of them do miss the learning, including the talker themselves, you as teacher can get in to hot water for not imparting the learning properly.
  • students on phones, many occasions I had students watching a football match.
  • students on laptops provided by school, but off task, and generally browsing the Internet. Very hard to police because if you walk close to see their screen, they flick back to the work.

Someone said it was bollocks that adult poor behaviour is a follow on of child poor behaviour. Where does it come from then?

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Janiie · 03/01/2024 12:28

God, he needs to get over himself if he can't concentrate because there is a screen visible. How utterly horrid!

Screens are everywhere, as long as they are silent then so what.

Not ideal granted but I'd rather have someone silently on a screen next to me then those who talk non stop or stuff their faces with crisps rattling the bag and slurping.

AlwaysForksAndMarbles · 03/01/2024 12:29

Janiie · 03/01/2024 12:28

God, he needs to get over himself if he can't concentrate because there is a screen visible. How utterly horrid!

Screens are everywhere, as long as they are silent then so what.

Not ideal granted but I'd rather have someone silently on a screen next to me then those who talk non stop or stuff their faces with crisps rattling the bag and slurping.

Please don’t go to the theatre if you think like this.

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