I think I am, actually, but can't put my finger on why I feel cross about this...

[WhenIrishSquonksAreSmiling]

Walking back from nursery, dd2 took a bit of a tumble. No damage done, not even particularly upset about it.

Was walking next to another mum (not together, but sort of with each other iykwim) and she immediately said to dd2 "oh you've scraped your knee - it's not the end of the world"

I was a bit because dd2 wasn't crying.

The thing is, I wouldn't have given dd2 any sympathy, so it's not that she was unsympathetic, I think it's more that it is my job to decide not to be sympathetic, not hers... does that make sense, and AIBU to be a bit pissed off?

yes, she was slightly patronising, but it's not worth being pissed off about it.

agree with Belgo.

YANBU to be a BIT pissed off
but forget it now

She was probably just reacting in automatic mode, she probably just said that without even hinking bacause it's what she says when one of hers falls over.

Don't take it personally.

Does sound a bit patronising, like she thought you were going to make a big deal of it and everybody would be upset.

Don't let it worry you though - it probably just slipped out.

thank you.

I suspected I was being a bit U

oh good god-yabu

really. save your offendedness for something worthwhile

ooh, MMJ (or should that be MMB?) can I tell you to feck off, because you said I WAS BU Isn't that the way it is supposed to go?

AIBU?
YES
FUCK OFF

yes that's the way it goes!

you have the hump about an anecdotal quip?next time have a list of pre-approved quips for us other mums to use

and your JD as MumySquonk (because it is your job after all) - sheesh!

you read way too much into this. i would have said something like "ahh poor we lamb" is that okay?

i think id automatically say oh dear or something.

I wouldn't have minded "oh dear"

It was the fact that she was so dismissive - and dd2 wasn't even making a fuss.

"oh dear" would have been quite natural.

Anyway, I know I am being unreasonable, I have moved on.

Love the namechange TDWP!

i love to be unreasonable.being reasonable is so last year

what about "poor wee lamb" Okay or is that too much???

oh god..i would do this
I'm so unsympathetic to my own that sometimes it do it to other peoples kids without realising

"poor wee lamb" would be ok... but only if said in a Scottish accent.

"poor wee lamb" in a Yorkshire accent implies something totally different

And if she had said what she said in a sympathetic tone (even though the words weren't sympathetic) it wouldn't have bothered me.

Twas the fact that she sounded quite...

well.. nasty

Anyway, I've since moved on again, and I am now being completely unreasonable about the fact that a child has lost the remote control.

I may have to tidy up.

Again.

yabu Squonk. But why?

(queue mysterious music)

because I'm an unreasonable, unseasonable, untreasonable fecker

I'd probably have said 'Oh dear. Up you get then' it that very annoying bright sort of voice. I do it to mine. I would probably have done it to yours without thinking.

Like trout I am horribly unsympathetic.

I think it's OK to BU about child losing remote. Well DH is all the time. It makes him so cross

tat his thread

I would have said what your friend said and not given it a second thought

again, "oh dear, up you get" wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest.

Twas the tone of this woman's voice I think that got to me.

And you can't convey that on a computer.

Oh well... off to beat up children until they confess where they have hidden the remote...