Our family is normally tidy (well we’re messy people but clean often) but last night we hosted a dinner for my mum’s birthday which has meant the house is a state.
This morning sister says her boyfriend is coming over for lunch - cycling over. So she asked me to help her tidy. Sure, no problem. I HATE people in my space if it is a mess (parents were bad with cleaning when my siblings and I were young - very embarrassing ).
The bf decides it’s too miserable to cycle so asks sister to pick him up. Meaning tidying has fallen on my mum and I. I asked my brother to help but got called hysterical. Tbh he stayed up until 2 am getting the dishes done. But equally I could’ve cooked the meal he made with his gf and not trashed the kitchen. I asked him to come help and he kept citing doing the dishes from last night. Not fair as the rule in this house is that the kitchen has to be entirely done before everyone goes up. So he hasn’t done anything spectacular iykwim
Anyway, I’m in my room crying as it seems like this type of work always falls on me. Mum is clueless she’s decided now is the time to take tree down. Dad is disabled. We’re Mediterranean so it’s always a woman’s job more than a man’s. Over it. Fine back in the day if a man went out and provided then women would look after the home. Well I do both. Not fair!
I live it at home (saving up for deposit in London). Siblings are visiting.
No one does/did this for me when my bf came over.