To feel uncomfortable around in-laws constant sexual jokes?

[Sarah557]

I know all families are different and it’s very unlikely that your partners family will be similar to your own BUT Aibu to find it weird that his family make constant sexual jokes? This happens at every single get together and there is honestly not 5 minutes go by where a comment or joke isn’t made? They can be just general comments or they can be directed at members of the family. For example, before Christmas his aunty met a man for a coffee date and then all over Christmas there have been jokes made in relation to the aunt and this man. I’m talking really disgusting words, talking about her flaps things like that? Sorry if that offends anyone but I’m just trying to get across the kind of stuff they say. I always feel uncomfortable but then I don’t know if it’s just me being weird as the whole family seems to find these jokes hilarious? I get maybe the odd joke here and there but this is constant and really grim words / stuff they say! I know each to their own and it depends person by person whether you feel comfortable around certain topics but I was just wondering whether this is the norm in a lot of families? My partner is one of 4, 2 girls and 2 boys and they are all the same! The parents, the aunts and uncles and even the grandparents! Thanks

Fred West was like this. I remember reading about it and being struck by it because my own father created a very sexualised environment in our house, constantly touching my mother and making benny hill jokes.

it was awful to be a teenager in and had really impacted me. i felt entangled in it, there was something sub-incestuous about it.

im not prudish and we actually do have some rude family jokes with adult dc - but they’re never about sex, more about innuendo (in YOUR endo) itself if that makes sense.

If this sort of thing is repeated often enough, the thought pattern can become engrained in you, so you start thinking in the same way, like a sort of brain washing. Except for you, it's not funny, at all! Fortunately, I managed to un-learn this pattern after being around 'normal' people for several years...

I don’t think that’s normal at all. What a weird dynamic. I know the occasional person who sees innuendo in everything but not the whole family.