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To take baby to hospital and demand an answer

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notsurewhattodo7 · 02/01/2024 06:44

Hello

Regular user but changed names.

Baby is 7.5 months old and nearly 3 weeks ago, she started coughing, nose running etc. she also cut her 2 bottom teeth around the same time. We started calpol/nurofen, baby Vicks, humidifier, snot suction etc.

Within 3 days her cough was so bad and she was taking less than half of her usual feeds so I took her to GP and they listened to her chest, diagnosed RSV and sent her to paediatrics to be checked over.

Her oxygen levels and temperature were fine at the hospital, they monitored for 6 hours and sent us home with an instruction that if she had dry nappies etc to bring her back up.

A few days later, her chest was vibrating, you could feel it when holding her so DH took her back to GP who started antibiotics as she said the infection had moved lower and was now a chest infection.

5 days of antibiotics, cough went but still wheezy and rattling chest/snotty nose and unhappy.

30th December, called 111 again as she was so unhappy, no calpol or nurofen seemed to help and just a feeling that something isn't right. They sent us back to paeds, they listened to her chest and told us she should never have been given antibiotics and it's still RSV and will improve.

It's now 2nd Jan, still really unhappy and crying/fussy most of the day which is not like her, she's always been such a happy and content baby, snoring, hates being laid flat, sleeping more than usual, chest still sounds like it's rattling and hasn't had a poo in 2 days which isn't like her.

I'm so worried that something is being missed. I hate seeing/hearing her like this. We've got the humidifier running all night, calpol is still being used, she's pale and her eyes have dark rings around them but I feel like if I take her back to GP or hosp or call 111 they are going to think I'm an absolute pest, overprotective first time mum and not listening to them that it's "just RSV".

I'm worried she has pneumonia or something more serious and I can barely sleep at night.

What would you do in this situation?

OP posts:
tolerable · 02/01/2024 17:15

dont know-demand answers will be a good approach
take her back.as many times as you believe she needs seen

Buggeredpelvicfloor2013 · 02/01/2024 17:17

I absolutely don't want to worry you but I do want you to seek further help. My daughter was 18 months and had all of the above, as well as vomiting at night due to the cough. I got turned away from the doctors 4 days running - on the 5th day I took her to A&E as I was desperate and she was diagnosed with bacterial pneumonia. Please trust your gut. You know her better than anyone.

blackpanth · 02/01/2024 17:23

Hope she gets better soon x

Starblind19 · 02/01/2024 17:24

My son also 7 months has been unwell for what seems like half of his life with RSV and bronchiolitis always take him and its viral. He got admitted late october needing an ng tube and oxygen. I feel like I am beginning to look neurotic as I am always at the doctors. What has massively helped us is steroids. He seems so much brighter after them tbh. I don't no when is appropriate to prescribe them but maybe this is what you could push for. He also had an inhaler but didn't do much for his bronchiolitis. There is nothing worse than listening to your child working hard to just breathe and being told it is viral and nothing could be done. Just keep taking her even it is to get her monitored atleast then you have a record of it and it needs to be Investigated. I was also told to lessen his feeds but they did this after weighing him and basing it on how much he needed and a feeding regime so you would need a professional to work this out. Because they are already working hard to breath the heaviness of a feed makes it worse. Also we use a humidifier every night and saline drops. However what confuses me is there is never much of a cold. I think there are just tons of evil respiratory viruses going on atm and it's the poor babies who are getting the worst of it.

HateMyselfToo · 02/01/2024 18:05

Hope you're now home from the GP with some answers and reassurance.

Poppsidoppsi · 02/01/2024 18:06

How did you get on at the docs @notsurewhattodo7 ? X

notsurewhattodo7 · 02/01/2024 20:00

GP sent us back to paediatrics.

DD has had a chest X-ray and has been admitted with pneumonia. Thank god I trusted myself on this one.

OP posts:
SendMeHomeNow · 02/01/2024 20:03

I hope she turns a corner soon OP. Well done for listening to your instinct and advocating for her! I hope you all manage some sleep tonight.

DNLove · 02/01/2024 20:03

notsurewhattodo7 · 02/01/2024 20:00

GP sent us back to paediatrics.

DD has had a chest X-ray and has been admitted with pneumonia. Thank god I trusted myself on this one.

Delighted you trusted your instincts. Mammy always knows!!

DNLove · 02/01/2024 20:04

Also hope she's on the mend soon. Take care

LightSwerve · 02/01/2024 20:07

Oh goodness, so glad you stuck to your guns! Well done, I hope she's better soon with the right treatment.

Omma23 · 02/01/2024 20:08

See, always trust your instincts. Mums know best. Especially at this age when you are with her 24/7. No one knows her like you do.
I’m glad you took her back and got to the bottom of it. Wishing her a speedy recovery now she’s been properly treated and sending you best wishes.

Mischance · 02/01/2024 20:18

My late OH was a GP and he said he always went with the mother's instinct as they are so closely connected with the child.

I am glad that your baby is now in hospital and getting the care she needs.

Haggisfish3 · 02/01/2024 20:23

Well done op. Glad she is being treated now and glad they did an X-ray.

VisiblyNot25 · 02/01/2024 20:24

Well done for trusting your instincts. Hope your little one makes a speedy recovery

Kendodd · 02/01/2024 20:31

notsurewhattodo7 · 02/01/2024 20:00

GP sent us back to paediatrics.

DD has had a chest X-ray and has been admitted with pneumonia. Thank god I trusted myself on this one.

Hope she gets better soon OP and make sure you look after yourself as well and get some sleep.

I was anxious about my baby once, GP couldn't find anything wrong, but I kept coming back saying she wasn't right. I remember the GP saying to me that it's ok to keep coming back, and that if the mother is saying there's something wrong with her baby, and the doctor can't find anything wrong, more often than not, the mother is right. GP said they even get training on this.

Thelaundryfairyhasbeenassassinated · 02/01/2024 20:36

Hope your little one gets better soon 💗

Goodlard · 02/01/2024 20:37

notsurewhattodo7 · 02/01/2024 20:00

GP sent us back to paediatrics.

DD has had a chest X-ray and has been admitted with pneumonia. Thank god I trusted myself on this one.

Well done! Hope she gets better soon Flowers

CrotchetyQuaver · 02/01/2024 20:51

So glad to read your update. Well done! A mother's instinct is an incredible thing!

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 02/01/2024 20:59

So so glad you listened to your instincts, well done!

I hope you see her improve rapidly now she's in hospital Flowers

Cheesehound · 02/01/2024 21:30

Well done OP. You did the right thing. Hope little one is much better soon.

Tilllly · 02/01/2024 21:50

Oh bless her, I hope she's better really soon

💪🏻 mummy!

GoldMoon · 02/01/2024 22:26

Well done for keeping on it . Wishing your dd a quick recovery.

JenniferGreenHat · 02/01/2024 22:38

Well done to you. Hope she feels better soon xx

Mumof2NDers · 02/01/2024 22:39

Pottedpalm · 02/01/2024 07:51

When our DC were small we had a wonderful GP who would say ‘If mum is worried, I’m worried too’. You know your child best, take her back.

When I was concerned that my DS had Tourette’s. I went to see our GP. He suggested it might be epilepsy and to go away and not worry about it!!?
went back the following day and saw another GP and he said something similar..
”It’s only a stupid Dr that ignores a mothers instincts. You know your child best”
He was later diagnosed with Tourette’s!

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