To expect DH to not play video games this morning?

[FucksInARow]

He was up with the kids doing presents with us all but now has gone to play video games with random people on the Internet, probably be gone for an hour or so.

Am I unreasonable to this really annoying?

No! Not today of all days! Shitty behaviour!

That’s so pathetic! It’s literally 9:30am

No he should be playing with his kids. I take it he thinks the kids are your responsibility and he is bonus parent?

Make sure you disappear for an hour long luxury bath when n he gets back!

Fucking hell, we've banned the DC from all computers today as there is more than enough to entertain them and it doesn't feel very Christmassy ignoring everyone else and playing on the computer. I would have thought an adult would have more self control.

he shouldnt be doing anything like that till all the food is cooking and nothing else needs doing!

That depends on whether you would feel the same if he were watching a movie or reading a book? If yes then fine. If no then you’re just annoyed that he’s playing games and not the fact that he’s having time to himself. If it’s his hobby then it’s his way of relaxing

Selfish.

Yeah I think a bit more context is needed here. My DS is currently on his X box because he got a new game so if course he's playing it...with a friend though so that's nice.
If your DH has locked himself away and left you to entertain, play, prep food etc with the kids wanting his presence than YANBU but if kids are older and everything is in hand then it's fine for a bit.

I would say if kids are older then why not for a bit

He is playing games, you are on MN talking to random people. What's the difference?

I think it depends what you and the kids are doing?
Or if there are things that need doing.

My DC are doing their own thing and so I’m relaxing on the sofa watching a film and being on MN for a bit.

You are obviously on MN too and so you’re also having some you time, which is absolutely fine.

Eughh why does he think this is ok. This is one reason why I feel very grateful my husband isn’t a gamer!!

Christmas should be family time.

I kinda agree with this point, you're on your phone, he's on a game.

I have to say I’d find a man very unattractive who couldn’t deviate just ONE day to spending time and playing with his kids

It depends on whether you don't like it because he should be looking after the children or helping with chores or if it's because you look down on computer games as an unworthy hobby.

If it's the first, yeah I'd be annoyed. The second, no.

For an hour? If everything is done I don’t see any issue.

ds got a new tv so is currently on his Xbox. I’m watching an episode of greys anatomy with a Buck’s Fizz as everything is cooking or prepped for later.

I've gone for a bath and looking at mumsnet so will allow my dh and hour of his time

My DH and the DC are all playing video games - some together some separately - while I'm reading a book or noodling on here. It's a day to enjoy ourselves surely, not banning the things that we enjoy to stand on ceremony because Christmas. Different if you're religious or hosting a party or something that requires him to be doing something specific, but otherwise why shouldn't he have some fun his way?

He's on his game your on Mumsnet if your going to moan don't be hypocritical about it.

Of course there’s a difference.

Im hiding from ILs on the loo on MN and I can put my phone down in between. Gaming requires full attention away from others for a prolonged period.

Isn’t this a bit ironic!?!

Why is it okay for you to be on MN if it's not okay for him to game?

Selfish bloody bastard.

@Whattodo112222 just on the basis of the OPs scan't details I think that's really unfair. As others and I have said upthread .if the OP is running around holding the fort with toddlers in tow then yes, if, as in my household everyone is happily engaged in their own thing, with plans for together time later, so what?