To think women are usually better-looking than their partners?

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Apologies if this offends anybody.. this is just my opinion, something I've noticed. Maybe it's just that women take better care of their looks in general? I very rarely see men who I'd consider unbelievably good-looking, model-like and so on.
Also, I think men are more attracted to looks whereas women go for assets, so will be less bothered about the male not being as good-looking.

I noticed this hugely when visiting Poland weirdly... so many women looked like models with these god awful thuggish looking blokes. really stood out to me more so than anywhere else I've been.

I think women chose uglier partners because they feel they are less likely to cheat? I wouldn’t really want to date someone who’s more attractive than me and definitely wouldn’t want to date someone who spends more time in the bathroom than me.

Women don't find many men attractive though. Look at OLD. Most women swipe right on a very low percentage of men.

I voted YABU. In general, I find women more attractive than men. However, nowadays I see so many women who are overweight AND stuff their face full of filler and botox that they look frightening.

I don't get it, why spend so much time/money on nails, hair extensions, fake tan, filler, botox etc. But you can't be bothered to go to the gym or diet. PLUS all the fake nails, filler and tan make you look worse.

I'm thinking about women like La*en Good*r, and the girls from Gordie Shore. Really botched. The men they are with look much better - they usually go to the gym, so aren't fat, and they have normal faces. The young ladies I see round the UK towns and cities all seem to emulate this awful look.

Duck lips + double chins 🤢🤢

But the most beautiful women tend to be with rich men?

And rich men tend to be with beautiful women?

So- if a model, who presumably has a lot of choice of men...goes for rich men..then that says we want assets?

I think it's not so much a matter of basic looks, as self-care. Men don' t need to faff so much to look good, even so many don't bother, and I often see scruffs out with gorgeous women. Look at the tv interview of Michelle Mone and husband. He couldn't even be bothered to wear a decent shirt, with all the money he has. He looked quite disgusting.

YANBU.

Only on MN do people balk at the idea of women marrying for assets 😀.

Hypergamy is a real and present thing.

My man is gorgeous. I’m attractive also. Difference is… he wakes up looking amazing. I need a hairbrush, some styling and some blush to look alive

By saying “we”, I assume you are a model? Then you will know that as a model you would attend a lot of social events with are frequented by people in the higher income bracket. People tend to pick spouses from their social circle which is why you would typically see actors and footballers dating models/actors.
I know a fair few wealthy couples through my former boss and none of them are particularly unevenly matched as far as looks. One guy in the friendship group is approaching his 60s. He is single and loaded. The only reason he is single is because he only wants to date a supermodel. They don’t seem to be falling at his feet despite sizeable assets.
Not to mention that quite a few models aren’t all that beautiful once you strip their make up. I met a few in a work setting on their “day off”. They are quite ordinary for the most part.

I think the total opposite. I often see couples where the man is so good looking and the wife very average . I’m talking middle age here, couple be different in young couples.

Sorry no. I'm 55 and see so many couples sub 30 where he is slim. Works out, dresses well (for his age group) and she is fat, joggers and a too small top. Yet her mum is 60 slim, well dressed.
Daughter has slug eyebrows punched in the face lips, dreadful hair. Mum is well made up, subtle, great hair well cut. Good clothes.
As a man who has always had close female friends who looked great I don't understand why the younger ones look so bad

So who decides the line and which side each person is on? The idea in the op makes no sense

Hahaha, I look horrific compared to DP

Botox, filter, lipo, a surrogate for future babies and a boob job might put me level - at a push 😂😂😂

I think women find competence attractive, makes sense from an evolutionary point of view as a man who can’t light a fire or is going to let your kids be eaten by a bear isn’t much use. Assets are just a one modern way to judge competence.

Opposite is looks being a proxy for child bearing potential.

@MrLbz I think some women go for wealthy men so they don't have to work and have nice things/big house etc. Not my personal preference but of course we are all different.

Or they just want the Insta-worthy lifestyle.

The men up north are generally much better looking. Some of my male relatives are gorgeous.

I don't get it, why spend so much time/money on nails, hair extensions, fake tan, filler, botox etc. But you can't be bothered to go to the gym or diet. PLUS all the fake nails, filler and tan make you look worse.

This is why I think British men look better. The women look terrible with all this slap.

We are matched and equally good looking 😬

I am much better looking than my husband.

He’s got fuck all money and no prospects. I honestly don’t know what I was thinking.

I think the main area is we can dye our hair whereas most men do not.

I think generally couples are of equal attractiveness when they meet and then life takes its toll. Unless one is far wealthier than the other, then their partner is usually much more attractive and that goes for rich men and rich women.

Of the locals here there are few good looking of either sex. Realistically less than 1/10. Of our uni friends there was only 1 good looking couple and he lost his hair before 25. It maybe that more intelligent men can be more geeky looking?
I was naturally thin till about 40.

My husband is the only man I've been with who is better looking than me, he's carved out of stone but he has low self esteem and was a late bloomer and thinks I am out of his league so it works out!
I think women just care less about looks so they're more likely to be with someone less attractive, most men don't put much effort into their appearance like women tend to.

You're right and reality bears out your thesis but I'm not surprised the response has largely been women saying they look like ogres but yet their husbands have been chiselled by Michaelangelo himself.