To be told you have "mum boobs"

[ellie09]

Exactly this.

Partner made this comment when I was getting dressed - "theres the mum boobs"

AIBU to think its a little cheeky?

I dont make any comments about anybodys appearance.

What exactly are "mum boobs" anyway?!

I’d say that’s more than a little cheeky

He wouldn't get to see my mum boobs ever again, nasty prick.

Could it be an appreciation of size? Breastfeeding breasts can look very full?

I'd have commented back on his man boobs.

What a prick

That is some reach...

Is he saying your boobs are saggy or is he stating they look big and round!?

Me and my partner call each others “momma milkers” as I’m pregnant and very flat chested and he’s put on a little winter layer. It makes us both laugh and he keeps saying he can’t wait for the real momma milkers to come in when baby is here 😂

Well, it’d be the last time he’d be seeing them anyway.

I wouldve gestured at his chest and said ‘well I am a Mum, what’s your excuse?’ Seriously though OP negging you like this because he’s annoyed is not ok.

I'd have retorted with 'you're got dad boobs', does he often behave like a 15 year old?

Shitty behaviour from him. He wouldn’t be seeing my boobs for a while.

He’s being openly nasty to you. Don’t put up with that shit OP.

I referred to my own as mum boobs! I've always been quite flat chested a/b cup at best, don't need to wear a bra, BF gave me actual boobs for a change 😁. Different context maybe, I would've asked outright there and then, what do you mean by that?!

Just for context, nope I am not pregnant, I have a 6 year old. I don't have a horrible body - I am around a size 10-12 and gym quite regularly etc but have obvious signs of being a mother - few stretch marks and saggier boobs with a few stretch marks also but even the stretch marks aren't extreme.

Its a bit annoying to have this remark when he recently needed an XL in his shirts, has much deeper obvious stretch marks than myself but I have never made any type of negative comment on his appearance.

But it seems a bit odd to say this to me with malice if he himself has all these flaws? Unless it was because he was pissed from that night and it was a passive aggressive attempt to annoy me.

What a nasty prick he is. There is absolutely no way he doesn't understand how derogatory and sexist that comment is.

I certainly hope you want better for yourself than this arsehole.

He was trying to bring you down a. Peg or too. Knock some confidence .

He’s no good this wilL get worse

It’s not just rude, it’s weird and creepy.

@ellie09 it's not annoying or odd, it's downright rude and disparaging. 😞

Mum boobs mean saggy ones-because they're not still as perky and probably heading slightly south. Personally I'd point out they aren't as perky as his 'moobs' are- but in fairness you're supposed to have them and he isn't.......

It's called negging. What a vile bastard. MUM BOOBS is not a fucking compliment.

It's not 'banter' and he won't get any better. He will chip away at your self esteem, by making shitty little comments like this as the years go by, til you have virtually ZERO confidence in yourself. Then he can keep you down and control you because of your lack of confidence and lack of self esteem.

Some men are just cunts really.

mommas milkers 🤢

Eww!

Could he have been referring to your bra? Do you wear unflattering bras?

It’s a great big nasty bright red flag OP.

What he means is that they aren’t Porn Boobs.
He wants you to conform to his expectations…