I have a 2 and 4 year old who I love more than anything and I really enjoy spending time with them one on one but together I find it awful and totally draining. I just want to hear from other people to find out what’s normal …I don’t know if it’s a problem with me or a problem with them (in terms of behaviour issue or them being unhappy)…or just normal!
From the moment I open my eyes I feel like the whinging begins (4 year old). I want x for breakfast. Ok hang on let me wake up a minute. Scream and tantrum within 2 mins of opening my eyes. Then this happens a million times per day. I never shout at her, I think I’m generally very patient and try to be empathetic and explain things to her etc but lately I feel pushed to my limit and just want to lock myself in a room.
2 year old screams when getting dressed, changing nappy, in car seat etc and I worry will have adhd as she doesn’t sit still for a second all day long. She never seems tired she goes from bouncing around on the bed to passing out in seconds at bedtime…no wind down. She’s actually pretty happy and good natured when not getting dressed eyc but physically exhausting as she doesn’t stop and she’s into everything.
me and husband try to divide and conquer at the weekend and so we get one on one time with each. During this time I find parenting enjoyable and easy with two constantly demanding things from me I feel overwhelmed and like I’m always not doing a good enough job. They do play well together but both act extremely clingy and demanding when I’m around. When husband has them both they don’t act like that just when I’m there. He always says ‘they’ve been fine with me’ as someone starts screaming and tantruming within 5 mins of me entering the room.
i feel like I put so much effort in, fresh air and exercise every day, I play with them all day, I cosleep…and 4 year old just seems miserable and complains all day long.
is this normal? I want to enjoy my time with them..and I do separately I just don’t know why I haven’t adjusted to two by now