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Strange incident in the woods

335 replies

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 21:07

It’s still playing on my mind and was just really odd.

Today, Dh and I took Dd, 5 and our dog in the woods/fields by our home. All was fine and we were heading back home, I was walking ahead keeping track of our dog and Dh was with Dd (she walks slowly, wants to stop to play/have adventures etc)
I saw a person walking behind Dh who was swaying from side to side and just seemed very odd, I felt a bit strange and started to call to Dd to run to me (as in a game-run as fast as you can/who’s the winner type thing) Dh had also noticed and started to walk more quickly, he then picked her up and started to hurry to me and we got to an open part where there were houses and cars. Dd was getting upset and shouting about why he picked her up etc and we were watching this person in the distance acting so strangely, staggering everywhere and then suddenly running.
A man came up talking on his phone (Russian I think and looking around everywhere) Dh asked him if he was looking for someone, the man didn’t speak English, so Dh started motioning towards the woods where the person had ran ( Dh says it was a woman)
Dh then went with the man to show him where she was and Dh said he saw this man find her
We explained to Dd, without trying to scare her.
As we were walking back we were discussing it and saying why did we try to run away, why didn’t we try to help them.
It was just a really really odd situation, we in these woods almost daily, nothing ever happens.

I keep wondering about this woman and what on earth had happened to her, Dh thinks she may have been drunk because of New year and wandered back and lost her way (the woods are next to the beach)

Would you have done the same thing? My initial feeling was fear and to get dd away

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Blueberry911 · 01/01/2024 22:22

She was fine with him? But she was swaying and out of it? Yeah okay.

littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:24

Kalevala · 01/01/2024 22:21

The child had a mother to keep her at a safe distance. Your husband would have been also protecting your child by waiting for the woman to talk to her.

I find it hard to understand how you couldn't tell that a woman was a woman.

Exactly but op is using ‘them both keeping dd safe’ as justification for leading a man to a vulnerable woman who was staggering about and then ‘suddenly running’ in the woods! 🤷‍♀️

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:24

@Kalevala It was in the woods with trees, we were hurrying, we assumed a man, we weren’t going to wait to see, we were going to get out of there as assumed a man! I wouldn’t have wanted Dh to approach a possibly drugged up/drunk man in the middle of the woods

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littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:25

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:22

@Maireas I didn’t know it was a woman until Dh went to see and told me when he came back, none of us knew

We get that but why the fuck did your DH just leave him on her own with her then!!

StarlightLime · 01/01/2024 22:26

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:24

@Kalevala It was in the woods with trees, we were hurrying, we assumed a man, we weren’t going to wait to see, we were going to get out of there as assumed a man! I wouldn’t have wanted Dh to approach a possibly drugged up/drunk man in the middle of the woods

But he did just that, along with a strange man that he himself dragged into the situation 🤦‍♀️

Maireas · 01/01/2024 22:26

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:22

@Maireas I didn’t know it was a woman until Dh went to see and told me when he came back, none of us knew

Right. So you see that she's a woman, in some sort of trouble, maybe drunk, drugged, or unwell. At that point was it not possible to call for police or paramedics?

UsingChangeofName · 01/01/2024 22:26

I have read your posts, op. You were happy to approach a random man and ask him was he looking for this potential "drugged up lunatic with a knife"...
And then lead him straight to him / her.

It sounds more bizarre with every update.

This

Your dh, who was near to this person swaying and running, couldn't tell it was an old lady, when he glanced over his shoulder ? Hmm

littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:26

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:24

@Kalevala It was in the woods with trees, we were hurrying, we assumed a man, we weren’t going to wait to see, we were going to get out of there as assumed a man! I wouldn’t have wanted Dh to approach a possibly drugged up/drunk man in the middle of the woods

“It was in the woods with trees”

Is this some sort of a wind up? Lol

McMuffins · 01/01/2024 22:26

Come on. You’re just using your DD as an excuse for being total wusses 🤣

(If this thread is even real)

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:27

@littlebopeepp234 Because it seemed very legitimately like an older man looking worried for his wife/partner/relative and was relieved to see her and her him
What else could Dh have done, kept her there and not let her go with her likely husband?

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SparkleyMud · 01/01/2024 22:28

No he could have just asked her is she's OK.

littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:29

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:27

@littlebopeepp234 Because it seemed very legitimately like an older man looking worried for his wife/partner/relative and was relieved to see her and her him
What else could Dh have done, kept her there and not let her go with her likely husband?

But you didn’t know that! The man couldn’t communicate with you as he didn’t speak English and your DH never thought when he lead this man to the woman, to ask her if she was ok or ask if she even knew him????

Maireas · 01/01/2024 22:29

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:27

@littlebopeepp234 Because it seemed very legitimately like an older man looking worried for his wife/partner/relative and was relieved to see her and her him
What else could Dh have done, kept her there and not let her go with her likely husband?

Called the police?
Not communicated with a strange man, not directed him to a vulnerable woman?

Blueberry911 · 01/01/2024 22:29

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:27

@littlebopeepp234 Because it seemed very legitimately like an older man looking worried for his wife/partner/relative and was relieved to see her and her him
What else could Dh have done, kept her there and not let her go with her likely husband?

Called the police at the time as about 40 other people have told you.

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:29

@SparkleyMud He did when he found her/ caught up with her/ knew who she was!

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Pollyannamex · 01/01/2024 22:29

littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:29

But you didn’t know that! The man couldn’t communicate with you as he didn’t speak English and your DH never thought when he lead this man to the woman, to ask her if she was ok or ask if she even knew him????

I think at one point they were talking on the phone but who knows this story is all over the place

littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:30

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:29

@SparkleyMud He did when he found her/ caught up with her/ knew who she was!

Who knew who she was????

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:30

@littlebopeepp234 When Dh could see it was a woman

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littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:31

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:30

@littlebopeepp234 When Dh could see it was a woman

Oh ffs 🤦‍♀️ 🤣

You don’t know how well they knew each other

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:31

Yes we made a mistake not calling the police on the spot, it genuinely didn’t cross our mind, which may sound ridiculous but just didn’t seem that sort of situation at all

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Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:32

@littlebopeepp234 What?

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littlebopeepp234 · 01/01/2024 22:32

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:31

Yes we made a mistake not calling the police on the spot, it genuinely didn’t cross our mind, which may sound ridiculous but just didn’t seem that sort of situation at all

If it all seemed genuine then why are you posting on here saying it was a bizarre situation in the woods?

Maireas · 01/01/2024 22:32

Livelaughlovesigns · 01/01/2024 22:31

Yes we made a mistake not calling the police on the spot, it genuinely didn’t cross our mind, which may sound ridiculous but just didn’t seem that sort of situation at all

But you were terrified!

SparkleyMud · 01/01/2024 22:33

but just didn’t seem that sort of situation at all what did it seem like?

Pollyannamex · 01/01/2024 22:33

Why did you post about it on here then 😂