Dumper blocked me it appears after 6.5 months on whatsapp

[wishingyouwell]

Had a difficult breakup with an ex 7 months ago. They broke up by text. I texted back wishing them well. Nothing more via text or no phone calls either way.
Not on any social media with them other than WhatsApp. Appears they blocked me on that a month ago. As I said haven't bothered them at all, no sad whatsapp profile pics / pictires of me etc. They on the other hand had a sad profile pic up about 5 weeks after breakup re: regrets and acting hastily effectively. As it wasn't a direct message and could have been about anyone or about anything I didn't reach out. I saw that as their job if they truly regretted.
You may think why do I care about the effective block if wasn't going to get in touch? I guess as the dumpee who never bothered the person I felt it was unnecessarily hurtful? Perhaps I am being unreasonable and have tried to move on but guess I just wonder why people do these things.
Fragile at moment and realise it may not be about me but just found it a bit shocking? How I know I have been blocked/removed is profile pic has gone/online status

I get your point OP, blocking always feels a bit brutal to me, and as you’ve done nothing to deserve it, I’m not surprised you are upset. The sad profile pic could have been about anything and there was nothing to stop him getting in touch if he wanted to

I would assume he met someone else.

I do the occasional round of blocking and deleting people if we no longer talk or I’ve no interest in keeping in touch. I’d otherwise have hundreds of people in my contacts and don’t want to end up searching my chats for Emily or Mark, selecting and messaging the wrong Emily or Mark, and having to do the awkward “ah, sorry, wrong person” dance (which has happened in the past and can’t have been nice for “Mark” who responded immediately and eagerly assuming the message was for him.)

I can see how it feels like a personal slight towards you in this case, but it’s really just pragmatic admin.

@Psychoticbreak Okay would that be for a sense of fresh start then as there is no interaction for new partner to worry about?

A new relationship was probably the reason. Men are scumbags, I’ve had this as well… prepare yourself for him unblocking you when the new relationship ends

@ComtesseDeSpair Okay fair enough, I get that I suppose it's also as he said if you ever need anything I'm here for you (as a friend) but guess those as just words to cushion the perceived blow

@SouthEastCoast But why the necessity if you aren't messaging? Is it a bid to show off they are moving on?

I thought about blocking back but thought not to give him satisfaction of noticing. That probably makes me more immature though lol

Dumped you, expected you to beg, did a sad face, still got no begging and so resorted to blocking you as a fuck you to hurt your feelings and massage his ego.

Unlikely to be anyone new on the scene or he would want to rub it in your face first if I'm right.

@wishingyouwell I block back so they cant do a sneaky 24 hour unblocking and creeping exercise before blocking you. Take the power away.

Be thankful you're not with him any more.

Delete his number and forget it. Life's too short.

How did you even notice? He surely wasn't near the top of your chats after so long. I wouldn't give it another thought.

Sorry, off topic but how does someone put a post on Whatsapp? I've only seen it used for messaging.

He might not have you blocked though, he might have just deleted your phone number. I have my WhatsApp set to only allowing my contacts to see my profile pic & last seen / online status, so anyone who is not saved in my phone as a contact, won’t see those things. If it’s over between you & you haven’t spoken in 7 months then I can see why he might have deleted your number.

@AhBiscuits yes you are right I shouldn't notice though I did

I think I've blocked somebody to stop me hoping I'd hear from them. But I hadn't dumped them. In that case, I was reluctant dumped

I do wonder if he keeps a line cast for women who relegate themselves, eg, he's said he's not looking for anything serious. But you never lost ground so to speak. You just accepted being dumped. Seeing your number reminds him how willingly you just accepted it was over.
Maybe he wants you to think he has met somebody.
I'm sure I've felt this feeling before. It's strange. You knew it was over but you'releft feeling that they would go back in time and not do it, even though they dumped you, so presumably they weren't hurt but they still "erase" you. It's a weird feeling.

@QueenOfTheLabyrinth yes this is also a possibility

@Ohtobetwentytwo He does unfortunately have a big ego it's just I couldn't understand why he would want begging etc after putting an end to relationship? Just to have ego stroked?!

@ChanelNo19EDT yes that's the weird thing I should be the one to 'erase' him given he has hurt me so I find the notion odd that he would feel need to do this unless he was just doing an admin sweep
Ultimately the way I saw it is if he wanted to reconcile he would have reached out so anything less than that isn't real

@allmyliesaretrue Yes my brain agrees wholeheartedly, he is unkind at his core I think

I made the mistake in the relationship of getting in touch with him after being ghosted as I thought it was my fault. I should never have done that and when this happened I just let it go and never got in touch again.

Thankfully I hadn't been ghosted before so didn't even know what it was. Well I have learnt and have since learnt the correct response to ghosting!

They sound pretty emotionally immature and you're best off out of it.

I'd assume they either have met someone else, are having a "new year, new me" style clear out, or are feeling regrets over your break up and have blocked to avoid seeing your name anymore (out of sight, out of mind). Either way, I'd not be bothered. Sounds like hard work and as you haven't spoken since, pointless to be contacts anyway.