If Xmas was shit gather here and rant

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Went over to in laws, everyone in their house full of flu (prob covid) wrapped in blankets, sleeping, shivering. Mil was cooking but ill and being a martyr and being passive aggressive but didn't accept any help when offered but would be huffing and puffing making it known she's having a hard time. Dinner was a bit crappy and I wish I had just stayed home out the way of it all and made my own dinner.

Went round to my parents today. I'm not drinking as I'm working tomorrow, our baby is now sick thanks to yesterday so I declined booze and asked for a coke. Mum and dad looking at eachother tutting and eye rolling, huffing and puffing as if to say what's the point. This angered me. Dd was bored out her mind and kept asking to go home.

I never learn. Xmas in my own house with dh and the kids with an open door policy, done.
And nobody invited who is contagious! Next year!

This Christmas has been shite;the anniversary of MiL's death is a few days before Christmas anyway but in the week leading up to Christmas my DIL and DS lost their baby at 14 weeks and then my next door neighbour of 20 years committed suicide in his garage.

Haven't been feeling very festive tbh

Then today my cat hasn't been seen since last night which is very unusual for him as he doesn't typically stay out overnight and I don't think I could cope if he's gone too.

Rubbish Christmas here too!
Baby was sick with vomiting bug from 23rd (still is!) so cancelled Christmas Day at in-laws and seeing mine Boxing Day. We didn’t have any food in so our frozen food raid for dinner on as day was chicken and chips. Now we gave the pressure of everyone still wanting to see us and their grandchild as they want to offload the presents… just want a healthy baby first! 🙈

I’m so sorry to people who lost loved ones this year. My Nan died just before Christmas last year, so this isn’t the first one with her gone but it was still a shock at the time, I felt it more this year. She had dementia, but absolutely loved Christmas. Both my children are ND and struggling. My older one is dealing with serious mental health issues and we had to call the crisis team on Christmas Eve. They are NC with their dad; my partner spent most of the day with his kids at their mums house which is fine but I felt sad and lonely. Younger DS didn’t get the presents he wanted and couldn’t reframe his expectations, everyone cried. They have to sit separately at meal times so we were in the same room but not at the table. I thought about Christmas when they were little and happier and felt flat and sad. Boxing Day I went to my parents and walked on eggshells the whole day as my parents and siblings are so high conflict, it’s constantly on the verge of a row. I have some big work commitments next week I don’t feel prepared for, and I feel low and struggling to get up in the morning. And next week also brings the start of a school term and battling to get DS2 into a specialist school. I feel so low and miserable and I just want to run away and hide but i can’t because it’s all on me.

DH and I have spent a large part of today arguing about my “attitude” over Christmas. We’ve just got back from another split Christmas between in laws and my parents, plus extended siblings and their children. I have told him I want to spend next Christmas at home just us and our DD.
I’m sick to death of sleeping at other people’s houses, (or not sleeping in my case) sharing a bathroom with seven adults, doing everything to everyone else’s schedule. My parents made it abundantly clear they wanted us gone after the first day. I read a post on here last night where the OP said she had ASD and was over stimulated at other people’s houses and I know how she feels. I got lovely, thoughtful presents for everyone and got very little in return. I know it’s the thought that counts, but what if there’s zero thought from anyone. Arrrrggghhh

Mine was quite nice until Boxing Day night when I found out dh had lied to me about something significant and now I'm sitting with my heart breaking wondering if we'll even be together this time next year. My parents are here so we are pretending everything is fine. They are getting on my last nerve, picking at everything and I just don't have the wherewithal for it.
I haven't slept and I've got terrible acid reflux to boot.

I live with my dp and my 8 year old dd (not dp's child, I'm divorced from her father). Dp went to his dm's house for Christmas, he's staying for a week and though I thought I was ok with it, I am gradually getting more pissed off that he chose not to spend Christmas with us. We all would have been welcome but wanted to have Christmas at home for dd's sake.. so I can't really say anything, she's not his child, feel like i cant expect him to understand why being in our own home is important to her/me. I'm worrying about next year now, and all the Christmases after that.

@ThursdayPAdams could you not have combined the two. Seems odd to live as a family and yet not spend the holidays Together. Needs compromise on all fronts.

Oh OP, that really does sound shit. What do you think you’ll do next year?

I found this year to be exhausting and unfulfilling. Next year I’d love to pack up and go abroad! Just need to win the lotto first!