To not wear my boobs to work? (dmx)

[Stressedgiraffe]

I have to go into the office for a week in January. I had a mastectomy 10 years ago and another one last summer. I always wore a prosthesis but as I'm now flat I don't bother. I haven't been into the office since my operation and wfh.
I've been trying on work outfits and I look fine flat but mentioned it to my mum who thought I should wear my fake boobs to make it more comfortable for others. It's made me think.
Aibu to not wear them?

Another vote for wearing whatever makes you most comfortable.
If you’re generally finding you prefer to not wear prosthetics I’d start slowly cultivating a work wardrobe that looks great on a flat chest. You might find different shapes or styles of tops work better than the ones that used to. I bet you could wear all the high necks and ruffled blouses and artfully draped open blazers that look awful on those of us with large chests.

Almost guarantee you will get a few people who don't know ask if you have lost weight, that wil probably be the main irritation. I doubt most will notice, good luck which ever way you decide.

I know I wouldn't bother, I can't even be arsed to put mascara on half the time.

If anyone is paying enough attention to notice, HR is only a call away

Fuck 'others' - your mum is a bit misguided on this one I'm afraid

Wear them if you want to, and, most importantly, feel comfortable wearing them

mentioned it to my mum who thought I should wear my fake boobs to make it more comfortable for others.

Bloody hell!

That is surely the ultimate "woman putting others first"?

I think she meant well. As its blindingly obvious they've gone and only a my small team know what's happened. She was thinking about someone asking. But I don't know anyone who would say anything

I'm sure the men will manage without having the outline of large breasts to look at, despite what your mother seems to think.

I'm the same! I sometimes wear them and sometimes don't. I know what you mean though - there's a very big different between someone who's flat chested and someone who has had a mastectomy. People who are flat chested are likely to be in proportion, whereas I have quite a big tummy so I think I look a bit weird without my boobs on!

Do what's most comfortable and what's make you feel most confident. Noone else should be paying any attention anyway.

It’s 100% not your job to make your body more comfortable to other people. Do whatever is comfortable and preferable to you!

Perhaps she worded it badly then if she was more thinking about you fending of questions?

Most people would sure realise what must have happened & feel for what you must have been through?

People who know what happened will say nothing. People who look at you and can see you’ve gone from having boobs to being flat will say nothing. You might get the odd double take the first day. The odd person who can see something has changed but can’t figure out what exactly might say something like ‘Have you lost weight?’ To which you could reply ´yes’. Or actually I had a masectomy’ depending on how you feel in the moment.

I think people will just be pleased to see you
doubt they would bother

More comfortable for others??? Pardon my French but FUCK THAT! You are the one who has not been comfortable. Do not make yourself endure further discomfort, life is far too short.

I’m in the same position. I virtually never wear my prostheses, but there are times I might feel more comfortable with - and a day spent in the office might be one of them. I work from home, and colleagues don’t know what I’ve been through, and it would be a way of heading off any questions at the pass. But it’s entirely down to you and how comfortable you feel.

You poor thing Another vote for you do whatever you feel like doing.

I've been thinking about this a bit. I think the likelihood is that your mum has been very sad and anxious about the procedures that you've had and maybe the reasons for them, and it's her who wants you to wear the boobs, because if you don't look any different to her then it's easier for her not to think about it.

People will definitely notice but they shouldn’t comment.

Or they may not click what it is and ask if you’ve lost weight etc as a PP said.

I would just wear whatever you feel most comfortable in as everyone else has said.

I promise no one will care (they might just be a bit confused).

Do whatever makes YOU comfortable, not what others think

So what if they ask. If anyone's truly that obtuse just let it rebound on them and bluntly tell them you cut them off. Boom.

There is definitely sometimes an element of embarrassment about it, even disgust, I’m afraid to say, from other people. But times are changing. The flat movement is growing.

Please do whatever you want to do and ignore your mum’s advice. I can’t imagine anyone batting an eyelid, if they even notice at all.

Totally go flat and be comfy. I've had a smx and when I forget my foob no one notices it's more me feeling a bit unbalanced! Xx

“To make it more comfortable for others” grrrrrrr this makes me angry!!!!

It’s about what you feel comfortable wearing not what other people think.

Unless you work as a topless waitress (which I feel you may have mentioned in your OP) I honestly doubt anyone will notice.

@daisypond you are so right, the flat movement is definitely growing. We need more advocating for it though I feel in the UK.